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shanidear |
Group: Members Joined: 09th Jul, 2008 Topic: 3 Post: 35 Age:
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| Posted on:9th Jul 2008, 4:10am |
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 Is This Just Misunderstanding Between Me And My Fiance?
1st of all salam to all friends,
i have a problem jo k meri life problem ban gai hai.
meri engagment aj se 6 months pehle apni cousin se hoi jo k meri khala kee beti hai. mein to us ko bachpan se pasand karta tha but kabhi us se apne pyar ka izhar nahi kya. yani u can say k yeh yaktarfa pyar tha.
hamari engagment se pehle mere ghar walon ne mere liye kafi rishte daikhe but mein inkar karta raha. mein sirf apni cousin se shadi karna chahta tha but apne father se darta tha bcoz woh shuru se he meri mother k behan bhaion ko like nahi karte the.
is liye main nay apni mother ko bata diya k main khala ke beti se shadi karna chahta hon. mother ne meri sisters ko jo k all married hain bataya or kaha k woh apne abbu ko mana sakti hain. so kafi koshishon k baad my father man gai or rishta lay kar meri khala k ghar gai. mere rishte ka sunte hee khala b bohat khush huin or hamari mangani ho gai.
mangani k dosre din meri mangater yani meri cousin ne mujhe phone kya or bohat ache tareeke se bat kee main ne use pocha k tum khush ho to us ne kaha ke main bohat bohat khush hon. or mujhe bataya ke wo b mujhe bohat like karti hai but kabhi mujhe bola nahi. so hamari phone pe bohat zyada dosti ho gai or pyar or barta gya.
phir 1 din main ne use bahir milne ko kaha to wo agree nahi hui. she is studying in a college. mere bar bar israr pe us ne kaha ke ap meri ammi se bat karen agar wo ijazat dein to mein ap se mil sakti hon so mein ne apni khala se bat kee or mere israr pe wo man gain but jaldi lotne kee hadayat kee.
hamara milne ka time 1 jaga pe fix hua main apni car main udher time se pehle he pohanch gya. kuch dair baad meri cousin udher ayee wo car k peche aa rahi the or main mirror se use daikh raha tha but wo nahi janti the k main use daikh raha hon.
main ne dekha k 1 larka us k raste main aa gaya or wo donon batein karne lage or us larke ne zabardasti us ka hath b pakara or pata nahi un mein kya batein hoin phir wo larka chala gya or meri cousin meri car ko daikh kar aa gai.
jab wo aayi to main bilkul anjan bana raha jaise main ne kuch daikha nahi.
but mera mind ye sara manzer daikh kar ghooom raha tha or gusse se mera bura hal ho raha tha. main ne apni mangater se kaha k mujhe 1 party se kam k silsle mein bohat urgent milna hai so aaj wo wapis chali jai phir kabhi program banayein ge. or mein khud use us k ghar ke kareeb chor aya.
ratkon main ne use fone kya or direct yahi pocha k wo larka kon tha jisne rasta roka. use koi jawab nahi aa raha tha phir kafi dair bad boli k ye larka mere sath academy main parta hai or 1 sal se mujhe tang kr raha hai. main ne use pocha k tum nikab main ghar se ayi ho us larke ko kaise pata chala k ye tum hee ho to wo rone lagi or kaha k mujh pe trust karien k mera us k sath koi relation nahi bus wo mujhe aise hee tang karta hai. phir main ne sawal kya k 1 sal se wo tang kar raha hai tum ne kisi ko bataya kyon nahi?
us ne rote hoe kaha k mein bilkul pak hon or be kasur hon but agar ap ko phir b mujh pe aitmad nahi to ap jo behter samjhen wo karen.
mere last word ye the k agar tumko wo pasand hai to main kisi ko kuch nahi bataon ga or sab kuch apne sar lay kar ye rishta khatam kar don ga.
to us ko bohat bura laga or rote hue Allah kee Qasam kha k kaha k aisi koi bat nahi hai agar main ne aisa kya to wo apne ap ko kuch kar lay gee.
please meri help karen main ne ye bat kisi se share nahi kee sirf yahan pe likh raha hon. mein bohat disturb hon jab b ankhen band karta hon to us larke kee shakal meri ankhon k samne aa janti hai.
mujhe lagta hai ke meri cousin ka us k sath koi affair raha ho ga ya hai
mujhe aj 2 months hue hain main ne apni mangater se bat nahi kee or na us ka fone receive kar raha hon.
meri khala sab jan chuki hain wo 1 din hamare ghar ayein or mujh se boli k jo tum samajh rahe wo aisi koi bat nahi hai agar koi bat hoti to mujhe zaroor ilm hota.
mein bohat disturb ho mera business b day by day loss main ja raha hai. dil karta hai k apne ap ko kuch lar lon pls help me.
pls meri madad keejye mazak na uraye ga
Allah k liye???????????????????
