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jee_xx
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Group: Members Joined: 25th Mar, 2012 Topic: 1 Post: 11 Age:
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| Posted on:25th Mar 2012, 1:01pm |
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 marriage for sex
i was confused to write before to which category my problem should fall... married girls problem or unmarried as i am divorcee. my problem is that when i reached at the at age of puberty at 12. i often started to feel strong desire for sex but i was too young for marriage,as i m religious too, i try to suppress it n try to divert my attention but i keep on having sex desire until i completed my higher education n started to wait for proposals but like many other Pakistani girls i could not get suitable match. At times, i felt to have sex with someone without marriage but then fear of Allah dominates me n i refrained. then at the age of 33 i got married but just after 2 months i had breakup as my hubby was not medically fit for marriage so i despite being ,married remained unsatisfied. now i am divorced but i have strong desire for sex. At times i think of suicide to get rid of sexual desires. What should i do. i want to marry but who would marry at this age of 35. i dont want to marry a man with children i just want to marry for sex n dont want to take any other responsibility because i am doing phd n have no time for extra responsibilities. Is it wrong to marry someone for sex to avoid any big sin? guide |
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jasim2
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Group: Members Joined: 13th Mar, 2012 Topic: 4 Post: 5 Age:
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| Posted on:25th Mar 2012, 3:57pm |
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 eo asy way
my dear u wana marry just a single man than go to www.geomarriage.com and register ur self and ur bio detail inshallah u will get single man for marriege and have sex simple
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jee_xx
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Group: Members Joined: 25th Mar, 2012 Topic: 1 Post: 11 Age:
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| Posted on:25th Mar 2012, 7:26pm |
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marriage for sex
But there are too many frauds on matrimonial website. my previous marriage was also from an online website. I dont want to be deceived second time.Its not the solution. What to do???????
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baba007
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Group: Members Joined: 08th Feb, 2012 Topic: 4 Post: 150 Age:
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| Posted on:26th Mar 2012, 1:53am |
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its not wrong gunah sy bachnay k leay shadi kerna ghalat nai , yah to bohat achi bat hy
our kids hona yah na hona , yah na kerna , yah to aik alag bat hy , baz laog shadi kr latay hain, lakin ounka plan yah hota hy k kids nai kernay ,
our agar wife n husband dono apas main khoush honto , its nice n great |
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eccentric
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Group: Members Joined: 09th Mar, 2012 Topic: 0 Post: 131 Age:
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| Posted on:26th Mar 2012, 7:37am |
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marraige for sex
i think if u get a man according to ur need u should married. there is no harm in that. if he is reasonable guy he will understood ur problem and avoid pregnancy for few more years. BUT in the mean time if u do masterbation it will help u not to indulge in Illicit relationship. |
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stranger_1
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Group: Members Joined: 15th Oct, 2009 Topic: 10 Post: 133 Age:
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| Posted on:26th Mar 2012, 9:52am |
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Option
Fulfillment of sexual desires is the number 1 objective in a marriage, so if you are trying to get married to avoid illegal sex then it's great, you must thank ALLAH almighty that ALLAH has given you the awareness and sense!
Are you looking for a single man or willing to get married with an already married person, I mean as a second wife?
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jee_xx
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Group: Members Joined: 25th Mar, 2012 Topic: 1 Post: 11 Age:
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| Posted on:27th Mar 2012, 12:54pm |
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marriage for sex
Alhamdulialh Allah has given me hadayat. Eccentrix@. masturbation do produces severe guilt in me so i just tried twice but afterwards i wept a lot in my salah and did astighfar.
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jee_xx
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Group: Members Joined: 25th Mar, 2012 Topic: 1 Post: 11 Age:
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| Posted on:27th Mar 2012, 1:02pm |
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marriage for sex stranger_1 @ Thanks for the comments. I dont want to marry an already married man. i want a single man/unmarried man as i feel (may be right/wrong) that only a unmarried man can satisfiy me sexually as it would be his first sexual experience. there is no substitue for the first expoerience. He would be full of eager to explore secrets of love making. thats all |
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stranger_1
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Group: Members Joined: 15th Oct, 2009 Topic: 10 Post: 133 Age:
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| Posted on:28th Mar 2012, 2:49am |
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good luck! jee_xx, i am sad to know about your situation, I have been through a similar situation a few years ago when my wife left me, and i had no way to fullfil my sexual desires, it was really hard at that time to control, but I survived through that somehow...
