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nz78
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Group: Members Joined: 04th Jul, 2007 Topic: 3 Post: 48 Age:
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| Posted on:10th Jul 2007, 12:06am |
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 Why I Am Unable To Perform A Complete Sex?
dearpeople- i got married on 23rd june and i am very confused.i have normal erection,complete sex capabilities,but when i start penetration,i dont know what happens,the erection disappears and i fail to do so.the voices during sex and reflection of pain on my wife's facehas disturbed me a few times,at other times i dont know what happens. Other wise i feel healthy no early discharge and no other problem.due to this i am unable to perform a complete sex and in my mind it always creeps that i cannot complete love making.pls pls advise,i am dying of shame and alot tense.
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tsalam
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Group: Experts Joined: 07th Jul, 2007 Topic: 0 Post: 106 Age:
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| Posted on:10th Jul 2007, 12:47am |
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 Focus on winning her heart, the rest then comes naturally
I guess you did not know your wife before marriage. Perhaps, you have heightened anxiety about your performance and/or your wife and you are not communicating during sex. You described that you have seen signs of pain on your wife's face. TI guess by voices you are referring to her scream out of pain and not the normal moaning during sex.
Try talking with her and spend some time to understand her feelings about it and educate her about sex. You are going to spend most of your lifetime together, and any distance of mind may reflect on sex. It takes two for sex in body and mind. Work on her mind, and once all your anxieties are over, you will have what you are looking for. It is not uncommon to have this kind of things in the first few months of married life. Be patient and try to earn the love of your wife.
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nz78
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Group: Members Joined: 04th Jul, 2007 Topic: 3 Post: 48 Age:
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| Posted on:10th Jul 2007, 11:48pm |
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dear thanx:) need more help thanks for your time and reply to my question.you are right i did not talk to her before marriage.and i never had sex before.every thing is new for me.anxiety creeps alot and takes of to hell.i have understood your answer.any more tips to any tips to control anxiety will further facilitate the process as every step during sex is a surprise for me.it would be nice if you could give of more tips. Thanks again. |
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tsalam
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Group: Experts Joined: 07th Jul, 2007 Topic: 0 Post: 106 Age:
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| Posted on:11th Jul 2007, 12:01am |
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Follow-up You may want to read the topic of foreplay [which is by the way Sunnah of the Prophet (pbuh)] in this website to prepare your wife emotionally for the act. The bottom line is to give her time, be patient, educate her, create urge of sex in her...and you will overcome your trouble inshaAllah.
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khan_80
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Group: Members Joined: 09th Mar, 2007 Topic: 8 Post: 2604 Age:
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| Posted on:11th Jul 2007, 12:15am |
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re: nz78 Keep one thing in mind, successful sex does not occur over-night, some couples take weeks and some even months for building complete sexual relationship. dont worry at all. the problems u mentioned are actually not problems, these are normal feelings. try to follow some tips:
- keep ur mind free from anxiety and negative thoughts.
- communicate with ur wife regarding sex, dont impose sex on her, first only try to talk to her on sex matter.
- then, slowly proceed to the actual act.
- select the time when u both are comfortable and agreed on sexual union.
- tell ur wife that its a very relaxing relation and once u both will overcome ur anxiety and discomfort then it will be a satisfying and pleasent relationship.
- do a long foreplay.
- during foreplay, ask ur wife, what she likes and what she dislikes in sex.
- position is also very important.
- do it slowly and comfortably.
- place 1-2 cushions below her back.
- vagina should be well-lubricated with vaginal secretions.
- slowly penetrate and ask ur wife if she is having pain.
- do it in small periodic gaps in between.
- try to relax ur wife during the whole process.
- dont take tensions and do it gently.
hope u get benefit from the above-said points.
