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Group: Members Joined: 18th Oct, 2014 Topic: 1 Post: 13 Age:
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| Posted on:30th Oct 2014, 10:11pm |
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 Meri Saas Mujh Par Zulm Kerti Hai
Assalam o Alaikum wr wb meri shadi ko saal ooper hua hai ...mera aik beta hai uski birth ko 4 months huay hain .....mein aik aise susraal mein rehti hoon jahan saas aik khuda ki terha treat kya jata hai.
meri saas gher ka koi kaam nhi kerti. sab kaam mujhey hi kerna hota hai .....or Alhumdulilah sab kaam kerti hoon lekin wo beja kaam erwati hein ......routine k kamo k sath exytra kamo ki bhermaar kerdeyti hein....poora gher dekhna sab k kaprey press n all tht or us k sath aik aik min sabko jwb deyna bht diff hai ......remote mein cell dalney or ghari mein cell na dalney pe dant khana ... ghater ka pipe lagao gatar ka dhakan fix kero ...aise sab kaam b mujhey kahey jatey hein or na aanay p batein sunana ....... ....
mein is waja se hed derja beemar hogai hoon meri jethani or un k bachi k kaam k liye b mujhey danti hai n kaam zaleel ker k kerwati hai .......or bht shikayatin kerti hein husband se mein kya keroon merey husband bht muhabbat kerney walay hein mgr shikayato pe her choti moti bat p mujhse jhagertey hein ... meri behen se galay kyun nhi mili hath kyun milaya ....tumhein kisi kam se bulatey hein to aik min ruk bachey ko kyun dekhti hoon etc etc ..... or shikayatein aise kertey hein k suni an suni kerti hai mujhse badtameezi kerti hai.
shuru se hi bht maslay rahey bht mushkils e handle hua sab.... husband her choti moti bat pe lertey hein .....aise merey husband achey hein mgr gher k kisi mamlaat mein support nhi .....bilkul norkro ki terha ka sulook hai ...meri sas kahey jis waqt mene jo kaam kaha us waqt ho bs .....sab kuch Allah Allah ker k chal raha tha kabhi acha kabhi bura .....ab mene socha tha k husband se directly bat keroon k ye matter soolve ker k dein werna mein ammi k gher ja rahi hoon ...
mgr mene koi bat na ki ... ....k aik subha sab ko nashta deney or kaprey press etc ker k office bhejney k bad ... me zara deir ko laiti as tabyat theek nhi thi .....to laitney per meri sas ne khasa danta ... to mene kaha k maa aap itna sunatey hoto pareyshani hoti hai mein sab kaam abhi kerloongi unhone merey husband ko call ki k ye mujhse badtameezi kerti hai k aap ne mujhey pareshan kerdiya hai pareshan kerdiya hai to jai ammi k gher ( merey shoher ne kaha k mein aata hoon )... or meri ammi ko call ker k bhi bola k issey ley jao... (or aise calls wo akser kerti hain ... or merey husband b akser meri ammi ko keh deytey hein ...)
merey shoher us waqt office se aai or atay hi mujhey awaz di mene pechey dekha to aik thappar laga di .... or gala dabana shuru kerdiya .....us waqt mein apni ammi k gher agai .... mujhse itni beizzti or ahanat sahi nhi ja rahi ... mein kya karoon mujhey samajh nhi araha .....
