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Smartmate |
Group: Members Joined: 19th Nov, 2008 Topic: 1 Post: 15 Age:
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| Posted on:19th Nov 2008, 8:01pm |
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 My Fiance Is Not Virgin: I Am Much Confused
i am in love with a girl from usa.we both never married. i am in pak. now our parents are deciding to marry both of us.She is beutiful. loving caring and passionate. what ever i want she has that. she is the one for me. BUT Only Thing She has not is Virginity.(That matter for me alot alot alot) She did WRONG (only 1 time according to her) with her boy friend before she knows me. But this thing Virginity matters for me alot. She is really assahmed for it and ready to pay every thing for it. bcz i talk to her on this issue, she is really assahmed of it. we both love each other. and she beg me not leave her. bcz she cant live without me. and she really loves me.she is very loving caring and passionate. Now i am confused what to do. Is she doing all this stuff bcz no one will accept her.? i belong to a good family background and i am educated too Can i have better girl(virgin) than that? Does a past matters.? what happens to such girls do you know? any boy accepts such girls. ? plz sort out my problem. Some times i think i can have a better than that. then y she?
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zeb |
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| Posted on:20th Nov 2008, 3:23am |
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smartmate yar ap ki problem mein thori confuion hai
pehle ye batao k ap us ki family ko jantay o...wo kese family hai? log kese hain? us k parents aur baki behen bhai ka character kesa hai?
us k bad ye k ap dono k miley huye kitna time hua hai? kitne time se ap dono pyar kertey ho? koi family terms bhi hain ap logon k un se? |
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KNIGHT |
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| Posted on:20th Nov 2008, 11:18pm |
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@ Smart mate If she ashamed on her act then you must also forgive her, because if you will marry with other girl what will be the gurantee for her that she is virgin, i think the plus point of the girl is that she accept her mistake in front of you ,if she cant tell you then after marriage how would you know that is not virgin?
the main thing is that after marry she would not repeat the same thing and you both stay just for one another, because we did many mistakes in our past but we forgive ourselfs and hide it with the people d but if somebody did any mistake we were not ready to give them forgiveness? why? |
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ikram100 |
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| Posted on:20th Nov 2008, 11:44pm |
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smartmate Hello!
In countries like Pakistan, Virginity is a big issue, and I think it's a plus point.
Boys loose their virginity easily, whereas girls don't.
If you love her and she loves you, then you must marry her.
She is ashamed of what she has done. She regrets. So you must also forgive her and forget about her blunders, she made in her past.
If you think, after you are married, you'll still not be able to forgive her. Then DON'T marry her, and avoid from regretting in the future. Instead, marry someone else.
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azzi |
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| Posted on:20th Nov 2008, 11:52pm |
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Smarmate Mere khiyal mein har kisi ko virgin se hi shadi karni chahiye, ab aap ko pata chal gia hai keh woh virgin nahin hai, yeh baat aap ki dil se kabhi nahin jaye gi aor is se kabhi aap k dil mein nafrat paida ho sakti hai. unfortunately most of the girls ko apne boy friend k sath sex karne k baad bas shadi ki fikar hoti hai. halankeh ziada fikar is baat ki honi chahiye keh mera maot k baad kia hoga. Shohar ka to dar hai magar Allah ka koee dar nahin.
kaee gunaho ki taoba se moafi mil jaye gi magar kuch gunahon ka Kaffarah ada karna parta hai. Hazoor Pak k daor mein ek doodh peenay wale bachay ki maan ne Hazoor (S.A.W) k samne etraf kia keh mujh se Zana ka gunah sar zad ho gia hai, agar sirf moafi maangne se jan choot sakti to Hazoor (S.A.W) keh dete keh Allah se Taoba karo, magar Hazoor Pak (S.A.W) ne uski saza tab tak taal di jab tak us ne apne bachay ko 2 saal tak doodh na pila dia. phir usko saza di. magrar us aorat ki azmat dekhen woh bhi apna gunah chupa sakti thi magar woh dunya mein hi saza pa kar Allah ke hazoor paak aor saaf jana chahti thi. magar aaj kal sirf shadi ki fikar hoti hai........
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azzi |
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| Posted on:20th Nov 2008, 12:02pm |
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smartmate ek izzat dar larkay ko sirf izzat dar larki se hi shadi karni chahiye, jis larki ne itna bara gunah karte waqt na apne Maan Baap wafa dari ki na mazhab se aor sab se barh kar na Allah Taala ka khaof aaya. iski kia guarantee hai keh woh aap se wafa kare gi.
sorry to say: aksar cheezon ki agar seal toot jaye to koee company uski gurantee nahi deti.
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ikram100 |
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| Posted on:20th Nov 2008, 2:31pm |
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azzi bhai Mazhabi nazarye sey azzhi Bhai ney bilkul theek kaha hai.
Agar aap isey muasharti tareeqey sey deikhtey hain, tubh bhi ye qabil-e-qabool nahi.