regards. |
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nz78
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Group: Members Joined: 04th Jul, 2007 Topic: 3 Post: 48 Age:
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| Posted on:14th Jul 2007, 12:56am |
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the life goes on dear mr salam and mr khan, thanks for your early and prompt reply.the help from you guys has an immense effect,anxiety almost disappeared,i am still confused as even with fully erect pennis i am unable to penetrate completly,despite long fore play i dont think the vagina was fully lubricated as there was quite a bit resistance,pls tell me what possibly could cause this?and what could be the possible solution?i forgot to mention that we guys are talking now and that has eased out matter quite alot..but i have told you the present situation.this has again resulted in heightened anxiety-though the erection has not lost completely but partially. Pls pls advise.thanks bros. |
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Prozak
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Group: Members Joined: 06th Jul, 2007 Topic: 0 Post: 82 Age:
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| Posted on:14th Jul 2007, 1:35pm |
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 Nz 78
Plz correct ur self it is MRS Khan not Mr khan. |
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Kali Zuban
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| Posted on:14th Jul 2007, 3:27pm |
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re: nz78 abhi tu shadi ko 20 din bhi nahi hui pareshani shuru ho gai. 6 month tak tumhara yahi hal rahe ga. phir khood bakhood hi theek ho jai ga. samajh lo ke driving seekh rahe ho. 6 month mai perfect ho ge.
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nz78
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Group: Members Joined: 04th Jul, 2007 Topic: 3 Post: 48 Age:
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| Posted on:26th Jul 2007, 9:01pm |
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thanks to all 4 help dear tsalam,khan 80 and kali zaban. Thanks for all of your posts replies and time. Thanks to Allah above all.. I am happy now and spending good time. Had you guys not helped me it would have been alot difficult. Thanks Allah for giving me such a patient and helping wife as she not only waited patiently but helped me and backed me up too. Thanks Allah all is well, though not smooth, as it will take time, and at last we have enjoyed the pleasures of complete sex in part few days. Thanks all again.
May Allah bless you all for your kind words that helped. |
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Mir Amjad
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Group: Members Joined: 16th Nov, 2009 Topic: 0 Post: 1 Age:
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| Posted on:26th Nov 2009, 2:24am |
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During Sex problem i gor married last year. Please tell me jub main apnicwife say sex kerta houn tu sex kerty houn mari wife ko nachy ki side per cut lug jata hia jis k waja say mujy sex main problem hote. |
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zeb
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Group: Members Joined: 18th Aug, 2007 Topic: 114 Post: 13610 Age:
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| Posted on:4th Dec 2009, 4:05am |
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cut lag jata hai???????? cut lag jata hai?
main samjha nahi....
plz explain |
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zeb
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Group: Members Joined: 18th Aug, 2007 Topic: 114 Post: 13610 Age:
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| Posted on:5th Dec 2009, 3:15am |
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?????/ ????????????? |
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ikky
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Group: Members Joined: 16th Jul, 2010 Topic: 0 Post: 1 Age:
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| Posted on:17th Jul 2010, 3:18pm |
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 short time of intercours
anybody can tell me the way to increase the time of intercours....when i insert my penis in my wife's vigina,i discharged in seconds. but when i use the stud spray(for incresae timing) it efects but not more than 2 mints pppppppppppllllllllllllllllllllllzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz tell me i m much worried |
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hamza_123
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Group: Members Joined: 27th Sep, 2009 Topic: 0 Post: 5 Age:
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| Posted on:28th Feb 2011, 10:20am |
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Why I Am Unable To Perform sex Dr shahab plz it me let help...........meri shaadi ko 1 week hogaya hen ...but may apni wife key vagina break nahi ker pa raha kafee khoshish kerta hun but break hotha he nahi hen ....yaha tak may bht jalde fariq hojata hun aur jab bhi koshish kerta hun break kerni key aur andar jata he nahi hen aur may kuch he dair may fariq hojata hun may kiya karo bht problem arhi hen |
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hadi salmi
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Group: Members Joined: 05th Oct, 2012 Topic: 0 Post: 5 Age:
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| Posted on:6th Oct 2012, 6:07pm |
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kam ke waqat panis ka murah jana sir mera panis pehley to kam ke waqat harkat karta hai lakin kam ke qabil nahi hota aur tablet ke through kam ke qabil jab ho jata hai to 1 minute ke andar he discharge ho jata hai mare biwi mujah se bohat khafa hai mai kia karosir muhe koi acha doctor batain
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hadi salmi
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Group: Members Joined: 05th Oct, 2012 Topic: 0 Post: 5 Age:
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| Posted on:6th Oct 2012, 6:14pm |
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kam ke waqat panis ka murah jana sir mera panis pehley to kam ke waqat harkat karta hai lakin kam ke qabil nahi hota aur tablet ke through kam ke qabil jab ho jata hai to 1 minute ke andar he discharge ho jata hai mare biwi mujah se bohat khafa hai mai kia karosir muhe koi acha doctor batain
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