Love: We Want To Live Few Minutes With Each Other

I am still confusing how to start.

My age is 32 and since last 12 or 13 years, I am in love with someone from my family. About 7 years back our families stop seeing each other because of us. At that time we have two options either to hurt our parents and get married or hurt ourselves and stay apart. We both don't want to hurt our parents and decide to stay apart. Two years ago we again met by chance and since then we are in contact and we don't talk on phone we are only send sms to say hello and in four  or five months he pay a visit to my office and we had a cup of tea together. One thing I want to tell here which most of the readers won't believe (I guess) but its true that we never even hug in all those years. Its only hand shake or a kiss on hand. He never tries to take advantage he always respected me by all means that's why I have a deep love for him and decide not to marry. But now our love getting desperate for each other. And since last few months he is asking me to see him alone. I also want to see him at least once, I guess we deserve that once, I want to hug him, touch him, feel him once in my life time and I want to honor his request, I say No to every body for him now I don't want to say No to him but at the same time I am totally blank what Islam says for this. If I see him would it be a sin?

I have nobody around me who could properly advice me on this. Now I am here to seek your advice. My only request is not to advice me to get married. I can't with him and I don't want to with anybody else. In this situation I really wish suicide won't be Haram. Dua karahin Allah mujhey wapis bula le aur ic takleef se nijat de Ameen

ZENDGAI ZENDA DELI KA NAMM HA

It is very good that u did not any sin and i hope u will also not do in future any sin .U must demand everything with Allah.Because everything is Hand in Allah.

And i will only say these words:

ZENDAGI ZENDA DELI KA NAME HA MURDA DIL KIYA KHAK JIYA KERTAY HA.

Fauzia

I wish you all the best,Allah talah se dua mange ho sakta hai wo apki Kismat me ho,lekin Allah chahta ho ke use Duaon se mange...

and both try that,apke parents man jayen unhe razi karne ki koshish karain..

jisay cho lia jaia usay poja nahi kartay

waisay i m suprised k abi tak log aisi mohabatain kartay hain. ap ne ye to bata dia k ap kisi or se shadi nahi karna chatain hain but ye nahi bataia k ap k lover ne kia kia. he is still alone 4 u ye, unho ne shadi ki ye nahi? ap coincidence se dobara mil gay hain laqin itna arsa unho ne b ap ki ghuzara ha ye kisi or k sath?

agar to wo b ap ki thara unmarried rahanay k decision k chukay hain to ap dono apni umar barbad mat karay plz shadi kr lein.jb ap k affair start hoa tha to tab ap unmature thay ap dono mature hain ap ni zaidagi k decision khud le. ap ne apnay parents ko or apnay ap ko bohat time dia ha. ap taqlaeef me rehanay ki bagay final decision le.

or agar wo kisi or k sath ap k bad relation rakh chukay hain to ye shadi kr chukay hain. to ap un ko chor de or aik bar dil se faisla kr lein k ab ap ne un se koi relation nahi rakhani. bas khatam

ap un se kyun illegal relation rakhana chati hain kia ap ki mohabat un se aik din ki sex ki motahag thi ye sirf un ko aik bar privacy me mil lainay se ap ko sakoon a gay ga. bas sirf is aik kam k liay ap ne apni zindigi k itnay kimati sal barbad kr diay hain ?ye to ap dono phelay b kr saktay thay

plz final decision kr lein ye to unko zindagi k sathi bana le ye hamesha k ley chor dey. ye waqti ghuna jo ap kr cha rahi hain is se na to un k dil me ap ki respect rakhay ga na ap k dil ko sukoon de ga. balkay ap ko un se mohabat nahi rahi gi sirf aik ehasas e ghuna he raha gay ga.

or un ko b samgain k wo ab aisa kyun chatay hain jb mard muzboot ho to wo sab kuch hasil kr sakta ha. meri life me b aik aisi stage ai thi me ap jitni mature or experienced nahi ho laqin me ne aik decision lia tha. ye to mohabat ko legal hasil kr ha warna hamesha k liay chor dena ha or me aj tak apnay decision pr stick ho or skoon se ho koi pachtawa nahi ha.

i hope ap samaj gain ji i ll wait 4 ur response.

Future female editory

he is also still single

Faizia

he is also still single

fauzia

agreed to lilly swee

bohat acha reply kia hai unhon ne

fOUZIA

Allah Taullah se dua karien aur apne parents se aik dafa khull kar baat kar k dekh lain phirr jesa woh kahein kar lein aUR -ve na sochain. Khudkushi ka Islam main koi jawaz nahi hai. Agar khudkushi halal hoti tu Allah Taullah hamein zindgi kyon ata kartey aur iss imtihan gah(Dunia) main kyon bhejte. Akher main yehi khoongi k Allah Taullah aur phirr apne parents pr believe karein aur haan mUSLMAN larki ka kisi na mehram larrkay se muhabbat karne ka koi jawaz nahi baNTA.

Interesting Love-Story

One more Advise...

fauzia

agreed to beautystar

apni mother se bat discuss kereyn...aur is k ilawa aise admi se like ur close or best friend or sister or brother, jo ap k bohat kareeb ho, un se ye bat disuss keryen then take a final decision....milney milanay se kam nai chalay ga, is tarhan ap illegal activities mein bi mubtala ho skti hain...

u should take only one decion

ya shadi

ya phir hamesha k liye contact khatam

phir ap ne kia soacha

fouzia ap ne bataia nahi k ap ne kia soacha ha.

ye abi kuch or advice chati hain. if u both r single then try your best to marry him.ye ap k legal right ha. ap k mazahab ,mashara duniya koi b ap k against nahi ho ga.

kia ap dono k parents or families ko ap ki single life pr koi interaz nahi? plz answer.

agar ap dono shadi na karay or sari zindagi single rahay to ap ki families khush hain kia? mera khayal ha wo kabi khush ni ho gay ap k is decision pr

Final Conclusion

I am surprised on replies who advised to get married. What do you think we did not try? Who else can imagine how much we tried and when I say we can’t, what are the reasons and efforts behind.

Deep down in my heart I was not convinced with the idea to see him that’s why I came to this forum. Thanks to all who replied and helped me to fix my mind on the right thing. I have made up my mind that I will wait for him to get married in next life in heaven. I lived all my life without him so I will manage for the rest. And lilly what else I can do for my parents that I don’t see the one I love the most in their respect.

fouzia sister sirf ek baat maanain plz

main sirf aap se ek request karonga k aap meri batayi hoi ek book read karain agar aap karachi main hain to ye book aap ko gulshen chorangi k paas jamia ashraful madaris k paas se mil jaye gi......main aap ko book ka naam bata deta hun....

book name : alamaat-e-mohabat ( arsalan bin akhtar memon )

aap plz ye book zaror parhain inshAllah aap ko zaror kuch na kuch rehnumai aur sukoon milega........inshAllah

ek buzrig ka khowab

aap nikah kr lein

Fauzia

Re: FINAL-CONCLUSION (Fouzia-Sister)