I am muslim male working in saudi arabia. i have 6 brothers and i am 2nd elder to all. me and my elder brother working in saudi and leaving with families here. I know that we have to takecare of my mom and all .
since we both r working in saudi we keep sending money to mom and brothers. my quesion is my mom always bother us to send extra money and she always says our wives not good. they r asking us not to send money to mother. and when ever we ask her to send something for us or our kids she send half things only.
my other brother leaving in india also married i and they r not much earning. weather we have to send them money and not save for our kids and wife. its always happens. when we ask our mom we want to save some money for kids she says i know but still u have time. and she cry and says ur father died that why u dont want to takecare ur other brothers etc. so, i dont no what i have to do anyone help me please.
if ur all brothers are marriede. then in my openion " u just have to send money for expenses of ur parents only." but if any brother or sister is single. then u have to send money for them also..
aap ne yeh nahi bataya keh aap apni mother ko ketna money send kerte hai, aap ne yeh bhi nahi bataya keh aap ki mother ko ghar ka kharcha chalane ke liye ketne money ki zaroorat hai.
generally jo log apni family ke saath middle east mai kaam kerte hai woh save nahi ker sakte. aap ke saath bhi yahi problem hai, keh aap apni family ke saath middle east mai rehte hai, mera khial hai keh aap ka khood ikhrajat etna ziadah hai keh aap apni mother ko mazeed raqam nahi bhej sakte.
aap ko mera yahi mashwarah hai keh aap apni mother ko etni raqam send kare jis se woh proper tareeqa se ghar chala sake, agar aap proper raqam nahi bhej sakte tu phir aap ko mashwara hai ke aap apni family ko india bhej de aur akele Saudi arab mai rahe, iss tara aap proper raqam bacha sake ge.
Saudi arab mai job kerne ka yahi maqsad hota hai keh ghar mai khooshhali ho, aur raqam ziadah se ziadah bachaya jaaye. aap ke job se na tu aap ke ghar mai khooshhali hai aur na hi aap raqam bacha paa rahe hai. iss ki sirf aur sirf wajah yeh hai keh aap apni family ke saath saudi arab mai rehte hai.
aap ki bivi ka yeh kehna ke mazeed raqam na bheja jaaye bilkul ghalat hai. isi tarah agar aap ki walda koi cheez send nahi kar paa rahi hai tu iss ki yahi wajah ho sakti hai keh os ke paas etna raqam nahi bachta hai keh woh mukamal saaman bhej sake. warna mother tu yahi chahti hai keh woh apne beta aur pota ke liye ziadah se ziadah cheezain bheje.
aap ki baato per mazeed discussion ho sakti hai, lekin iss ke liye zaroori hai keh aap tafseel se batai keh aap ki mother ko kul ketne raqam ki zaroorat hoti hai aur aap onhai ketni raqam bhejte hai.
mere khyal se irfan ki main problem money nahi hai.
es k background main kuch aur baatien b hain. aur un saari baton ko samne rakhte hoie sirf wahi shakhs achi advice de sakta hai jo kafi tajruba rakhta ho, abi main itna expert nahi hoon aur na hi main zindagi ki asi nasheebo faraz se guzar chuka hoon.
kali! aap agar irfan k pichle posts ko dekie to shaied aap us ko achi advice de sakengi, aur mere khayal se irfan ki aur explanation ki b zaroorat nahi hogi
I send RS#12000 Monthly. many times i ask her to come and stay with us. my father died long back. So, i can call her to saudi arabia and she can leave with us. but she always says no i am good in india. she cames once and left within 25days to india saying i can't stay here. i want to go india with younger sons and there wifes. My main problem is not money.
firstly irfan take personal or family matters easily i belong to india as you are facing i have been facing the same since 10 yrs let me not start my story but my advice is fix an amount monthly for your mothers expense from your side bcoz eveen ur brothers in india earn their living you need to talk to them openly that this is your share & try to save for your family later if ur old no body will help even brothers (my exprince)
zahir hai is mein to wo apne ghar k kharchay aur jo ap k behen bhai unmarried hain un k kharchay hi ker pati hon gi....
ab ap apni fermaisheyn bhi isi money mein chahtay hain to ye apki ghalti hai
itne paison mein to wo khud bhi mushkil se guzara kerti hon gi...
un ki bat bilkul sahi hai k ap unehn aur rakam bhejeyn
wo apni jaga ghalat nahi hain....
lekin ap bhi apni jaga ghalat nahi hai...ap koa pne bachon k liye bhi save kerna chahiye....lekin dear pehle un ko to sambhaleyn jo ap k chotey behen bhai hain...jo abhi kama nahi sktey....jub wo kamanay laiq ho jayen gay tub ap ki bhi job ki position ho jaye gi...tub ap bhi save ker lijiye ga...
Bhai aap apne bhayon par maa ka ek munasib kharch rakwaden kuke aapki maa ka un par b haq banta hai.Yani apni salaries k 3 hiso mai 2 hise apni familly aur apne liye rakhe,bacha 1 hisa maa ko bejdiya karen.Sirf aap nahi ,aapke baqi bhai b chahe wo 10rs kamate ho tab b.
yaaar jeee , ya feel good to see ur question.... aik baat batoon , ...ummmm I can very well understand you condition, because I am also like you last many years.so no worries..yahaan say aisa khaas kuch na bhee milay tu buss aik baat sochna kay hai ya sirf dilloon ka suda hai ,paisooon ka nahee... think carefully and get my point ..tumhari problem solve ho jayee geee...... thankssssss
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