aag joshy goodman dekhwo ya nahi hota

sub log dekhwo dekhye namodonomish kerte hai kyon ka log pouchte hai ka dulhan na dress kitni ka pehna hai aur kaha sai liya hai aur jewellery kitni tolye mili hai mere cousin kaye shadi howi thai toa sub asee sai pouchte thai aur kitni suit mili hai salami kitni howi hai aur khana mai kia khaiya tha

hmm

i think in this case all the guests or ppl in the small circle society were probbaly too chichore..or show off..if i would be in the same situation and ppl would ask me these type of question..i would just flip and let them know that this is noone of their business..

but true on the other hand..yeh pki ppl ki typical mentality he..so we cant really blame anyone for being like that

noor123 tainoo khoogi charh gai hay.

Khoogi ki hondi hay ? Mundian noom veekh kay kurian no ishq da nasha charha hoia.

Noor123 aap apni aur dooron key shadi kay liyeah praishan kion hain ? Allah apnay waqt per aap key aur aap key behnoon key shadi zaroor kerwai gaa. Aap apni kisi , chachi, maami, khala, tai ya kisi bhi buzurg khatoon ko aatmaad main lain aur in kay zaria baba ko convince karain kay woh apni bation key shadi karnay key koshish sheroh kar dain. Laikin mera khial hay kay baba aap key aur aap key behan key shadi kay liyeh parayshan zaroon rahtay hongay laikin woh aap ko is baray main parayshani say bachanay kay lieyah kisi koh kuch nahi batatay hain. Pakistani mother aur father sari parashi khud jhail laitay hain aur ghar main doosroon ko khas taur per apnay bachoon ko kisi maslay ka pata nahi chlnay daitay hain.

seriously

mai sare din ghar mai kia kerwo pharna bai nahi hai toa shadi hai ker lon mere dadi toa hum sub kaye shadi kerte kerte duniya sai hai chalye gaye mere baba kisai kaye manye tub na ji seriously woai mujhe galiya kyon dayite hai mujhe acha nahi lagta asee laye abhi mai anhai ka kaam bai kabhi kabhi kerte ho

noor & billi!

noor ap to samajhdar ho par aap apnay maa baap k liye to bachi hi ho, is liye wo bi har maa baap ki tara apni taraf say jo unko sahi lagta hai wo hi kartay hain,, aik larki k liye 300 pocket money thori nai hai, baki tamam zaroorat ki cheezain to waisay hi apko ghar mai mil jati hain, mashaAllah khula khana peena hai, phir kuch log ziada pocket money ko misuse bi karnay lagtay hain jaisy boys cigarette pinay lagtay hain or kuch to nasha karnay lagtay hain. shadi karnay ki baat karna koi buri baat nahi hai or ye baat apnay mu say hi kehna hoti hai or ye baat kehnay k liye kisi dosray ka mu to milay ga nahi lol. jo log aapko acha nai kehtay ap unki baat ko ignore kar dia karo. tension nai lenay ka.

bili pakistan mai kuch cultural traditions hain, jaisay shadi par sab ko kapray dikhaey jatya hain , bohat say log aisa hi kartay hain, dulhan k tamam suit dikhaey jatay hain k kitnay ko konsay konsay milay hain or jootian bi or paranday or pata nai kia kuch, total bi batatay hain k itnay jorey diye ya milay or ye ye gifts milay, karachi ka muje nai pata lekin punjab mai aisay hi hota hai. punjab k log or tara k hain, khulay dil k hotay hain or shadi par bohat kharch kartay hain apni khushi say, ,khula khana peena (aisa karna chahiye ya nai ye aik alag bat hai agar koi karna chahta hai to ham kon hai unko roknay walay?).. karachi mai thora different mahol hai..

josh

pinky!

Vari is Punjab Vogue

In Punjab its name is VARI .We must remove all these vogues and come on the point of smilicity of a marriage.Then these Namado Namash can be reach on the end.

Waiting for the comments.

Thanks

I agreed with goodman

Main samajhti hon ke sadgi se sab kuch karen tu kam se kam amount kharch hota hai even abhi mere bhai ki shaadi hoe hai unhon ne na he larki walon ko zer bar kia or na he khud ghar walon ki koe baat mani ke ye rasam karo wo karo fazol kuch kharch nahi kia or sare intezamat bhi bhut ache hoe or mera ek he bhai hai or us ki shaadi main hum ne sab takreeben kin lekin sadgi se jitna ho saka larki walon ko pareshan nahi hone dia or khud bhi bhut he aram se sab intezamat kia buss is main sab se ziada zarori hota hai ke aap apne kharchon ko control karo fazol kuch nahi karna , or larki ki shaadi main tu kharcha ziada he ata hai is lia bhi amount ko bhut soch samajh kar use karna chaya humara mashra fazol ki sho sha main kharch karta hai wo nahi karna chaya hum or aap log milker he in fazol rasmon ko khatam kar sakte hain.