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Group: Members Joined: 26th Apr, 2012 Topic: 4 Post: 25 Age:
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| Posted on:31st Oct 2014, 3:06pm |
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ya kaharo her namaz k bad perhay pir dekhay sub kasay tek hota ha. kisi nay sahi kaha ha saas ho tou changi nah tay photo tangi ho :P.khuda app ke madad karay |
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Evocative
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Group: Members Joined: 03rd Sep, 2014 Topic: 0 Post: 205 Age:
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| Posted on:31st Oct 2014, 9:11pm |
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 Politee
us waqt mein apni ammi k gher agai mhtrma betiyan prnts ki zimeh dariyan hoti hain... n agr koi beti ka ghar bus na paein... to bht tnsn hoti hy prnts k liye... ghar ujarna asan hy but sawarnay k liye bht kuch sehna prta.... ALLAH Janay k ap ki saas k aesa bartao krny ki main wajha kiya hy... bcz har baat ki koi na koi wajha zaroor hoti hy... jo k aksr loog strt mein bataty ni hain.... ap ny kaha k ap ki jethani b hy akhir kiya wjha k un sy kaam ni krwati .... Aesay to Islam mein Oraat k Haqooq bht hain as a wife b hamary is mashray mein jo kuch orat k sath ho ra... ye Islami talemat k baraks hy... but ap k liye itna zarur kahein gy... k Mana k Islam mein orat ko saas etc ki Khidmat krna faraz to ni... but Ikhlaqi ya Mashray ki wjha sy kr ly ... ya apna eldrs samjh k ... to IN SHAA ALLAH us ko Ajar b milna... bcz Aaj kal ki oratein un sy to Afzal ni Is Umaat ki un orton sy jo k Ap. S.A.W k zamany ki thein.... hazrat Fatima R.A sy Afzal to ni iagr ap muslim hain tb... raaat sotay waqat Tasbehat e Fatima R.A (33 times Subhan ALLAH , 33 times AL HAMDOLILAH, 34 times ALLAH o Akbar ) parh k apny hand py phook k apni full body py jahan tak hand jae phair liya krein.... Baki Sabar sy kam lain n Jawab ni dena ksi ko b... husband ko b.... chahy ap ka gunaah na b ho tab b ni dena... Chup rehna hy.... bcz jab koi gusay mein ho to ap ki sahi baat b us ko buri lagni.... n ALLAH na kary k us wakat jawab deny sy moamla aur bigar jae.... so plz Chup rehna... Sabar isi ka naam hy k ap ki jab koi ghalti na ho tab agr ap ko koi bura bhala kahy n us waqat ksi ki tazeem etc ki wajha sy ap chup kr jain.... to ALLAH is py ap ko ajar dy ga.... agr ye ALLAH k liye amal krn.... phir jab moamla thanda par jae [hir moka mehal ki munasibat sy Hikmat o baserat munasib moka milty apni be gunahi ka bta dain.... but agar halat saz gaar hoon tab..... wrna chup hi rehna ap ny itny arsay mein apni saas ki adat ko b achi tarhan jaan liya n husbnd n othr ki b policy etc ko b.... now ap us ko dekh k sab plan krein... ap ki hikmat e amali jo ho... who un sab ki nature ko maad e nazar rakhty huway ho.... ALLAH sy dua karein sab ki hidayat k liye ..... ......to b continued...... |
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bushra2012
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Group: Members Joined: 15th Oct, 2013 Topic: 0 Post: 138 Age:
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| Posted on:31st Oct 2014, 11:28pm |
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 Physical violence
Mizaaj na mila aur baat hai aur murder attempt aur baat.
Wo hinduana muashray se tasawwur aya hai ke susral ja rahi ho aur tumhari laash he waheen bahar ay. Kuch susral walay bhi isi mein dilchaspi rakhtay hein ke bahu o matti ka tail chirak kar ya kisi aur tareeqay se jald az jald laash mein tabdeel kar dia jay.
1. Seedha saada iqdaam-e-qatal ka case hai aapke mian par. Aur saas encouragement wali hein. FIR katao jail bhijwao.
Sabar aapko marwa ke choray ga.
2. Larkay ki maan aap hein. Larkay ko saath rakhein. Saas ka kya hai achi umar hogi 2, 4 saal mein khud he mar jaengi. Phir aap hongi aur aapke mian. Aur larka bara hojayga to khud he baap se nimat lega. Loag ye bhool jatay hein ke aulad pe focus karna hai. Kyunke burhapay ka sahara aulad hai. Aur aulad ko maan se kii gai bad-sulooki yaad rehti hai aur wo iska badla zaroor leti hai. |
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Politee
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Group: Members Joined: 18th Oct, 2014 Topic: 1 Post: 13 Age:
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| Posted on:1st Nov 2014, 9:52am |
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mene iska topic " bivi akhir kya karey '"likha tha , aisa kese hua .