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rajmallik |
Group: Members Joined: 04th Jun, 2008 Topic: 23 Post: 750 Age:
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| Posted on:9th Jul 2008, 4:38am |
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 dont get 10ns
Bhai jaan how are you
acha hm kafi serious prb hai yeh waisay itni bhi ni jitni bana li hai apko apnay pyar per aitmad rakhna chaiya na ka shak karna chaiya jab woh ro rahi hai kasam kah rahi hai to maan jana chaiya apko yeh apna bohat galat kai jo 2months oska fone recv nahi kia apna bohat galt kia hai
mari sala mano ab osko sorry kaho aur sulah kar lo bahi jitni jaldi ho sakay balka osko gift bhi do sath main sorry ka card ka main galat samja sath main apko pata to hai ka yar hamara pakistan main larkay kitna awara hain bohat kaminay larkay bhi hain aur acha bhi hain ki hoga academy ka aur haan apni fiance na is lia kisi ko nahi bataya hoga coz achi shareef larkiya darti hain is lia woh kisi ko nahi bata patin apko trust karna chaiiya i m sure woh jhoot nahi bol rahi hai agar woh kisi sa pyar karti to apsa fone per kabhi bhi bat na karti ba shak kisi dabaou main akar bhi osna mangni kar li hooo lakin woh fone per bat na karti aur pyar karti to woh larka oska hath main na pakarta apki cuz naik hai os per aitmad karo ok gud luck smile
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saim1 |
Group: Members Joined: 23rd May, 2008 Topic: 43 Post: 2164 Age:
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| Posted on:9th Jul 2008, 5:03am |
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arey bhai itni si bat par app appni mangeter sey bat nahi kar rahey haien,itna ziyada shak mat karien.agar app ki magater ka uss larkey key sath koi affair hota to wo app sey mangni bhi na karti,itni si bat ko ley kar app itna bara masla bana rahey haien abhi sey jab key abhi sirif mangni hi howi hey jab shadi ho jaie gi to kiya karien gey app?App trust karna sekhien or appney mind ko open rakh kar sochein. |
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SOFI |
Group: Members Joined: 09th Jun, 2008 Topic: 10 Post: 441 Age:
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| Posted on:9th Jul 2008, 5:04am |
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shani bhai
Janab ya to insane fetrat hai jab koe cheez kese ko pasand aee to woh osko apna na chata hai aur agar os ka haq dar 2 hai to masla ban jata hai aur insan ko ayse cheez pasand nahe ate jo pahla sa istamal shoda hoo ya insan ke fetrat hai 2cheza kabhe nahe badle jasakte aek insan ke fetrat aur dosre insan ke signecher waysa janab ap na acha keya sare tafseel bata de ap ka masla parh kar ya nacheez ap ko ya maswara daga ka agar ap os waqae ko bhol sakta hai jo ap na dakha to ap os larke ko apnaeya agar ap os waqae ko nahe bhol sakta to mat apnaeya agar ap kese zabardaste ya kese ka kahna par ap os larke ko apnaenga to kabhe ap dono ka darmeyan koe ayse baat hojae to ap zaroor woh tana danga aur ap ka ghar walo ko agar is baat ka pata chala to ap ka ghar wala bhe zaror tana danga ya haq hai.