Assets can sale on the marriage???

As noor posted that his father has some flats and houses.And he will sale these assests on the marriage of her daughters.This is thinking point.Why he will sale this asset ?

Can any body give the suggesstions and comments on this topic.

Thanks

good man

goodman

girl marriage!

Pinky Jee khuwaboon key dunia say wapis aajao.

Is forum main boys and girls , khawateen o hazarat jo kuch kah rahay hain Pakistan main yeh sub kuch ho raha hay.

Ab sawal yeh hay kay is ka ilaj kia hay ? Is ka ilaj un larkoon kay pass hay jin key shadi honi hay. Agar woh apnay maan , baap say kahin kah un ko kuch nahi chaiay to bohat kuch change ho sakta hay.  Shadi ka hungama zaroor hona chahiay magar apni hasiat kay mutabiq. Aisa bhee na ho kah shadi ka ghar mout ka ghar lagay na he aisa ho kah shadi kay bajay mela mehsoos ho.

Agar phalsafa baghara jai to main eh kah sakta hoon kah na ji na shadi sirf sadgi say honi chaiay aur woh log joh apni shadi per bohat sara paisa kharch kar saktay hain un ko woh paisa ghareebon key shadi karwanay kay ley-a khurch karna chah-a laikin yeh sub phalsafa hay. Jo ghariboon key shadi karwa saktay hain woh bhi karwain aur jo apni shadi per kharcha karna afford kar saktay hain woh bhi karain magar aisa na ho kah shadi kay ley-a loan laina parh ja-a.

hmmm

You are right but

not many boys will say that , but someone has to start , we have to start from somewhere, the parents of the boys think that jahaiz is the right and need of a new couple.

The girls cannot say that to the parents that they do not want Jaheez , right ?

The parents of the girl think that if they do not give the girl jaheez she will not be treated well at the susral, right  ?

so where do we start ? Start from the boy who is going be the head of houshold of the new family. If he says that he does not want jaheez then that will be eye opener for all the parents involved. Some parents will enforce their rule but some will agree and in time there will be lots of boys who will learn by example. I agree it will take time  but even if it takes 100 years and this problem gets resolved that will be a big achievement.

ahan

Josh

    Josh:

   App ki aadat hay kay aap baat ka BATANGER banatay hain aur haas toar per dhondh dhondh ker mairi batoun ka.  Aur aap baray maherbaani yah Ameer aur gareeb kay lecture mujay daina band ker dain.  App aur aap jaisay kuch logoun nay ager hood hi yah natija nikal lia hay kay main AMEER hoon tu iss main mairi koi galti yah zimadari nahi hya.  Main nay aaj tak kisi post main nahi kaha hay kay main ameer hoon. Yah aap kay apnay damag ka fatoor hay. USA main bohat say areas aisay hain jahan car kay bagair guzara nahi hota aur aap ager car ko ameeri ki nishani samajtay hain tu main aap ka kia ilaaj ker sakti hoon.  Main nay tu hood apnay aap ko kabhi ameer nahi samja.  MAiray paas tu pakistan main rahnay walay middle claas ki tara koi maid/servant bhi nahi hay.  kitchen say lay ker gher ka her kona aur bathroom tak main hi saaf kerti hoon, koi noker nahi atta yahan.  Iss kay ilawa bhi kia kia kerna hota hay uss kay liay mazeed main iss waqat batanay kay mood main nahi hoon.  Iss liay mujay aindda iss kisam ki batain na kerain tu bahter ho ga.

    Jahan tak shadian attend kernay ka taluq hay main nay her tara ki attend ki hain aur un main say 80% middle class ki hoti hain.  Yah Ilaqa per bhi depend ker sakta hay kay loag kia kertay hain.  Main nay aisa sirf gaoun ki shadi main hi daikha hay kay loag yah cheap herkat kertay hain kay lerki ki sari cheesain khoal khoal ker dikhatay hain.  Jo cheap hay main ussay cheap hi kahoun gi aap ko iss say koi masla hay tu uss ka mairay paas koi ilaj nahi hay.  Yah batmizi aur cheap baat hay kay her kisi ko poori tafseel say batou kay kia mila hay aur kayoun mila hay.  Aur iss ko hatam hona chahyay. 

seriuosly sir

    I am not living in dreams.  If I am living here, does not mean I was born here and do not know anything about what is happening in Pak.  I am not coming from a home where girls are just sitting and watching tv or playing games etc.  I always am aware of the bitter facts about pakistan.  I have written here what I have experienced in my city or in the cities where my relatives live.  

     Now I hope u won't be telling me the difference between classes in Pak.  I am coming from a family where on one side ppl are millionaires and on the other many of them are very very poor so thanks to my mother we have always been very close to all of them and that is how I know the mentality of everyclass.

     I think u have been out of Pak for many many years now so have no idea about the changes which are taknig place there.  When I was a child, about 20 to 25 years ago, yes it was happening, but it has changed alot and that is what I have told here.

hmmm