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Group: Members Joined: 29th Aug, 2007 Topic: 10 Post: 14 Age:
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 Child Issue: What Can I do?
mai yah bolna chati ho kai meri yah 1 marrige hai or meray husbend ki 3 marrige hai meray husbend ki omer 56 or meri 31 year hia meri shadi ak mujbori mai howi mai ghar mai fatrher ki death ho gahi thi mai sub sai bati thi as leyah apnay gahr walo kai leyah as sai shadi kar li lekin shadi kai baad muj ko malom chala kai as admi sai shadi nahi karna chayah thi lekin as leyah shaadi howi kohi batana wala nahi tha ki aged admi sai shadi na karo kher woh tu ab kohi fahda nahi muj ko shadi kai baad malom chala kai meray shohar kai jo bachay hai un par woh jan daytay hai har kuch un ko daitay hai sub paysay bhi mujhay na bahar lay kar jatay hai na shopping karwatay hai na zavar kuch bhi nahi yah tuk kai ghar ka soda bhi woh hi lay kar atay hai un kai 4 bachay hai 3 shdi shoda hai or abhi unmarried hai woh saat rahta hai un ka jo apna ghar hai woh apni wife kai naam kar deyah tha 2 bachay as kai saat rahtay hai or woh orat bhi kisi sai shadi kar chuki hai jo as ghar mai rahata hai jo meray shohar nai as kai naam kiya tha ak larkha meray saat hai jo collage mai hai mai yah pochna chati ho mera shohar nai mujhay 2 saal har chase kai baghar rukha lekin as 2 saal mai us nai olad nahi honi dai woh sugar kai marez hai ab shadi ko 3 saal ho gahay hai 1 saal sai meray latnay par yah allah ki taraf sai protection nahi kar rahay lekin sugar ki wajhay sai olad nahi howi mai 1 saal sai job kar rahi ho jis mai kuch paysay apnay pass rukhti ho baqi ghar mai kurch hotay hai kyun kai woh apnay paysay apnay bachoo par kurch karatay hai or agahr mai kohi lfaz bhi un kai bachoo ko bool do kai paysay leytah hai app kai bachay yah app gahr bhi dai chokay ho phaer app sub un kai leyah karaty ho jub kai shadi ho chuki hai un logo gi ab tu mera khayal karay olad dai tu bokhay loin kai tarah muj sai lattay hai or talaq ka boltah hai un ko meri mujbori pata hai ghar mai kohi bolna wala nahi ak mother hai or chotay bahan bahi hai meray pass kohi rastah nahi hai logo nai muj sai kaha kai as admi sai olad pada karo tu yah tumharay saat acha ho ga lekin un ki shugar ki wajah sai month mai ak hi baar sex hota woh bhi mushkael sai mai nai bohat sai doctor sai pohcha un doctor nai boola kai as omer mai bhi olad ho sakit hai sugar control karay or sperm test karwah lekin mearay husbend woh test nahi karwatah malom nai kiya wajha hai mai bohat baar lathi ho ghar cohtnay ki baat karti ho pher theek ho jatay hai kai karwah lo ga sugar contril mai tub pher nahi karwatah 1 saal ho gaha hai as baat ko lekin bacho ki wajha sai muj sai bohat bura salok kartah hai jub kai mai un kai omer dekh kai shohar samhaj kai bohat khadmat karti ho or un ki olad ka bhi karti ho mujha lagtah hai muj sai shadi seraf time pass kai leyah ki hai or mujhay kuch nahi dayana chatay mai ab mai un sai pohach choki ho bool choki ho kai aghar olad nahi dai gai mea haq nahi dai tu mai as ghar sai ja rahai tu boltay hai mai olad nahi do ga ab batahay mai kiya karo mai tu yah hi soch rahi ho kai atni baar bool choki ho un ki samhaj mai nahi ata tu un kai saat na raho sub log muj sai olad kai barah mai pohactay kai atum ko olad kyun nahi howi jub shohar sai olad hai tum mai kiya problem hai mai apnay husbend sai bhi bolti ko kai aap kai bachay hai aap ko kohi problem nahi hai olad ki muj ko problem hai muj ko ak bacha chayah apni zindagi kai laeyah yah mai dosri shadi karo olad kai leyah app hi olad dai dayah malom nahi us waqat sun leytah hai pher bhool jatah hai mai bohat preshan ho smhaj nahi ata kiya karo muj ko aap log bata sakta hai mai kiya karo please help me
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Group: Members Joined: 30th Oct, 2007 Topic: 0 Post: 4 Age:
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| Posted on:12th Dec 2007, 2:26am |
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hi .... edit email address ............