I wish you good luck in finding a good hubby for yourself, meawhile engage yourself in some other activities.... Remember, SEX, MARRIAGE, PARTNER is not everything in life, there is so much other stuff too that we can enjoy.
Do not weep for the things that you do not have, but smile for the things that you have!!
Stay happy, start some kind of job, enjoy movies, listen to songs.... ENJOY LIFE, it;s beautiful, CHILLLLLL
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stranger_1
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Group: Members Joined: 15th Oct, 2009 Topic: 10 Post: 133 Age:
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| Posted on:28th Mar 2012, 5:06am |
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advice By the way it's a friendly advice that you should lower the criteria of your to-be husband.
I wish you will find an un-married man but your age is already 34 and at this age it will be quite difficult to find an unmarried/never married person. In our society its a norm that guys want their wives to be somewhat younger from themselves and averagely guys get married at the age of 25-26 or maximum 30, so there will be a small quantity of people above 30-32 that are unmarried/never married and looking for spouses.
Good luck with your findings!
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jee_xx
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Group: Members Joined: 25th Mar, 2012 Topic: 1 Post: 11 Age:
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| Posted on:28th Mar 2012, 10:44am |
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thanks stranger for advice Stranger you are right in your analysis in the form of advice. But after my trauma of break up i have worked on my strenghtening of emaan. Trust in Allah is a world where nothing is impossible.Now i m living in this world.I believe that Allah har cheez pe qadir ha. A son to hazrat ibrahim n zakriaya in old age, son to holy maryam without husband are examples of "possibilities" from islamic history. I have observed many such exmples from my friends n colleagues. I am hopeful that i might be another exceptional case blessed by my Lord. But at the same time i am not stubborn at what i want. I am and will be razi whatever Allah decide for me..married/unmarried man but sexually powerful and active. |
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stranger_1
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Group: Members Joined: 15th Oct, 2009 Topic: 10 Post: 133 Age:
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| Posted on:28th Mar 2012, 10:27pm |
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@jee_xx inshaALLAH u will get the best!!
May ALLAH strengthen your emaan even more and help you in all jaaez desires.
By the way you told me that you were doin PHd, what have you done before that in education? and what are your subjects in PHd? I am impressed by your educational career!
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jee_xx
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Group: Members Joined: 25th Mar, 2012 Topic: 1 Post: 11 Age:
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| Posted on:29th Mar 2012, 5:31pm |
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stranger I think its my turn now to advise you on the basis of my experiences.Never be impressed by someone 's educational qualifications n higher degrees. U will be disappointed to know that 95% of these so called highly educated are JAHIL. I live around all educated community. My ex hubby was highly educated but a big JAHIL. To me, So things to impress r human values, honesty, simplicity, generosity, God fearing attitude, selflessness good behvior to other fellow beings and many other good virtues and the people who practice it no matter how much educated they are. For me an uneducated is great who possess these qualities n a highly educated is disgusting if devoid of these qualities. Also dont impress by someone who says prayers regularly n do fast n hajj. Dont see who looks MOMIN rather see who is MOMIN in heart. See who practice Islam n fulfills duties towards other human beings no matter he prays or not, fast or not. plz try to digest this idea with open mindedness. I dont mean all namazi do like that but again sorry to say Now people have started to deceive other in the guise of Mazhab as we believe a namazi earlier than a benamzi. My ex hubby was more regular in prayers but in practicing religion and ethically values..he was zero. disgusting |
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stranger_1
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Group: Members Joined: 15th Oct, 2009 Topic: 10 Post: 133 Age:
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| Posted on:30th Mar 2012, 3:01am |
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@jee_xx You are absolutely correct on that...
I am sorry to say that majority of our educational institutions are producing donkeys that know very well how to balance a chemical equation and having good grip on pythagorus therom, however deficient in character and moral values!
"Namaz Buraaiyo sey rokti hai"... so I hope the people who are not paying attention at Haqooq-ul-Ibaad will re-consider their behavior.