Aap agar samajh sakty ho, k aap shadi kay baad, aap apni wife ki ghaltee ko hamesha k liye bhula saktey ho, to phir hi shaadi karo. Insaan ka dimaagh hi kuch aisa hai kay aisi baatein asaani sey nahee bhoolteen.
But Allah ney khud kaha hai k wo jisey chahey ga bakhsh dey ga. Agar apki gf ko waqai main pachtawa hai, to shayad Allah un ki maghfirat kar dein.
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rajmallik |
Group: Members Joined: 04th Jun, 2008 Topic: 23 Post: 750 Age:
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| Posted on:20th Nov 2008, 2:43pm |
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got marry u must 4giv her n got marry |
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sharmily |
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| Posted on:20th Nov 2008, 3:11pm |
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 Marry her
i think she is regreting now what she did was wrong but u should also keep this in mind that she loves u honestly if not then y she told u that she is not virigin,,, she is honest with u, agar woh yeh na kehty to app ko to pata nahin chalta ki woh virigin nahin hai, agar shadi ki baad intercourse ki baad bleeding na bhi hoti to app yeh samajh betite ki uchal khod ki waja se ya kuch aur.........honi ki wajah se hymen rapture hoa hai...
but i think you should forgive her arre yaar Mafi mangni se Allah pak jisni hum sab ko paida kia hai, jis ki shaan sabse unche hai Woh maaf kardeta hai to hum Bande kiyon nahin karsakti,
Har insaan se ghalti hoti hai, agar woh sharminda hai aur chahti hai ki toba karke apni life kisi sahreef larke ki saat guzare to es mein koi burai nahin hai........ yeh app ki baray hogi agar app on ka saat de kar , use che enviroment mein apni saat rakhi...
Agar koi insan ghalti kar beti to kia hum ose aur bhi ghalti karne de, aur ose hamesha yahi ehsas dealti rahi ki tumhi koi nahin bakhshi ga jo tum ne kia hai os ki saza zindagi baar saho........
Agar app 100% sure hai ki shadi ki baad bhi app ki dil mein on ki liye badgumani hai, to shadi na kare kiyon ki woh bechari to khush nahin reh paige,
woh app se shadi karni ki baad bhi to virigin nahi rahgi to esi on ka kia begar jaiga........ jo hoa ose bhool jai
God Bless U |
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sharmily |
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| Posted on:20th Nov 2008, 3:12pm |
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ek aur point app ne kaha hai mery Fiance agar app ki mangni hoi hai to per kiyon nahin... shadi karo |
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rajmallik |
Group: Members Joined: 04th Jun, 2008 Topic: 23 Post: 750 Age:
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| Posted on:20th Nov 2008, 3:15pm |
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sharmily ho sharmily per batain sab pata hain or khul kar kerti ho sb batain good work sharmly |
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sharmily |
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| Posted on:20th Nov 2008, 3:25pm |
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 Rajamalik
kia matlab hai app ka mein samjhi nahin
plz zara expalin karna bahi |
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saahilbhai |
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| Posted on:21st Nov 2008, 12:17am |
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Good sharmily App ne bauhat acha samjhaya hai good sharmily i totally i agree with you. |
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azzi |
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| Posted on:21st Nov 2008, 12:44am |
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Virgin Hadees Bukhari mein hai keh Hazrat Muhammad (S.A.W) ne Kanvari larki se shadi karne ko tarjeeh di hai.
aage jo aap ke dil chahe.......
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rajmallik |
Group: Members Joined: 04th Jun, 2008 Topic: 23 Post: 750 Age:
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| Posted on:21st Nov 2008, 9:03am |
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sharmily ! my name is raj not raja oki
sharmily waisa he maina to ap ko appreciate kia hai or nick sharmily haina to reply kafi opposite tha is lia aisa kaha otherwis kuch nahi good work sharmily larkiya to ghar sa baher bhi nahi ati to ap na aisa open minded reply kia to kafi acha laga good work |
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| Posted on:21st Nov 2008, 9:35am |
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ok totally agree with sharmilli and azzi.........nice replies |
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Smartmate |
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| Posted on:21st Nov 2008, 3:00pm |
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Not virgin yar NOW v have family terms. and we know each other about 1 year. They look like a good family. but i personally did't visit them nor saw them. |
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Smartmate |
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| Posted on:21st Nov 2008, 3:02pm |
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Brohter and Sisters Thanks for all of you. i am really too mcuh upset becuas of this situation. i discuss this matter with my friend not about me but as Gene |
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Smartmate |
Group: Members Joined: 19th Nov, 2008 Topic: 1 Post: 15 Age:
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| Posted on:21st Nov 2008, 3:18pm |
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 Brohter and Sisters
Thanks for all of you. i am really too mcuh upset becuas of this situation. i discuss this matter with my friend not about me but as General way.
some said if she is tubba taib then forgive her.
some said larki k liye forgive kerna easy hota hey laken boy k liye bhoot musski.
brothers i know her situation in start laken phir me ne appni family ko involve ker dia aur situation is had tak a gyee k ab hummary parents hummari shaadi k baray me sooch rahey hien. aur me shooch raha hon k us ko accept ker loo ya nahey.