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sema |
Group: Members Joined: 29th Aug, 2007 Topic: 10 Post: 14 Age:
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| Posted on:12th Dec 2007, 6:03am |
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tell me mujhay app ka id nahi malom kiya hai or kis tarha mail karna hai |
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sema |
Group: Members Joined: 29th Aug, 2007 Topic: 10 Post: 14 Age:
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| Posted on:12th Dec 2007, 6:07am |
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please answer me aap log sub muj ko mashwarah dai taka mai as problem sai nekal sako meri life problem hai |
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goodman |
Group: Members Joined: 11th Oct, 2007 Topic: 59 Post: 7336 Age:
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| Posted on:12th Dec 2007, 6:14am |
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2nd marriage and divorce are not easy Do not need to give e-mail address to any person here .If he have any suggestion for you then he will post here.
My suggestion is that you have to marriage another man if you need a baby.Because this man had old aged and he also do not want to do love with you.
If he agree to do love with you then a baby can bron but he is not agree with you altough he is patient of sugar.It better to your future to divorce first and then find another man.
To take divorce this man is also very difficult for you also and if you take divorce easily this man then you another 2 nd marriage is also very difficult for you because you are poor.
You must consider on all these things then you take a step for further proceed.
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Good man
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sema |
Group: Members Joined: 29th Aug, 2007 Topic: 10 Post: 14 Age:
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| Posted on:12th Dec 2007, 7:32am |
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any one reads please answer me please mujhay aap logo ki har ak ki madad ki zrorat hai
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sunehri76 |
Group: Members Joined: 04th Aug, 2007 Topic: 99 Post: 4650 Age:
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| Posted on:12th Dec 2007, 8:04am |
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sema apki post bohat lambi hai,auch kuch apki spelling ki wajah se mai asani se parh nahi pa rahi,abhi adhi parhi hai,ap kuch der wait karain,
dusre members ´bhi answer denge,i am busy at the moment but aj kisi time apki post mukamal parh kar apko jawab dundi.
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Group: Members Joined: 15th Oct, 2007 Topic: 47 Post: 1808 Age:
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| Posted on:12th Dec 2007, 8:33am |
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 Sema....
U are a working lady..It means u can handel urself financially..Just one thing to ask from you...Do you really care about him/love him/want to live with him or not...Kids are after that. Just thing firmly & reply then I will tell you something.Because by all means in your case ,decision depends entirely upon you.Think & think firmly then answer...If your husnband can co operate withyou in child birth ,would you be happy to live with him or NOT ?? |
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Group: Members Joined: 06th Oct, 2007 Topic: 44 Post: 1348 Age:
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| Posted on:12th Dec 2007, 10:39am |
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to everyone Plz jab koi urdu main swal keray tu uss ko urdu main hi jwab dain, ho skta hay uss kay liay doosri soorat main mushkil ho jay aur aap ka jwab uss ka bhala na ker sakay |
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Group: Members Joined: 06th Oct, 2007 Topic: 44 Post: 1348 Age:
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| Posted on:12th Dec 2007, 10:42am |
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re seema Main nay aap ki post peri hay aur iss kay baray main soch rahi hoon, jaldi main koi galat mashwera nahi daina chahti. Main aap ki situation samaj sakti hoon kay app kiti bay-chain hain. iss depression ki waja say kisi ki batoun main na aain aur kisi ko apni I.D na batain aur na hi kisi ko mail kerain. Yah na ho kay aap ko mazeed mushkil ka samna kerna per jay. plz gabrain nahi, allah insaan ki azmaish bhi kerta hay aur ho sakta hay yah aap ki azmaish ho.
