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Mrs wkax |
Group: Members Joined: 26th Apr, 2012 Topic: 2 Post: 7 Age:
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| Posted on:26th Apr 2012, 10:56am |
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 Plz help me
Asslam o Alaikum.
Mjhy serious mashwary ki zrorat ha. Meri kahani thori lambi ha. Plz read all then answr me. Meri or meri behn ki mangni 8 sal pehly khala k ghr hue thi tb main 18 sal ki thi. Bt wqt guzrny k sth mjhy pta chala k meri or mery fiance ki undrstandng bilqul b nae ho pa rae. Bht koshish ki bt phr b nae ho pae. Main us k bary main kch b bura bhala nae bolna chahti. Main bht preshan thi bcz mery nazdik mutual undrstanding, care, bht important han zindagi guzarny k lye wo typical jutt type ka bnda tha. M from jutt family. Mangni k 4 sal bad tk b main set nae thi tbi main kisi sy mili or laga k finally i found sum 1 jo mjhy samajhta ha. He wanted to marry me. Bt mjhy pta tha meri family kbi b nae manay gi kion k wo jutt family sy nae ha. Us ny apny ek teachr sy pocha k agr hm is dunia main na mil saky to kia agli dunia main Allah hamain milaye ga? Teacher ny kaha k nae there r sum rules to b followed, jiski bivi usi ko mily gi. Tb us ny mjhy kaha k wo hr haal main mjh sy shadi krna chahta ha. Wo 5 wqt ki namaz parhta ha Alhamdulliah nd mjhy b parhny ki adat dali. Mery ghr main meri shadi ki tyarian shuru ho gaen. Mainy har trha manany ki koshish ki bt koe nae mana. Akhir tang aa kr majboor ho kr mjhy chup k nikkah krna para. Nikah k bad main apny husband k sath nae rahi balqy apny ghar agae or tb sy apny ghar hi hn apni maa k ghr. Ab 3 sal ho chuky han nikah ho. Mjhy divorce k lye majbur kia jata ha. Mjh sy mery behn bhai bat nae krty. Behnoi qatal ki dhamki deta ha. Bt main talaq nae lena chahti or rukhsati b ghar walon k hathon chahti hn tbi 3 sal sy maa k ghar main hn. Mery husband ki family maan chuki ha. Bt meri family k mard un sy mil k bat b nae krna chahty. They say k bethi raho ghar sari life ya talaq lo. Nae to maar dain gy dono ko. Pkz tel me main kia kron ab. Mery husband bht achy han. Naik insan han. Main un k sath hi rehna chahti hn.
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Mrs wkax |
Group: Members Joined: 26th Apr, 2012 Topic: 2 Post: 7 Age:
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| Posted on:26th Apr 2012, 11:08pm |
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Forget to tell Sorry i forget to tell k meri behn ki shadi usi ghr main kher o afiyat sy ho gae wo Alhamdulillah wo bht khush b ha. Or mery ex fiance ki b shadi ho chuki ha ab nd 1 beti b ha uski. Allah usy khush rkhy hamesha. Ameen |
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mairak |
Group: Members Joined: 05th Dec, 2011 Topic: 15 Post: 1352 Age:
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| Posted on:26th Apr 2012, 11:58pm |
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Depends Agar tou aapki family ziyada strong hai aur husband ki week tou masla ghambeer hai. warna agar koyee easy tareeqa hai to wo yehi hai ke ap ko aur aapkay husband ko legal help leni chahye.
Maar dena itna assan nahee hota. Aapkay husband ney kabhi ye nahee kaha k bhaee tum aa jao meray sath me tumko sambhal lounga.
Dusra her khandan me koyee aik Ghunda family zrur hoti hai. Jo ird gird sab k muamlat me mada kerti hai. Tou aapkay husband k khandan me koi nahee hai kya essa? jo help karey .Aur koi agar utar charhao ho tou aap dono ko panah dey.
Bethay rehnay se 3 aur saal guzar gaye tou?
Aap Surah Nooh 21 din parhain iss irraday se k jo zalim ho uski haar ho. Nateeja khud ba khudi samnay aa jayega. fikar mat karein.
