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Esha |
Group: Members Joined: 28th May, 2008 Topic: 6 Post: 16 Age:
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| Posted on:22nd Nov 2008, 11:35pm |
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 I Have Fear Of Marriage
Aoa.im 25 yearz old.mery sath problem ye ha k mjhy shadi se bht dar lagta ha, i m unable 2 understand man ek alag enviornment man ghar se door kaisy raho ge, me ek din bhe kahin nei rah sakti without my famly n home how can i stay? 2nd prob ye ha k my height iz 5.3".jab k mery inlaws me height 4rm 5.5" to 5.8" ha.mjhy realy bht complex hai,im gud luking then them bt they r all very tall
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Esha |
Group: Members Joined: 28th May, 2008 Topic: 6 Post: 16 Age:
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| Posted on:22nd Nov 2008, 11:43pm |
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Continue Aj merh ek nand ne kha k ap ke height 5.1" ha,mjhy bht gusa aia coz im 5.3".ek tu mera pehly shadi ko dil nei krta tha phr us ne aisa kha mera dil kr rha ha shadi na krao.waisy bhe jab me apny inlaws ko dkhti hn mery paseny chot jaty han.realy buri halat ho jati ha,ab meri height itni ha tu me kya kro.realy im v dishearted.plz give me suggestions what i do. |
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KNIGHT |
Group: Joined: 31st Dec, 1969 Topic: 18 Post: 259 Age:
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| Posted on:22nd Nov 2008, 11:51pm |
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@ Esha Shadi 1 mukaddas ar pakeeza bandhan hai, likin zabardasti karnay ko nahe kaha gaya hai, agar app nahe chahti aur apkay ghar walay (parents) apkay faislai say agree hain to app shadi na karain. ya phir kuch saal baad karlain.kahin app mama's baby to nahe hain? :-) agar family say dor nahe reh sakti to phir apka guzara kesay hoga agay chal k, apko sochna chahiyai, family har stage per appkay saath nahe hosakti.
Likin obviously aesa ho nahe sakta ,shadi karni hi parti hai, to koi pareshani ki baat nahe app slowly settle hojayen gi, sab larkiyon ko ye face karna parta hai app alone nahe ho. ok.
Height to buhut achi hai unki, loag aesi height walon k liyai martay hain aur apko pasand nahe, khair ye bhi koi masla nahe, app iski bhi aadi hojayen gi wakt k sath, (amitabh bachan aur uski wife ko hi dekh lijiyai :-)) |
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KNIGHT |
Group: Joined: 31st Dec, 1969 Topic: 18 Post: 259 Age:
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| Posted on:22nd Nov 2008, 11:57pm |
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@ Esha Aj merh ek nand ne kha k ap ke height 5.1" ha,mjhy bht gusa aia coz im 5.3".ek tu mera pehly shadi ko dil nei krta tha phr us ne aisa kha mera dil kr rha ha shadi na krao.waisy bhe jab me apny inlaws ko dkhti hn mery paseny chot jaty han.realy buri halat ho jati ha,ab meri height itni ha tu me kya kro.realy im v dishearted.plz give me suggestions what i do.
nand say bolain k ye ALLAH talah ki taraf say hai, ALLAh na karay agar wo disable bana deta to meri yeh height bhi na hoti....malik nay jo kuch diyah ai uski bari meherbani hai, no nashukra pan please......love yourself
ap apne ander confidence peda karain, paseene uskay hi chottay hain jo confident nahe hota, apki jo height hai aur apkay pas jo kuch bhi hai ALLAH talah na ata kiya hai apka ismain koi ikhtiyaar nahe. app is tarha sochi gi to apko apne upper aetemaad peda hoga, dont think negative
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s4u |
Group: Members Joined: 18th Mar, 2011 Topic: 98 Post: 5378 Age:
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| Posted on:22nd Nov 2008, 12:14pm |
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Esha Deol KNIGHT ne buhot acha reply kia....
wese susral wale kabhi khosh nahi hote.ager borai na bhi ho tab bhi nikal dete hain..kher aap ko disheart hone ki koi zarorat nahi.aap k sath aapka husband khosh rahe bas yahi kafi hai.baqi donya kabhi kisi k lie khosh nahi hoti.asal cheez insan ka akhlaq hai..
her insan me koi na koi khami zaror hoti hai..ager aap me hai to on me bhi ho gi..
aur shadi k bad aap ka dil zaror lag jae ga.apne susral me..ahista ahista sab adjust ho j g.k phir aapko sakoon bhi apne hi ghar mile ga.start me shayad aapko sab kuch ajeeb sa lage...ye to her larki ne hi apne ghar jana hota hai..to aap bas ye doa kia krein k aap k susral wale aap se khosh rahein aur aap on se..
baqi aapko kisi ki koi bat mind kerne ki zarorat nahi hai...aap bhi insan hain aur wo bhi..