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jungleboy |
Group: Members Joined: 12th Dec, 2007 Topic: 6 Post: 94 Age:
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| Posted on:12th Dec 2007, 10:50am |
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maa Banna her Aurat ki Khuahish hoti hai.agar ye aadmi aap ko Aulad nahi desakta tou aap is se Devorce lelo aur Kisi Dosre se Shadi kerlo. I think he is Just Playing With you. |
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sunehri76 |
Group: Members Joined: 04th Aug, 2007 Topic: 99 Post: 4650 Age:
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| Posted on:12th Dec 2007, 4:35pm |
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sema jahan tak mai apki post samajh payi hun,apne ek aged admi se shadi karli hai,
khair is me koi burai bhi nahi hai,kayi ladkiyon kiho jati hai,but the main thing is ke ap khush hain?kya ap khud ko sirf bache na hone ki wajah se khush nahi samajhti ?
apne ye nahi batayake apke husband ka normaly apke sath rawaya kaisa hai?aap agar job karti hain,aur ap ke husband ke halaat ache hain,to apko chahye apne sari tankhwa apne lye save karain aur ghar ka kharch unko hi chalane dain.is tarah se ap paison ke mamle me apni tention kam karlengi.
dusra ye ke agar,ap sirf logon ke puchne se pareshan hoti hain,to ap logon ki baton ko ignore kardain.ya unse yehi kaha karain ke jab Khuda chahega ho jayenge.
mera khayal ye hai,ke apke husband ne 2 shadiyan pehle ki hain,unko is me interesst nahi raha ke bache hon,wife ke sath shopping jayen and and.dusra unki age aisi hai jahan insan sari enjoyments apne piuche guzaar ke apne khayalat change karta hai..ye ghalat hai,unko sochna chahye ke ap ki to pehli shadi hai,ap ki bhi kuch khwaishain hain kuch umeedain hain...
maby finaly apko kuch baton se compromise karna pade,ke is mamle me mera husband nahi chahnge ho sakta to ap us bat ko isi tarah exept karlain...
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sema |
Group: Members Joined: 29th Aug, 2007 Topic: 10 Post: 14 Age:
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mai kiya kar ab mera husben wasay meray or meray ghar walo kai saat achay hai lekin seraf olad nahi dayna chatay or apnay bachay jo meary saat kuch karay un kai saat kuch karay un kai baray mai ak lafaz bhi nahi sun saktay jub kai un kai bachay mearay saat khas kar kai bati achi nahi hai hai or meary husbend kai off days mai ghar a jati hai apnay husbend kai saat jan bhoj kar kai hum apnay baap sai baat karay yah door rahay pher sub kuch muj ko karana hota hai waran meray husbend un kai samnay meri bazati karaty hai or woh bohat kush hoti hai aghar woh nahi atay tu meary husbend meray saat achay rahtay hai as leyah mai bacha chati ho takay meri bhi kohi azat ho or mear husbend aonay bacho ki wajah sai ingire na karay na meri bazati na karay |
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Group: Members Joined: 11th Oct, 2007 Topic: 59 Post: 7336 Age:
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| Posted on:13th Dec 2007, 1:56am |
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2 nd marriage is a source of baby If this person do not want to give a baby then you must do another marriage.There is not any other way to get Halal baby.
First take divorce and find another man that also do love with you.
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Group: Members Joined: 26th Nov, 2007 Topic: 8 Post: 265 Age:
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| Posted on:13th Dec 2007, 4:15am |
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 to seema
Hope you are doing well seema !!
Just read you post and got an idea what's the matter.
Dear first decide that what do you want : Just respect from your husband or you want baby also ?
