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tajammuls |
Group: Members Joined: 20th Nov, 2012 Topic: 1 Post: 1 Age:
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| Posted on:20th Nov 2012, 6:36am |
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 How Can I Talk With My Wife Before Rukhsati?
Assalaam alaikum, i finished my niakaah alhamdulillah just 7 months back. i work here in dubai..inshallah ruksati will be with in 5 months..but my wife always showing not interested in me..even though its 7mnths happen i cannot tell "love u" to her. i gave her new cell still she is talking with other people not to me. and her mother is always supporting her.. if i shout on her..she will switch off the cell for 1month..and now her mother saying u can talk with her after ruksati. i want to talk her, love her, respect her. once marriage happen and i am sure i will not marry again in my life. what i will do.till now i didn't tell anybody in my family, becoz if they now they will break my r'ship i know, i cannot work properly in my office, i am surrounded with lots of problems just becoz of her nature...plz plz plz suggest me what i do..i will wait for ruksati..if i wait its look like i am "sweetboy" they are doing what they like,till now i am just feeling pain becoz of them...plz suggest me what i do..shall i inform my family... but the chances of breaking is 99.9% plz suggest me i am ur brother...i cannot sleep from so many days..they are ignoring me like i am there servent... i will wait for anybody reply plz suggest me right...becoz i am going to do after reading ur comments...
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feelings1 |
Group: Members Joined: 13th Nov, 2012 Topic: 1 Post: 31 Age:
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| Posted on:20th Nov 2012, 8:33am |
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Tajamul First and farmost you shouldn't be dipressed. Second if they cannot keep you happy before ruksati how can you expect they will keep you happy after that especially your wife. If nikkah is done you have full right on her. It seems they want to break this nikkah.
Be like a man, talk to your wife and ask her what does she want actually, and check if she is having any other relationship.
Usually girls ignore only when they are having affair. And don't be scared about break up. As they say there are lots of fish in the sea, so don't worry. |
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Danish93 |
Group: Members Joined: 10th Nov, 2012 Topic: 5 Post: 56 Age:
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| Posted on:20th Nov 2012, 11:41pm |
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:( ap ek kam kro 5 months ka wait nhy kro abhe ruksate krwalo.
agr nt posible to pata krne ki kshesh kro esa behave ks waja se ..
she like someone else?
big question and you have to find an answer..
koi czn wghera to hga na Pakistan me i thnk u have to check her once. |
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alirajput |
Group: Members Joined: 16th Mar, 2012 Topic: 5 Post: 538 Age:
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| Posted on:20th Nov 2012, 3:19pm |
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Marriage is a very caring and Special Bond
Inn mamlaat maiN bohot jaldi toh hoti he, lekiN agar utna hi waqt ap loog sabar ko bhi denge toh shaadi ka BOND aur bhi stronger hon sakta he.
Please na aap ap ni family se kuch ulat patang share kare, as it will always go agaiNst your wife in your favor, aur na aap unki family, wife's family ke rules ke agaiNst jaye, till your wife according to nikah, is living with her family, they have rules in place for the other girls in their home, or cousins, or etc.. Issliye, please be mature and dont ever think of breaking your nikah, or doing things wrong like this. Dont be sad, inshallah everything will go smooth. Trust in Allah, and remember that her family is also your family so wait for 5months or 6months, ruksati hon jaaye then she is only yours, and no one elses! Okay, so SABAR is the key here.
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My Reply |
Group: Members Joined: 19th Sep, 2010 Topic: 2 Post: 2047 Age:
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| Posted on:20th Nov 2012, 10:58pm |
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rukhsati se qabal baat cheet culturally bohot se gharon mein rukhsati se qabal milna julna aur baat
cheet pasand nahi ki jaati. lehaza baat cheet per bohot ziadah insist na
karain, behtar yahi hai keh jald rukhsati kara le
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Bluestar91 |
Group: Members Joined: 21st Nov, 2012 Topic: 1 Post: 11 Age:
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| Posted on:21st Nov 2012, 4:41pm |
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Ap Sabr karen Sabr k lie islie kahungi k main ek larki hun or meri engagement k bad main apne fiance ko ziada pasand nahi karti hun. Main reason tha k main shadi nahi karna chahti thi itni jaldi or nikkah se 1 haftey pehle b bht upset the lekin mustaqil istakhara karti rahi. Or ab Mashallah nikkah k bad haal ye hai k rukhsati k lie tarap tarap k intezar karahi hun. unka har ek ghantay main jab tak mesg nahi ajata sukon nahi milta.
Ap ALLAH pak se dua karen or sabr karen. Sometimes aisa hota hai k larki k kuch samajh nahi ata ya wo larkey ki kisi baat se iritate hojati hai. Another reason ye bhi hota hai k ghar main se koi ghalat baten feed karta hai uske bhi asrat hotay hain..Lekin jab ek larki ko shadi k bad sacha pyar milta haina to wo bht badal jati hai. Or physical attachment se bhi mohabbat bht barh jati hai.aisa he mere sath bhi hua hai.
Lekin ALLAH pak sub behtar karedeta hai specially agar insan sacha hoto. |
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lkool |
Group: Members Joined: 23rd Nov, 2012 Topic: 1 Post: 3 Age:
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| Posted on:23rd Nov 2012, 4:09pm |
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hmm apni ammi say ya sis say kahain k us ko bolain k wo bat karay ya kiya masla hay bta dain....may b she is very shy,,,,, |
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Innocent lover |
Group: Members Joined: 08th Nov, 2012 Topic: 3 Post: 10 Age:
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| Posted on:28th Nov 2012, 3:29pm |
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 Girl is a buss
Bhai je ap dafa maro girl ak buss ke tara ha ak gai dosri aa gai mery sath b howa tha dobara moh nhi lagya male ko female ka pechy nhi jana chyea bcz har cheez male ka name sa pechani jati ha kud ko pechano lant bejo asi larki pa jo itni chaht ka bad thumri na ho saki kis ke ho ge i hate girls ....har chez humesha male sa pechani jati ha na ka female sa jasy e.g shar not sharni kutta not kuttyia male ke apni pachan ha ma nhi samja asa male male ha jo ak orat ka pechy pershan ho dafa karo or bari yah buss ke tara ha ak gai dori aa gai ab mery pass liney lagi howe ha kis kis ko tym do yah pershani hoti ha buss |
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Alert Eyes |
Group: Members Joined: 28th Nov, 2012 Topic: 0 Post: 3 Age:
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| Posted on:28th Nov 2012, 5:16pm |
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Devil's most favorite thing break a nikkah this is all normal what you share , this is not a problem even you should wait till ruksati and its better as wellEven I am Engaged but never ever talk to my fiancé never He try to talk to me and it doesn't mean that I am not interested or him and what I think this is better for our married life cause as much as you talk before you will find faults but after nikah and ruksati you will accept that relation completely and Allah's mercy be on you so don't be so worried about InshaAllah things will going good you are so passionate you shouldn't be .. relax and give them time pray to Allah and live happy life take care |
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