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sharmily |
Group: Members Joined: 08th Nov, 2008 Topic: 5 Post: 398 Age:
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| Posted on:22nd Nov 2008, 4:02pm |
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 lol height
omg height par bhi batee karti hai yaar meri height 5.2 hai , no worries although my nand is taller than me but i have never got such comments.....
khair har baat ko dil par na liyeeee app agar osne app ko 5.1 kaha to es mein koi burre baat to nahin hai... serf do cm ki he to baat hai :-) aur app ni nand se kahe ki agar meri height app se kam hai to koi baat nahin mujh mein kai aise baate hai jo app logo mein nahin hai lol aisa mat kehna khamakha jagra kara hojaiga app aur apki nand ki bech just ignor waise bhi agar os mein aqal hoti to woh aisa kuch na kehti so chillllll and forgettttttt........
yeh darni wali baat ek dam sahih hai mein bhi bohut darti ho, mein en to aj tak ek raat bhi ghar se baher nahin guzare aur hamesha kiliye chorni ka sochti ho to bohut hi ajeeb lagta hai but agar husband ka piyar miljai to app sab bhol jaige aur jab bache hongi to app ki alag hi dunia ban jaige per kisi ko bhi miss nahin karogi.....
just chill chill |
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s4u |
Group: Members Joined: 18th Mar, 2011 Topic: 98 Post: 5378 Age:
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| Posted on:22nd Nov 2008, 4:43pm |
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Esha wese bhi choti moti batein to her ghar me hoti hi rehti hain..to in sab batoon ko aik traf se sun ker dosri traf se nikal diya krein..phir aap dekhna k aapki life kitni achi guzerti hai.. |
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myrizvi |
Group: Members Joined: 20th Apr, 2008 Topic: 113 Post: 6672 Age:
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| Posted on:22nd Nov 2008, 10:21pm |
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shadi (*) shadi aik aisaa luDDoo hai, jokhaye woh pach.taaye aur jo nah khaye woh bhi pach.taaye.... jab pachtaanaa hi hai to kiyouN nah khaa kar pachtayaa jaye... kia khayaal hai
(*) shadi ko zindagi ka juwwa bhi kahaa jata hai... aar yaa paar ... lekin jo yeh juwwa nahi khelegaa woh pahlay hi out hojayegaa... lehaza mohtaat hokar wid confidence yeh juwwa zaroor khelaiN... thoRi bahoot pareeshani to hogi but u know k ... no pain, no gain....
(*) shadi say khauf khanay ki asal wajah woh nahi jo aap batlaa rahi hain ... asal khauf woh hai jo aap k laa.sha'oor maiN chupaa baiTha hai... pahlay apnay laa.shaoor k oss khauf ko saamnay layaiN, ossay khud face karaiN, accept karaiN phir ossay discuss karain.... aap apnay gird o pesh ka jaizaah laiN bilkhasoos apnay bachpan k dinouN walay environment kaa... aur yeh khoj lagayaiN k oss ahad maiN aap k ird gird kin larkiyouN ki shadi k bad result niklay thay... phir yeh analyse karaiN k oss bad result ki real reason kia thee.... yeh zaroori nahi k har martaba aur har aik k saath wohi bad result niklay...
(*) tanhaayee say 'khauf' khanay wali laRkiyaaN amooman kaamyaab shadi shudah zindagi guzaarti haiN... shadi say qabal maaN say door nahi rah sakti aur shadi k baad shauhar say..... jo biwiyaaN shauhar par zeyadah say zeyadah dependent hoti haiN, onhaiN shauhar ka zeyadah say zeyadah piyaar /care milta hai youN rishtah mazboot tar hota jataa hai.
(*) apnay aap ko 'kam.tar' samajhnay wali laRkiyaaN bhi susraal maiN zeyadah 'kaamyaab' hoti haiN.... bikhasoos jab 'ehsaasay kamtari ka 'real maiN koi wajood nah ho... aik new environment maiN khud ko 'afzal' aur 'bartar' samajhnay walay kissi aur ko khatir maiN nahi laatay... jabkay khud ko 'kam.tar' samajhnay walay ... dossrouN ko zeyadah ehteraam /respect detay haiN... youN doosray oss say khush rahtay haiN... agar aap apnay inlaws maiN issi tarah behave karti raheeN to aap jald hi susraal maiN apni jagah banaa lengi...
(*) kahtay haiN k bolna agar chaandi hai to chup rahnaa sonaa ... yaani aik chup 100 sukh... yeh formula susraal maiN laRkiyouN k baRaa kaam aasaktaa hai... dulhan susraal maiN 'wahid-outsider' hoti hai. oskay bolnay ki baari bhi sab k bolnay k baad sirf aik baar aati hai (insaaf /mosawaat ki roo say)... kissi issue par jab sab apni apni boli bol chukaiN tab aap apni boli bol sakti haiN aur woh bhi aik baar... behtar hoga k husband ki maarfat... aur agar tab bhi chup raheeN to saray sukh aap k qadmouN maiN hongay...