If you think that you could live without your own babies then your target would be to get respect from your husband. No one else at this forum could know your hausband better than you. Find some time when he is free and can listen to you by his heart. Discuss with him that what things make him angery and he insults you in from of children, then you must try to avoid those acts. In our family system, espacially in Pakistan, there is a huge gap of communication among members of the family which results in tiny things to become big issues. Try to tell him that it hurts your self respect when you insult me in front of children. In response to this what he says listen carefully and then try to assess yourself that r u on the wrong side or not, if you are on the wrong sie then try to be good and avoid those acts, if you are not wrong then try to convince him that he is doing wrong and encourage him to find out some solutions and tell him that you want to end up this insultive behaviour from his side.
Second option you have is this that you get "Khula" not "Divorce" because you want to leave him. It's very easy but you must think about it 100 times before doing that. You may find a person ready to give you babies but not again giving respect to you. I would say that keep this option at the end and find some positive solution and save your relationship which only lucky people have in their life...... but don't keep yourself in miserable condition ( if you feel so )
Further, i m sure that inshallah you would find some better solution with out ending up your precious relationship. This is your life and you have 100% right to live it according to your wishes. But in life we have to give away something to get something in response and that the way life is on it's way.
Hope to have your comments on this.
Regards.
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Group: Members Joined: 04th Aug, 2007 Topic: 99 Post: 4650 Age:
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| Posted on:13th Dec 2007, 5:40am |
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Nadeem aol i agreed to you,
finaly yehi two options hain sema ke pas,she can deside better,at first unko puri koshish karni chahye pehle araam se husband se apne dil ki bat kahain,ke unko unki is tarah insult karne se kitni takleef hoti hai,aur agar wo sun.ne ke mood me hon to apne khayalat share karain.
agar apko phir bhi koi raasta na nazar aye aur wo khud ko kisi tarah bhi change karne ko tayar na hon,to ap khud sochain
agar to ap samajhti hain ke ap aise guzara kar sakti hain..to phir ap compromise karlain,aur agar ap is tarah se nahi chahti to ap ko khulla lena hoga. |
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re Seema,
App kay jo bhi halaat hain mujay per ker afsoas houa hay. Aik baat main sab say pahlay yah kahna chahti hoon kay aap sab batoun ko pahlay side pay rakhain aur kisi din tasalli say baith ker poori tafseel kay sath soachain kay ager aap divorce laiti hain tu aap kay pass kia kia rastay hain.
Kahan rahain gi? Ager parents kay paas jati hain tu un kay liay kia emotional ya economical, ya kisi aur tara say maslay paida houn gay? App hood kitna berdasht ker sakain gi ager aap ko gher waloun say ya rishtadaroun say ya aur logoun say tanay sunnana peray(jo kay aik gandi haqeeqat hay)? Ager doosri shadi na hoi tu zindgi kaisay guzray gi? wagaira wagaira. Poori tassali say ager likh ker daikhain tu sab say ziada bahter hay. Uss kay baad yah decide kerain kay 100 main say kitnay percent chances hain kay aap divorce kay baad hoosh hoon gi? 80 %??? 50%?? 20%?
Ab doosra kaam yah kerain kay jo mojooda sorat-e-haal hay uss ko bhi judge kerain issi tara. Yah decide kerain kay aap kitnay percent abhi hoosh hain? 10%? 20%? 50%? wagaira. App ager poori honestly say yah faisla ker lain kay konsi situation aap kay haq main ziada bahter hay aur iss tara percentage nikal lain tu aap ka yah jo depression hay na bohat hadd tak kam ho jay ga kayounkay aap ko patta chal jaiy ga kay aap ko kia faisla kerna hay.
Main kisi baat ka mshwera aap ko iss liay nahi daina chahti kay yah aisi situation hay jis main main hood mojood nahi hoon. Yah na ho kay mairi waja say aap koi galat faisla ker lain. App apnay husband ko bhi janti hain, aur apnay parents ko bhi. Shadi kay baad lerki ki situation different ho jati hay gher main iss ko bhi zehen main rakhain.