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bushra2012
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Group: Members Joined: 15th Oct, 2013 Topic: 0 Post: 138 Age:
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| Posted on:1st Nov 2014, 1:08pm |
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Topic Members ko chahye ke unique title likhein.
"Bivi akhir kya karey" aisa title hai jis se kuch pata nahen chal raha ke asal masla kis mutalliq hai.
Kya shohar se shikayat hai? Kya saas se shikayat hai? Kia nand se shikayat hai? Kya dewar se shikayat hai? Kya koi tibbi (medical) problem hai?
Topic ka title bilkul wazeh hona chahye takeh parhne walon ko pata chalay ke usmein kya hai. Warna loag click nahen kareinge aur aapko jawabat bhi kam he milenge.
Title wazeh na honay ki soorat mein moderator(s) title ko edit karke asal matlab se nazdeek-tar aur tashreehi kar detay hein... Kuch moderators Moderator note likh detay hein ke title tabdeel kar dya gya hai. Kabhi moderator ke paas itna time nahen hota ke wo activity log-book likhtay phirein. Iss soorat mein wo title tabdeel kar detay hein lekin tafseel nahen likhtay.
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Politee
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Group: Members Joined: 18th Oct, 2014 Topic: 1 Post: 13 Age:
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| Posted on:1st Nov 2014, 8:34pm |
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me yahan post nhi ker pa rahi kuch ...
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Politee
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Group: Members Joined: 18th Oct, 2014 Topic: 1 Post: 13 Age:
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| Posted on:2nd Nov 2014, 11:59pm |
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Assalam o alaikum ( yahan kisi ne poocha jithani ka ... meri jithani alag rehti hai...or wo 5 bar apney maikay ja chuki hai .. ab aai hai- or ye poori story hai phir b aap kuch poochna chahein to poochein- shuru ki or takleefein b hain - han merey shohar
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Politee
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Group: Members Joined: 18th Oct, 2014 Topic: 1 Post: 13 Age:
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| Posted on:2nd Nov 2014, 12:00pm |
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will some mod. help .... me title k ilawa post me kuch likhoon to error ata he kuch post nhi houta...plz help
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Politee
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Group: Members Joined: 18th Oct, 2014 Topic: 1 Post: 13 Age:
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| Posted on:2nd Nov 2014, 12:00pm |
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will some mod. help .... me title k ilawa post me kuch likhoon to error ata he kuch post nhi houta...plz help
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sanamjan1
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Group: Members Joined: 16th Sep, 2014 Topic: 3 Post: 79 Age:
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| Posted on:2nd Nov 2014, 2:57pm |
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Smile jab ap par saas sulm dhati hai to ap smile kia kro usko. |
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Politee
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Group: Members Joined: 18th Oct, 2014 Topic: 1 Post: 13 Age:
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| Posted on:2nd Nov 2014, 3:06pm |
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thnx all
Assalam o alaikum ( yahan kisi ne poocha jithani ka ... meri jithani alag rehti hai...or wo 5 bar apney maikay ja chuki hai .. ab aai hai- or ye poori story hai phir b aap kuch poochna chahein to poochein- shuru ki or takleefein b hain - han merey shohar achey they ab kum achey hein ....lekin pehley b shikayatein suntey they udher se mgr react zada nhi tha ... ab react bhttt zada hai )
Kal sath hi mujhe or post kerni thi , nhi ker pai
I'm sorry aap logo ka bht waqt n energy le rhi hun....aap sab logo ka bht shukriya ... .... Aik advice needed hai .... As kal merey husband aai baher ley gai kafi bt hui .... Unho ne apney kisi act p sorry nhi ki lekin ye kaha k meri galti thi .... But baki sab cheezein ulat di k tm kuch kerti hi nhi isliye tmhe bola jata he etc etc ...... hamarey gher mein koi kaam nhi kerta ... saas hi hain sirf or wo kuch nhi kerti everyone knows....phir b ...... Or kaha k meri maa ko kuch b minor sa b na kaho ... Kahein utho to uth jao betho to beth jao .... Din ko rat kahe to rat he .... Koi b kam bolay to jo ker rhi ho usko chor k wo kam shuru kerdo .... Or ab masi nikal deingey tmko kerna he sab ... Or apne ammi abbu ko le k kal ajao ... Tmhe b bht sunaeinge zaleeel karenge tmharey ma baap ko b .... Or tmharey ma bap samne se koi shikayat nhi karey mafi mang k zaberdasti tmhe bithaein or tum maa k pairo mein beth k mafi mangna .. hum mana kareynge k hum ko nahi chahiye ho tum ..me b mana kerunga bht sunaoonga mgr tmhe wuhi chor k chalay jaein .... ( me kamrey me sahi hojaoonga) -or ye b kehtey hein k tum siyasi ho .... or khudhi dukhi hain k tumne merey sath ghalat kya hai ...