(*) me ek din bhe kahin nei rah sakti without my famly n home ... abhi tak yeh baat sahi hai... lekin jab aap apnay husband k saath aik raat ... sohaag raat rah lengi to phir saray din aur raat waheN rahnaa acha lagegaa. phir aap maikah bhi husband k saath hi aanaa pasand karengi... aur maikah aatay hi wapsi ki fikar hogi
Dont worry ... khushi khushi parents ki wish k agay sir jhuka kar shadi karaiN aur phir ayandah mijazi khoda k agay sir jhukaa.ay rakhaiN... aik hadees ka mafhoom hai k Allah agar apnay siwa kissi ko sajdah karnay ka hukm detaa to woh biwiyouN ko hukm detaa k woh apnay husbands ko sajdah karay.... shauhar khatoon ko mother jaisay aalaa martabay par faaiz kartaa hai jiskay baad jannat oskay qadmouN talay aajaati hai aur oski sari aulaad saari omar oskay qadmouN talay jhuk kar apni jannat DhoonDti rahti hai... biwi zaray sochay to k...
shauhar nay dilayaa yeh moqaam, Allah Allah
kahaaN maiN, kahaaN yeh moqaam, Allah Allah |
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zeb |
Group: Members Joined: 18th Aug, 2007 Topic: 114 Post: 13610 Age:
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| Posted on:24th Nov 2008, 3:00am |
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esha dekhiye sis pareshan honey ki zaroorat nahi hai
main bht briefly reply ker rha hun
dekheyn ji her larki shadi se pehle thori bht confuse zaroor hoti hai aur unhen dar bhi hota hai aur dukh bhi...dar naye ghar k logon ka, k wahan ekse adjust hun gi..un ka rehen sehen kesa ho ga.,..koi ghalati na ho jae mujh se, husband kesa ho ga...etc etc...is tarhan bht si abten hoti hain zehen mein...lekin si ka matlab ye nahi hai k wo larkiyan shadi nahi kertin ya dar k beth jati hain k mera dil hi nahi ker rha shadi kerney ka...ye bht gha;at bat hai balke ye lack of confidence hai....is tarhan ki baten nahi socha nahoiye balke strong hona chahiye...jo larki aisa sochti hain wo bht ziada sensitive hoti hain aur bat bat per darti hain aur emotional bhi bht hoti hain...is tarhan ki larkiyan apne susral mein bhi der se adjust kert hain aur un ki choti choti si bat ko mind ker jati hain
is ki misal ap khud hain...jese paki nand ne apko apki height k barey mein bat ki to ap ne mind ker liya aur ghussa aa gya...it is wrong...agar unhon ne ap ko aisa kaha tha to ap ko un ko hans k strongly tareekay se pyar se jawab dena chahiye tha k "nai bajiiiiiii/name....aisa nahi hai ap ko aisa lagta hai balke mujhey bhi aisa lagta hai k meri height bht choti hai, but meri height to larkion k hisab se bilkul normal hai, im 5'3"....."
dekhiye ji, apne ap mein confidence layen aur apne ghussay [er conbtrol kerna seekheyn werna future mein apko susral emin bhi abri problems hongi...baki dear shadi to ek din apki honi hi hai...ap chahayn ya na chahyen...is lye behter hai k darna chor deyn aur her bat ko positive way mein socha keryen aur apne liye dua kiya keryen k Allah ap ko khushiyan dey aur himmat dey
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lovely17 |
Group: Members Joined: 16th Apr, 2009 Topic: 2 Post: 4 Age:
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| Posted on:18th Apr 2009, 3:25pm |
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height jahan tk kri smj khti ha bht se log lmbe ho kr b pyare ni hte or kch choti height k log dil ko bha jate ha is lye ap fikar na kro 2 dkho jahan ap ne jana ha wo b apka hi gar ha kch din whan raho g to dil lg jae ga or agr ap khsh ho g to ap k parents b khsh hu ge
wish u best of luck |
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YSRSLM888 |
Group: Members Joined: 23rd Oct, 2009 Topic: 8 Post: 96 Age:
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| Posted on:6th Nov 2009, 11:49pm |
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 lovely
wese is post ko 2007 me submit kia gia tha, i think abi tek os ki shadi ho chuki ho gi
wese 5.3 height , i think it is ok for girls, ormila actres 5.4 |
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king99sonu |
Group: Members Joined: 20th Jul, 2010 Topic: 0 Post: 2 Age:
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| Posted on:28th Jul 2010, 6:30pm |
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4get height -- |
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s4u |
Group: Members Joined: 18th Mar, 2011 Topic: 98 Post: 5378 Age:
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| Posted on:28th Jul 2010, 9:11pm |
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 rE:king99sonu
lagta h k aap yaha per external website ki link paste kerne ki koshish ker r h jo k post n hoa h.
yaha
per external website ka link post kerna allowed nahi h.so aap
yaha pr kisi dosri website ki link post kerne ki koshish na kare. |
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Mr.Mk |
Group: Members Joined: 28th Jun, 2010 Topic: 3 Post: 128 Age:
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| Posted on:29th Jul 2010, 7:55am |
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Assalam o Alaikum King jee iss masslay ko abb rehnay dain, hosakta hai keh ISHA jee shayed 1 bachey ki maa ban chuki hoon.............hahaha |
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