App jab yah faisla ker lain kay aap nay yaheen rahna hay ya wapas jana hay tu phir iss baat ko baad main sochain kay shoher kay sath kis tara zindgi ko pahlay say ziada hoshgwar banaya ja sakta hay.
Allah say rabta rakhain wo tu aap kay sab say ziada kareeb hay. Jitna ho sakay ussay sab batain batain. Allah aap ko apni amman main rakhay.
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Group: Members Joined: 15th Sep, 2007 Topic: 46 Post: 153 Age:
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rep to sema assalamoalikum,
sub se pahly me app ko ye mashwara do gi k shytaan se bach ker rahiye ga b coz app jis situation se guzar rahi ho is me is k ane k chance ziyada hain jasy k as LOVEBIRD,
Jo app se e mail per baat kerna cha raha tha.
admin its great effort k app is tarhan k bandon ko block or contant ko delete ker dete hain per kafi dair se.
me shytaan k bary me is lea kah rahi hon k app as a workig woman ho aur ghar se bahir bhi jati ho is situation me jab kuch nazar na aa raha ho to insaan ko payar k do bol bhi boht achy lagte hain is lea kisi k bahkaway me na aa jana.ok namaz na chorna kisi bhi sorat me.
meri taraf se ya mashwara hay k app ne us bandy se shadi ker k hi ghalti ki hay aur jitna late karo gi fayeda kuch nhi ho ga is lea talaq ki bahtar tareeqa hay aur kisi ham umar shakhs se ALLAH ka naam le ker shadi ker lo.
ALLAH ap ko apne hifzo imaan me rakhy.AMEEN
TO all memberz,
Plz jaisa k pinky ne kaha hay k agar sawal urdu me pocha jay to jawab urdu me hi dain pl plz.
Shukria
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Group: Members Joined: 11th Sep, 2007 Topic: 14 Post: 3829 Age:
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conceive
This post is sent by sema in continuty of her problem.....
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salam mai yah dubai mai rahti ho or doctor sai elaj chal raha hai meri shadi ko 4 saal ho gahay hai mera koi bacha nahi hai na abhi tuk 1 time bhi pregant howi ho lekin doctor ko full checkup karwana par pata chala kai mujhay polycystic hai jis par doctor nai mujhay clomid di or as kai baad mera egg size study kiya or daily mai ultra sound kai leyah jati thi pher ak din doctor nai bola kai kal aap ka egg repture ho gaha ab app sex karay apnay husbend kai saat or mai nai asi raat sex kiya lekin abhi tuk kohi pregancy kai systomps nahi ayai mera egg repture 1 aug'08 ko howa or mai nai sex 2nd of aug ki raat ko kiya ab doctor nai mujhay pregancy test kai leyah 15 ko bolayah hai lekin mujhay pregancy kai kohi symtoms nahi hai mai kiya karo bachay pada karnay kai leyah kiya karo mai dowa mang mang kar bhi thak chuki ho
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Group: Members Joined: 16th Jul, 2008 Topic: 9 Post: 21 Age:
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Listen to me Seema..... Salam,
ap eik Aurat ho, aap ka haq hai k aap ka Husband aap ki Zaroorat pori karey, daily bhi aur Azdvaaji bhi...this is Your Right which Islam and evry riligion gives to you.
First of all, since your Husband is not coperating with you you keep the right either to ask for Divorse from him, or approach the Courts for that.
Aap ki bhi kuch priorities hain, wo aadmi to apni Nassal agay berha chukka, per aap ko bhi to apne se koi Aulaad chahye na, aur aap ka Haq hai ye jo aap ko apka Islaam deta hai....
i would like to request you please dont be Cruel to yourself and seek either Divorse Yourself, if he doesnt, Consult the Courts,InSHALLAH ALLAH-PAK will be with you.....
Logo ki baton ka dehaan na do, jo dil theek janey kar guzro.
Aur han Ziyada na socha karo, Bohut ziyada sochney se Iraaday kamzor parr jatey hain....
ALLAH AAP KI MADA KAREY(AAMIN)
Dua'aaoo main yaad rakhna Hum perdesioo ko.
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