What I think is that "Be Yourself" and try adhering to the guidelines of religion, that is it, we are not here to impress anyone else, so we should not pose or guise to impress anyone, WE ARE WHAT WE ARE, and WE SHOULD BE PROUD OF IT...
So, how is life? whats your routine? what your father do?
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jee_xx
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Group: Members Joined: 25th Mar, 2012 Topic: 1 Post: 11 Age:
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| Posted on:30th Mar 2012, 1:16pm |
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stranger Life is good alhamdulilah. studies, gym, tafsser class n tv watching, long walks n thinking too much(bad thing).thats all. father died when i was only 2 years old. wese regarding my question which is still unanswered.. to repharse in other words, my strongest n foremost motive for marriage is sex n other motives comes later. but how can i know that other person is sexually strong/active/romantic or not???? can u suggest?? |
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Silent324
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Group: Members Joined: 30th Mar, 2012 Topic: 0 Post: 2 Age:
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| Posted on:30th Mar 2012, 1:48pm |
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jee_xx hey .. jee_xx i knw a man who MAY help you in this matter..
i want to talk to u in private.. so kindly email me at
[email protected]
this hotmail id is made to solve ur problem.. this is nt my real id.. cz i dnt want to share my real id ..
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Silent324
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Group: Members Joined: 30th Mar, 2012 Topic: 0 Post: 2 Age:
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| Posted on:30th Mar 2012, 1:51pm |
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jee_xx
hey .. jee_xx i knw a man who MAY help you in this matter..
i want to talk to u in private.. so kindly email me at
[email protected]
this hotmail id is made to solve ur problem.. this is nt my real id.. cz i dnt want to share my real id ..
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stranger_1
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Group: Members Joined: 15th Oct, 2009 Topic: 10 Post: 133 Age:
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| Posted on:30th Mar 2012, 10:19pm |
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@jee_xx Yar I will contradict with you in this regard, SEX, though its very important factor but yar yeh aisy cheez nahi hai kay iss ki basis per aap kisi sey bhi shadi ka decision ley lein, I would reckon that moral values and personality of a person matters the most and it should be treated as a primary thing, sexual strength/being romantic can be treated as a secondary thing.
Moral values ka pataa tumhey sirf tab chaley ga jab tum kisi kay sath kuch time guzaaro gi, u will have to interact with someone either over the internet or in-person... iss sey tumhey itna tou pata lag jaey ga kay insan ka ikhlaaq kaisa hai, either hez romantic or not...
Sexual strength is a bit of tricky thing... I know some guys who are nill in the bed, but they really love to talk romantic with girls... so you cant really judge anyone's sexual strength by just talking...
AND I would advise you to come out of this, really, yar sex mil jata hai, not an issue, but if u will keep on searching for guys with just one objective in mind i.e. "sex" then I am afraid that some day some guy can take undue advantage of this thing, and I don't want that to happen to you..
I know you had a bad experience earlier, and I know that your thinking of emphasizing on SEX is due to that unpleasant incident, but that was PAST, come out of it, it's a new day.... You will definitely get a good strong guy..
Remember don't emphasize on sex!
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stranger_1
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Group: Members Joined: 15th Oct, 2009 Topic: 10 Post: 133 Age:
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| Posted on:30th Mar 2012, 10:27pm |
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@jee_xx You know what, as I said earlier, sex is important, but you cant really live with SEX.. Sex is a matter of 30-60 minutes pleasure, and what about after that? After that comes the personality, the love, the affection, the understanding of your partner....
Do you want your partner to have a steaming great 1 hour sex session with you and then he turns himself on the other side on the bed and sleep, in the morning he goes to the office without saying any warms words, in the evening he comes back and again start doing sex without any words of love and affection?
Fair Personality, Love and Understanding are the primary things.
Sex is a secondary thing...
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jee_xx
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Group: Members Joined: 25th Mar, 2012 Topic: 1 Post: 11 Age:
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| Posted on:31st Mar 2012, 8:42am |
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excellent Wow your arguments are really strong. i like it very much. the most appreciative thing is that u have reached to the actual problem due to that negative event in my life.U have made me realize that i am still living in past.i will mail you soon.thank u so much. |
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