janab ap ya to ISTAQARA kareya masla he hal hojaega waysa ap ke batao sa aysa lagta hai larke sahe kah rahe hai is bara ma Allah he bahtar janta hai aek baat bata do ap ko janab is baat ka faisla ap khod kar sakta hai agar ap apne zendage ma kabhe galat harkat nahe keya to Allah ap ko bhe waysahe shareka hayat daga agar ap apne zendage ma koe galat harkat kara hai to ap ko bhe aysa he shareka hayat melage ya mai nahe Quran kah raha hai aur Quran kahbe galat ho nahe sakta ab faisla ap ka haat ma hai. |
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saim1 |
Group: Members Joined: 23rd May, 2008 Topic: 43 Post: 2164 Age:
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| Posted on:9th Jul 2008, 5:20am |
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sofi bhai app ney istqara ka mashwara bhoot acha diya haey.magar jo app ney tana daney wali bat ki wo samjh say bahir hey ku key marey khyal sey insan ko open minded hona chea or shadi ka rishta trust ka hota hey agar abhi usey trust nahi hey to bad may kiy ho ga.Or ku koi kisi ko tana dey?agar kisi ka koi past hey bhi to kiya howa har kisi key past may kuch na kuch hota hey chaey wo larka ho ya larki.Yeah dekhna chyea key wo insan ab app key sath kitna honest hey.May to yahi kahon gi key itni si bat ka itna bara issue nahi banana chyea.Yeah koi itna bara masal nahi hey key rishta hi khatam kar diya jaiee.Problem har rishtey key beach may ati hey magar uss problem ko solve kiya jata hey na key rishta khtam kar diya jaiee agar phir bhi koi confusion hey to istqara to kar hi saktey haien wo sab sey best hey.Wasey bhi zindagi key fasley jazbat may akar nahi karney cheya balkey bhoot soch samjh kar karney chyea. |
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zeb |
Group: Members Joined: 18th Aug, 2007 Topic: 114 Post: 13610 Age:
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| Posted on:9th Jul 2008, 5:27am |
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shanidear dear bro...
mohat hi fazool si tension ley rakhi hai tum ne
i know k tum us larki se bohat pyar kertey ho tabhi tumhen bohat bura laga aur tum ne us per shak kiya
lekin dear, shadi ka rishta trust ki bina per hota hai...ap ab apni fiancee per trust kerna seekho....tub hi agay ki life bi hansi khushi guzer sako gay
mujhey to sari kahani perh ker yahi lagta hai k apki fiancee bilkul bekasoor aur paak hai...bvhai saaf si bat hai agar wo us ;larkay se pyar kerti hoti ya koi affair hota to wo ap se mangni kion karti...kion apko itni bari bari kamseiyn deti, kion itna roti, kion ap ko itna samjhanay ki koshish keeti...ap ne khud kaha k ap 2 months se us ka fone bi rciv nahi ker rahey...agar ap se wo sacha pyar na kerti to wo apko mananay k liye itne fone kion kerti.....kion itni pareshan ho ker apni mama se ye bat disuss kerti....
agar wo us larkay mein serious hoti to aisa kuch bi na kerti balke jaan boojh ker isi bat ko mohra bana ker ap se rishta khatam ker leti....
i think ab ap samajh gaey hon gay meri baton ko....ab ap us per shak kerna bund kero aur us se jaldi se sula ker lo...usey acha sa gift bi do aur sorry bi kero....aur usey kaho k ab ainda se wo us larkay sa na milay
ho sakey to jitni jaldi ho sakey ap shadi ker lo |
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SOFI |
Group: Members Joined: 09th Jun, 2008 Topic: 10 Post: 441 Age:
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| Posted on:9th Jul 2008, 5:29am |
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aunty tana wale baat mai na kahe hai woh sahe hai keyo ka mara pas bohat sa masla aysa ata hai hanse ate hai aur mai bohat sa masla ma ya bhe son choka hoo ka mard apne bv ko tana data hai ya os ka sasoral wala os ko tana data hai ya bv mard ko tana date hai waysa aunty zarore nahe ka ap jaysa soncha woh bhe aysa he soncha har aek ke sonch alag alag hai tarza zendage alag alag hai zarore nahe ka ap ka saat jo howa on ka saat how ap jaysa sonch te hai woh aysa he soncha har koe apne sonch ka malek hai aur har koe apna elem aur apne tarbeyat ka hesab sa sonch ta hai aur amal karta hai. |
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saim1 |
Group: Members Joined: 23rd May, 2008 Topic: 43 Post: 2164 Age:
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| Posted on:9th Jul 2008, 5:36am |
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sofi bhai app ki bat theak hey key har insan ki soch alag hey magar insan appni soch ko badal sakta hey.May bhi yahi kah rahi hoon key jo log yeah tana dena kartey haien bhoot hi galat kartey haien |
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shanidear |
Group: Members Joined: 09th Jul, 2008 Topic: 3 Post: 35 Age:
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| Posted on:9th Jul 2008, 6:12am |
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thanks for all friends but? thanks friends for good advises but mujhe thori tension hei k engagment k baad main ne us k sath sath jeene marne kee kasamein uthain or ye b kaha k agar tumhen kisi kisam kee problem hai koi b bat hai to mere sath lazmi share karna
or By God mein ne us k sath apni har bat share kee. but us nay itni bari baat mujh se chupai or mere sath aisay aa kar mili jaise kuch hua hee nahi! use lazmi mere sath ye baat share karni chahye thee or batana chahye tha k larka use tang karta hai take main khud koi hal nikalta is problem ka.