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Mrs wkax |
Group: Members Joined: 26th Apr, 2012 Topic: 2 Post: 7 Age:
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| Posted on:26th Apr 2012, 12:35pm |
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@mairak Thx bro for ur advice. Main 21 din Insha Allah zaror Surah Nooh parhon gi. Mery husbnd ki family b bht strong ha wo to aa k bat krna chahty han .tareeqy sy shadi krna chahty han. Meri ami or behnain b almost maan chuki han k thk ha hm tmhain bhej dety han bt phr hm tm sy koe rishta nae rakhain gy. Bt mera bara behnoi nae manta wo kehta ha meri gherat ijazat nae deti agr tm logon ny isy rukhsat ki wahan ya is ny hud koe qadam uthaya ya wahan sy koe yahan bat krny aya to main tm logon ki beti ko tmhary ghr bhej don ga ya talaq dy don ga. Us ny ana ka masla bnaya hua ha. Main nae chahti k zbrdasti kch b ho ya meri waja sy kisi ka ya meri behn ka ghr khrab ho. Main sahi or ghalat main phas chuki hn. Inki gherat sahi ha ya mera faisla sahi ha. Mery mutabiq mainy ghalat nae kia. Nikah k bad mera apny hubby sy koe merital relation nae ha. Main un k sth e rehna chahti hn is dunia main bhi or agly jahan main bhi. Koe mojza ho jye k mera behnoi hud maan jaye or sb achy sy ho jye. Ameen |
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oldboy34 |
Group: Members Joined: 10th Sep, 2011 Topic: 0 Post: 64 Age:
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| Posted on:27th Apr 2012, 12:10am |
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hello h r u sisiter? ap ki problm hai to serous lakin ap ko thora sa pahly sochna chaye tha jb nikah kia tha, q keh hamari society main is tarah ky kam karna ho to bht mushklat hoti hain, lakin ab Allah sy dua mangain Allah khair krayga. Wasy kia ap ki family main koi aisa nai jo ap ky behnoi ko smja sky, koi family ka buzurg jis ko ap mana skain ar phr wo ap ky behnoi ko smjaye? thnx |
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Mrs wkax |
Group: Members Joined: 26th Apr, 2012 Topic: 2 Post: 7 Age:
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| Posted on:27th Apr 2012, 4:28am |
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@old boy34 Thx for ur advice bro. Mainy nikah ka qadam intehai majbori main uthaya nahi to meri zabrdasti shadi kr di jati jo k Islam main b mana ha. Mery behnoi kisi ki nae suntay. Allah ki zat hi bus koe mojza kq skti ha. Mainy ye post ki kion k mjhy kch log kehty han k tm ny bht ghalat kia. Family ki parwa nae ki. Tmhain sakht gunah ho ga parents ki marzi k bina nikah kia. Bt main kehti hn k family ki parwa na hoti to main yahan apni maa k ghar nae apny husband k pas hoti abi. Or parents ka etraz b jaiz nae tha. Mery husband main koe burai nae ha. Namaz parhty han. Koe ghalat kam nae krty. Bus wo jutt nae han . Or cast ki pabandi to Islam main b nae ha. to esy main mery parents ka etraz jaiz nae ha. Mery husband Araen zaat sy han or main warraich family sy hn.
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Mrs wkax |
Group: Members Joined: 26th Apr, 2012 Topic: 2 Post: 7 Age:
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| Posted on:27th Apr 2012, 4:28am |
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@old boy34 Thx for ur advice bro. Mainy nikah ka qadam intehai majbori main uthaya nahi to meri zabrdasti shadi kr di jati jo k Islam main b mana ha. Mery behnoi kisi ki nae suntay. Allah ki zat hi bus koe mojza kq skti ha. Mainy ye post ki kion k mjhy kch log kehty han k tm ny bht ghalat kia. Family ki parwa nae ki. Tmhain sakht gunah ho ga parents ki marzi k bina nikah kia. Bt main kehti hn k family ki parwa na hoti to main yahan apni maa k ghar nae apny husband k pas hoti abi. Or parents ka etraz b jaiz nae tha. Mery husband main koe burai nae ha. Namaz parhty han. Koe ghalat kam nae krty. Bus wo jutt nae han . Or cast ki pabandi to Islam main b nae ha. to esy main mery parents ka etraz jaiz nae ha. Mery husband Araen zaat sy han or main warraich family sy hn.
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oldboy34 |
Group: Members Joined: 10th Sep, 2011 Topic: 0 Post: 64 Age:
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| Posted on:28th Apr 2012, 7:32am |
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hello h r u sister? ap mind na karain to aik bat kahun kh yeh problm ap ka create kia hua hai, wasy yahan Islam ka tasuaver apna apna bnaya hua hai, asal main parents yeh nahi chahty kh larkian apni marzi sy kuch krain.yeh mushklat is waja say hain, wasy agar ap apny parents ki bat maan lati to yeh sb kuch na hta, wasy is jga maujza hona mushkl lagta hai, ap agar husband ky sath chali jati to better hota, q k ab halt mushkal hoty jain gy, kia khyal hai ap ka?thanx |
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sabirgul |
Group: Members Joined: 29th Apr, 2012 Topic: 1 Post: 5 Age:
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| Posted on:30th Apr 2012, 11:05pm |
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 hello
ager apka hsbnd ap sey pyar krta hey to usko chahiye k wo ap k behnoi ko samjae....ager wo ek tarike sey b na mane to ghee ko nikalne k liye ungli terhi krna parti hey...ab ap k family pe d.pend krta hey k wo kstarha apke behnoi ko sudhar sakte hen.... |
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Adam |
Group: Members Joined: 22nd Oct, 2008 Topic: 8 Post: 44 Age:
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| Posted on:2nd Jun 2012, 10:44am |
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Mrs WKXS
Asalam Aliekum! just keep asking urs family member that u will marry with the man u want to marry(husband)......same issue was with my wife family and we did as u both did (nikkah) we both were from different caste we struggled almost about 4 years and after that when we get married my paternal (father side)dnt attended our marriage maternal(mother side) relatives attended n frrom my wife side her mother dnt attended just one brother as wali n one sister attended and my wife elder brother in law was acting same as urs but now Allahmidilliah we are 5 years married and all issues are settled.............. so believe in urself and keep struggling............telling my life story is basically to encourage u..........Hopefully things will be settled soon keep praying n |
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