Or kaha k 2-4 roz k bd sab kamo ki setting ker lenge .... Namaz ka tym hoga her cheez ka tym houga .... ( mujhey is p aap logo ki advice chahiye thi but mein late hogia )
merey ammi abbu ne mana kya as k phir yehi sab ye doobara kareingey ....
or kal husband ki call aai k itney bajey ana to mene kaha k aap kopi guarantee deytey ho k ayenda aisa nhi hoga ... to kaha k jese tum pe to bht zulm ho raha hai ....aogi apni shadi bachaney aaogi .... mujh p ehsaan nhi kerogi ...mein ab koi call nhi keroonga ...
phir mene aik sms chor diya k aap insaf kero izzat do to kyun nhi aaongi ...aapki b khidmat keroongi aapki ammi ki b ....lekin aise zaleel karengey ye sab karengey aisa kese... jab aapko bivi or bachey ki zimmedari samajh aai aap lay jana .
ab mujhey kuch samajh nhi araha ....
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bushra2012
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Group: Members Joined: 15th Oct, 2013 Topic: 0 Post: 138 Age:
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| Posted on:3rd Nov 2014, 3:16am |
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Izzat Mamla izzat bachanay se ziada jaan bachanay ki taraf ja chuka hai.
Aapke maan baap khud bhi girna nahen chahtay na he aapko takleef mein dekhna chahtay hein. Ye achi baat hai. Warna wo maan baap bhi hotay hein jo kehtay hein ke saas matti ka tail chirak ke aag bhi laga de to jal jana magar wapas na aana.
Husband ka kaam hota hai ke wo kesay apnay rishton mein balance rakhay. Unko nahen aata. Agar wo apni maan ko najaiz tarjeeh de rahay hein to theek hai baghair sex kye reh lein. Balkeh agar maan biwi pe preferable hai to phir sex bhi unhi ke saath karlein. Shadi bhi unhi se kar li hoti. Bacha bhi unhi se paida karlia hota.
Beherhal aap khud faisla kar lein ke deeni nazar se shadi bachana ziada bara farz hai ya jaan bachana? |
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Group: Members Joined: 18th Oct, 2014 Topic: 1 Post: 13 Age:
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| Posted on:4th Nov 2014, 1:29pm |
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sis thnx for reply Assalam Alaikum sis ....
sis mein bht confused hoon ... aisa nhi k hamarey beech muhabbat nhi ... hai .... pata nhi ye sab kya hogaya ..... mein ye shadi khatam to nhi kerna chahti mujhey but advice chaiye ...... kya mene ye ghalat to nhi kya .... or kis terha se samjhana chahiye ... filhal to hamaray beech koi baat nhi .... na mene ki na inhone ... inki call aik aai thi is k bad ... mom ne bat ki k ye aapne acha nahi kya aapko hath uthana nhi chhaiye ... aap guarantee deytey ho to bhejoongi werna aise nahi ..... to dhamkian di k bht bura b ho sakta hai .... bs phir itni hi bat hui .....