is tarah to wo larka future main or kuch b kar sakta hai?????
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zeb |
Group: Members Joined: 18th Aug, 2007 Topic: 114 Post: 13610 Age:
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| Posted on:9th Jul 2008, 6:34am |
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SHANIDEAR is tarah to wo larka future main or kuch b kar sakta hai?????
YAR ap pareshan kion ho rahey ho.....agar ap ko khud per aitamad hi nahi hai k ap future mein apni wife k sath khush raho gay ya nahi aur us larkay ki kia majal ho gi k shadi k bad wo apki biwi ko kuch kahay ya cherey....ap ye kion nai sochtey k ap ki fiancee ap se sincere hai to ap ko pareshan honey ki koi zaroorat nahi hai...agar us ne ye bat ap se chupai hai to is ka matlab ye to nahi hai k wo ap se pyar nai kerti ya ap se shadi nahi kerna chahti ya wo us larkay ko pasnad kerti hai....is ka matlab ye bi to ho skta hai k wo darti ho k ap is bat ka ghalat matlab na ley leyn....anyways jo hua so hua....ap ap ko is maslay ko positiev way mein suljhana hai
her maslay ka hal hota hai....ab ye ap per hai k ap kia decide kertey ho....bus ab yahi solution hain k ya to ap postive decision lo ya negatoive....negative lena hai to ap mangni tor do aur kahin aur shadi ker lo....aur agar positive lena hai to phr sub kuch bhool jao aur us larki ko maff ker do aur hansi khushi us k sath agay liufe berhao...thats it |
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saim1 |
Group: Members Joined: 23rd May, 2008 Topic: 43 Post: 2164 Age:
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| Posted on:9th Jul 2008, 6:39am |
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shanidear us ney shayd app ko is liya hi nahi batya ho ga key wo dar gaiee ho gi key agar wo app ko batiee gi to kahi app galat na sochien |
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saim1 |
Group: Members Joined: 23rd May, 2008 Topic: 43 Post: 2164 Age:
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| Posted on:9th Jul 2008, 6:40am |
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shanidear us ney shayd app ko is liya hi nahi batya ho ga key wo dar gaiee ho gi key agar wo app ko batiee gi to kahi app galat na sochien |
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rajmallik |
Group: Members Joined: 04th Jun, 2008 Topic: 23 Post: 750 Age:
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| Posted on:9th Jul 2008, 8:11am |
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shame on u ap ko lag raha hai ka woh oska waqai he boy friend hai ya tha shame on u
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Szagham |
Group: Members Joined: 23rd Apr, 2008 Topic: 38 Post: 217 Age:
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| Posted on:9th Jul 2008, 8:27am |
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Dear Shani Salam,
Main ne aap ki sari daastan parhi hai aur yaqeen karein k muje be ikhtiyar se ansoo aa gaye.Wo is liye k kabi kabi yehi kuch kisi aur k sath magar differnt condition me ho chuka hota hai.Khair is baat ko chorein.filhal tu aap pareshan hein....Tu dear brother main aap ko yehi kahun ga k aap mangater par eitmaad karein aur us ko apney eitmaad mein lein..us k ghar jayein aur us se kahein k jo kuch hua usey bhool jao aur khud se sorry b bolein.....Brother main aap ko yaqeen se keh sakta hun k aap ki mangetar be kasoor hogi.
aur phir yaad rakhein k jab ap us se itna pyar kartey hein tu yun mat karein.aur sab ALLAH G PAR CHORE KAR us se sorry b karein ta k wo relax ho sakey...Dear brother pyar yun nahin kiya jata .han agar wo us k sath aati ...uski motor bike par atti...tu phir baat kuch aur hoti...ok
Best Of luck ....my all wishes with you.