theek hey manna k ghalti her inssan se hoti hey. her koi dhood se bath le ker nahey ayata. laken
kia viginity mera HAQ nahey hey kia.?
me kia saari umer is Gift se Mahroom rahoon ga. ?
ya me be viginity ki tallas me gunna keroo.?brothers and sisters app sab loogon ki suggestions me parh raha hon. laken mugey meray sawalat k jawad nahey mill.
k kia
assi larkiyoon ki shaddi ho jayti hey? kia un k husband un se hosh rahtey hien ye jantay hoay b k un ki wife.....
kia app k pass koi example hey assay couples ki jo housh o huram zindgi guzzar rahey hon.
brothers honestly speaking ager is ki jugga meri sister hoti to me to yahi chayhta k us ki acchay se larkey se shaadi ho jayee. app hotey to kia kertay?
baz daffa bhoot gussa ayta hey k in larkiyoo ki shaadi honi hi nahey chahuee use in ko koi kerta hey aur shaadi kisi aur ka sath.
any ways now tell me
KIA WO MUG SE SIRF IS LIYEE ITNA PAYAR TO NAHEY KERTI K US KO KOI AUR LARKA ACCEPET NAHEY KERAY GA. KIA AGER ME USS SE SHADI NA KEROO TO KOI AUR KER LE GA.
me ne app logon ke comments se he decision layna hey. aur me kuch dinoo tak bata don ga k me ne kia decission liya hey. so plz be honest and and you guys tell me app meri gugga hotay to kia kertay. and girls ager app ka bahi is situation me hota to app us ko kia suggest kerti? ye cheez zahan me rakah ker suggestion dien. God Bless all of you. and keep you away from this situation. |
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sharmily |
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| Posted on:21st Nov 2008, 5:42pm |
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complicated situation mein hai app deki app kuch aise batte bata rahe hai jis se mein bhi confuse ho,,,,,,
1* app on se piyar karti hai.
2* app ki parents bhi es shadi se khush hai.
to ab app decide nahin karpa rahe hai, ki app ko os se shadi karni chahye or nahin........
i think ki karni chaheye supose agar os larki ne app ko nahin bataya hota ki woh virigin nahin hai, to app ko to pata nahin chalta,,,, es forum mein Hymen ki baree bohut info milgi app ko and then u will know more about hymen......
yeh jo baat app karahi hai ki kia Virginity mera haq nahin, kia mein virginty ki liye koi gunah karoooooo.............per to app mein aur ap ki gf ki bf mein koi farq nahin rahega matlab ki app kisi aur larki ki saath sex karngi jo virgin ho , app os ki virginty lenge aur per os bechari ki saat bhi aisa hoga jo app apni gf ki saat karehi ho.....jis virgin larki ki saat app sex karngi apni virginity ka haq hasil karne ki liye kabhi app ne socha hai ki os life kaise guzrege........
yeh virginity to koi worldcup hai nahin jo app ki paas zindagi baar rahigi... i think love counts alot that is the important thing........ sab se important app ka piyar hai...
kiyon nahin karega shadi koi aur,,, agar os ne tauba kia hai to hosakta hai osi Allah ek bohut nek aur shareef insan se milaye.....
ab yaha par baat Justice ki bhi aati hai......... example ki taur par agar app ni kisi larki ki saat sex kia hota. to app ki wife app ko har haal mein maaf karti kiyon ki woh aurat hai,, likin mard kabhi es baat ko accept nahin karti ki on gf ne kisi se sex kia hooo.................y not ???
Khuda ne yeh to nahin kaha, ki mard zaat tum das das shadiya karo, gf friend rakhooooo, apni bewi pe zulum karo aur woh bechari,,, serf maaf maaf kare...
jab aurat maaf karsakti hai to mard ko bhi karna chaheye, aur mery khayal se app to educated ho, khodi sochlo, ki kia karna chahye jab app ose ezat ki zindagi dengi to es mein app ki barai hogi......
Larkia to bohut miljaige app ko likin app yeh baat zehn mein raki ki shadi ka matlab serf sex, virginity nahin hai,,,,, shadi os aurat se karne chahye jo app ko bohut piyar karte ho, jo bohut honest ho.... jo app ki har khoshi aur gham mein app saat deti hoo........warna bohut se virgin lakria hai, jis mein virginty to hai, likin ekhlaq aur saleqi naam ki koi cheez nahin hai...........
aur last mein yeh clear kardo agar woh app se es liye piyar karti hai, ki koi aur ose shadi nahin karega to per os ne app ko yeh baat kiyon bata di ki woh virgin nahin hai....woh chupa bhi to sakti thi, likin woh app ko dhoka nahin dena chahti thi es liye os ne app ko woh saree haqiqat bata di jo os ki past life mein thi,,, meri khayal se app ki dil mein on ki liye aur bhi ziyada ezzat honi chahye bajai negative thoughts ki.
i know ur problem is very very very much confuseing may God will help u, shayad yaha par koi aur mujh se bhi ziyada aur faide mand mashwara de app ko
GOD BLESS U |
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