kya mein khud se koi act na keroon or rehney doon aise hi ... ya khud bat keroon k ye kese bat ker rahey hein .... or hath jab aap ne uthaya to is k bad nadamat honi chahiye na k ye sab .... ulti batein or ilzamaat ...... ya na bat keroon ....
meri halat bht hi ajeeb horahi hai ......plzz help. i would b very thnkful to u ..... |
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bushra2012
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Group: Members Joined: 15th Oct, 2013 Topic: 0 Post: 138 Age:
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| Posted on:4th Nov 2014, 3:43pm |
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Irada Irada ye lagta hai ke unka irada aapko qatal karnay ka hai. Warna "mazeed kuch bura" se unki kia muraad hai?
Koi wa'day promise faida nahen deinge. Jis aadmi ko rishton mein insaaf na karna aata ho uska ghar barbaad he hota hai.
Aur kuch mard aisay he hotay hein. Kuch biwi ke chakkar mein itnay pagal ho jatay hein ke yaad he nahen rehta ke bachpan mein kis ne pakhanay dhulaay hein. Kuch amman ke chakkar mein itnay paagal ho jatay hein ke yaad he nahen rehta ke aik aurat apnay maan baap ko chor kar aapka ghar basanay ai hui hai. Awwal to saas bahu mein koi maslay masail honay he nahen chahyen. Lekin agar kisi aik ya donon afraad ki wajah se maslay ho rahay hon to bech ke aadmi mein itna dam hona chahye ke wo maamla behtar banay. Iqdam-e-qatal karnay na baith jay.
Agar aaj aapka muamla ban bhi jayga to aagay kuch na kuch garbar saas ki lagai bujhai ki wajah se laazmi hogi he.
Mera mashwara to ye hai ke aap khud approach na karein. Kyunke ye sirf ana (ego) ka masa nahen zindagi ko khatray mein daalnay (potentially life threatening danger) ka masla hai. Han bachay ka khyal karein wo usko school waghera se aghwa bhi karwa saktay hein.
Khamoshi se baith kar intezaar karein ke saas apnay aap apni umar poori kar ke mar jaen. Uskay baad aapke shohar khud aapke paas ajaen ge kyunke weak personality ko koi na koi guideline denay walay ki zaroorat hoti hai. Larka bhi bara ho chuka hoga. Har tarah se badla lenay ka moqa bhi hoga. Aisay mard amman ke marnay ke baad biwi ke ghulaam ho jatay hein (jisko adal aur miana-rawi nahen aati wo intaha-pasand kehlata hai). Ghar ka pocha tak khud laga ke daftar jatay hein.
Iss amal mein 5-20 saal bhi lag saktay hein - kyunke saas ki maut kab likhi hai ye to khuda ko he malum hai.
Jithani se competition: Jithani se muqabla na karein. Aapka masla jithani se hasad ka nahen balkeh apni jaan bachanay ka hai. |
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Group: Members Joined: 18th Oct, 2014 Topic: 1 Post: 13 Age:
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| Posted on:5th Nov 2014, 9:33am |
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... Assalam Alaikum
sis qatal kerney tak ka to nahi ...." is se zada bura " se matlab " chor deney" se hai ...
waqai jin merdon ko insaf nahi kerna ata un k gher berbaad hi hotey hein ... kyun hote hein aise merd .... kya un mein koi apni soch ya samajh nahi hoti .....
mera bacha abhi sirf 5 months ka hai .....thnx for da advice k mein khud se approach na keroon ..... Allah karey k unko apni ghalti ka ehsas ho ..... maein ehsaas honey nhi deyti werna to hojai ..... kya kabhi aisa hota hai k katil katal ker k kahey k maktool mera sazawaar hai us ney mujh p zulm kya hai ...... bas Allah behter karey ...Asani wala mamla fermai Aameen. |
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