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shanidear |
Group: Members Joined: 09th Jul, 2008 Topic: 3 Post: 35 Age:
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| Posted on:10th Jul 2008, 4:47am |
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 thanks to all sincere friends problem soved
1st Salam to all respected members and all friends jinhon ney mujhe naik or sincere mashwaray diye
aap sab logon ka bohat bohat shukriya ap sab k kehne pe main nay apni mangetar ko last night fone kiya. mera fon sunte hee wo pehle to 10 minutes tak roti rahi, main us se is doran bohat pyar se bat karta raha or use sorry bola k main nei us pe shak kiya. us ne mujhe bataya k wo larka un ka naighbour hai jo us k raste main jan bojh k ata hai or dor se awazein laga k tang karta hai or us ne ghar main sir is liye nahi bataya k bat kahin barh gai to us ke waja se sab kee badnami ho gee.
bus kal raat ko pata chala k wo mujhe kitna chahti hai us nay ye b kaha k jaldi se mujhe apne ghar lay chalo take main buri nazron se bach sakon & i will try to marry as soon as possible. my problem has solved thanks to all my friends again.
but mujhe 1 sawal pochna hai sab say k hamare young larkay ko kya ho gya hai? jo study ya apne kaam chor kar sirf dosron ko tang karne main or hero ban nay main lage hue hain. dosron kee sisters or mothers ko chairtay hue unhen apni sisters or mothers yad nahi ati???? ager un ko koi isi tarah tang kare to kya wo bardasht karein gay??? bus meri to dua hai k Allah sab ko seedha rasta dikhaye or hamari young generation ko jin mein main b shamil hon positive soch or positive kam karne chahe wo study ho ya business ho ya koi b kam ho karne kee toufeeq day Ameeen!!!
main is forum ka new user hon but main nei dekha k ye 1 bohat hee acha forum hai jahan pe koi b kisi b umer ka apni har problem ka hal dondh sakta hai.
or naik mashware daite rahein Allah apko salamt rakhe or ap logon ke isi tarah help karte rahein
Allah Hafiz
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saim1 |
Group: Members Joined: 23rd May, 2008 Topic: 43 Post: 2164 Age:
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| Posted on:10th Jul 2008, 4:53am |
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shanidear i m so happy that ur problem has solved ,ab app plzzz kabhi bhi shak mat karna even jab app ki sahdi bhi ho jaiee to app plzz hamesha appni wife par trust karna ku key shak 1 aiesse cheez hey jiss sey ghar tabha ho jata hey. |
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shanidear |
Group: Members Joined: 09th Jul, 2008 Topic: 3 Post: 35 Age:
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| Posted on:10th Jul 2008, 5:21am |
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thanks a lot saim arif thank you saim arif thank you very much specially |
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shanidear |
Group: Members Joined: 09th Jul, 2008 Topic: 3 Post: 35 Age:
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| Posted on:10th Jul 2008, 5:22am |
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thanks a lot saim arif thank you saim arif thank you very much specially |
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shanidear |
Group: Members Joined: 09th Jul, 2008 Topic: 3 Post: 35 Age:
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| Posted on:10th Jul 2008, 5:22am |
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thanks a lot saim arif thank you saim arif thank you very much specially |
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zeb |
Group: Members Joined: 18th Aug, 2007 Topic: 114 Post: 13610 Age:
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| Posted on:10th Jul 2008, 6:32am |
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shanidear thanks to Allah k apki problem solve ho gae....mujhey behad khushi ho rhi hai k apki problem solve ho gae hai aur sub ziada khushi mujhey is bat ki hai k ap ne hamarey se apne dil ka haal share kiya aur hum se mashwara manga aur sath hi hamari suggestion per amal bhi kiya....thanks to u.....ap ne bohat hi ziada aqalmandi ka kaam kiya hai apni finacee se dosti ker k....ab agay bi hamesha us per trust kijiye ga aur dono mil k hansi khushi rahiye ga...Allah ap dono ko hamesha khush rakhey...aameen |
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