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sobia66 |
Group: Members Joined: 10th Apr, 2008 Topic: 1 Post: 3 Age:
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| Posted on:10th Apr 2008, 4:06pm |
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 Nikkah: Can We Do Intercourse After Nikkah But Without Rukhsati?
Aslam o alykum all forum bro and sis. i am new member of this forum. main aik bari tension main hoon plz help me. 1 saal pahly maira nikha mary cusion say howaa thaa uss waqat uss kay bary brother ke shadi mairi sis say hoi thee. sis kee to rukhsti hoo gai oor main chhon keh study ker rahee hoon oor maira husb bee study ker rahaa hay. oor woo mughy bohat chahta be hay oor main b ussy bohat chahti hoon. chhon keh humaara nikha howaa hay oor woo maira cusion be hay un kaa hamaray ghar aana jaana bee hay. oor hamara talaq aik modrat faimly say hay. ham aik doosry koo milty julty be hain akhty ghoomty be hain achy dooston ke terha. hamari family main yeh tay paiyaa thaa keh jab tak ham apni education complete nahee ker laitin rukhsti nahee hoo ge ab 2 / 3 mah pahly say patta nahee mairy husb koo kiyaa hoo giyaa hay wo mugh say kissing etc- kertaa rahaa hay. mujhy apni banhoo main be lay laitta thaa. main nay etna mahsoos nahe kiyaa oor main apni mother say baat kee too unhoo nay kahaa keh koi baat nahee tumhaara shohar hay. laykon apny aap koo had tak rakhnaa. ees baat kaa mairee sis ko be patta challa oor unhoon nay mary mian say beet kee ussy sumghayaa keh pahly apni study complete ker loo too sobi ke rukhsti ker kay lain aain gay. baat tay hoo gai. ab jab ussy mooqa miltta hay woo humary ghar aa jaata hay oor mugh say love kertta hay. main bee thoora bohat uus ka saath daitee hoon kiyyon main bee uss say bohat payaar kertti hoon. laykon woo ab had say bartta jaa rahaa hay. 2 . 3 daffaa uss nay mughy undress kerny kee koshis bee kee hay jiss woo wo thora bohat kamyaab be howwa laikon marri muzahmat say chup rahaa. aagy say kehta hay keh tum mairee wife hoo mughy tum per poora haq hay. too main khamoosh hoo gatti hoon. patta nahee ussy kia hoo giyaa hay woo mugh koo zaberdasti pakr ker intercourse kernaa chahtta hay. jiss main abhee tak woo kamyaab too nahee hoo sakaa layon woo din bdin berhtta hee jaa rahaa hay. yahaan tak kay abb woo mugh koo zaberdasti undress kerny ke koshesh kertta hay jnooni hoo ker. mairy shalwaar tak uttar laiytta hay. essi dooran woo release hoo jatta hay oor mugh say sory ker kah challa jatta hay. ess waqiyaa kaa mairy mom or sis koo patta hay. woo kafi uss koo samjaa chuki hain. uss waqat un kee baat manta hay but jab akyly main mugh say miltta hay sab bhool jaatta hay oor kehtta hay keh agar tum maty saath act nahee keroo gee main tumhain choor doon gaa. please help mee main kiyaa keroon. kiyaa main uss koo interkourse kerny doon ess main koi ghunna too nahee hay. laykon main dirtti hoon keh kaheen preg naa hoo jaoon. plz advoice what i do? sobi DHA Lahore
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zeb |
Group: Members Joined: 18th Aug, 2007 Topic: 114 Post: 13610 Age:
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| Posted on:11th Apr 2008, 2:44am |
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sobia66 dear islam mein to Nikkah k bad biwi aur husband ek dusrey k liye jaiz ho jatey hain aur unhen intercourse kerney ka poora haq hota hai....lekin traditionally dekha jaye to is bat ko aha nai samjha jata k rukhsati se pehle intercourse kia jaye....bcoz agar a pregnant ho gae to log kia socheyn gey....shadi se pehle bacha ho jaye to apko bi bara ajeeba lagey ga...is liye behter yahi hai k ap us se jitni jaldi ho sakey shadi ker leyn....its better for both of u.... |
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| Posted on:11th Apr 2008, 2:56am |
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step by step is better for you zeb bahi sobi kee shadi too hoo chuki ha.His husband legal status to touch her wife but his husband thing these 2 things before touching her wife.
1.Rukhsati
2.If he do intercourse then she will pragnent then what will society says?Or her wilfe like to love with her on this occassion.
These 2 things make confused.And according to my point of view untill u do not allow to do intercourse untill ur parents do not do ur Rukhsati.This is good for you.
Altough islam give the total prmission of LOVE after Nikah .Because ur Ruksati is also stipulate with ur education .So u pls advice ur husband to complete ur education and then ur parents will also your RUKHSATI.
One more thing i am feeling if u do intercourse first with ur husband may be he leave u.So do everything step by step.
Wait for further response.
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sobia66 |
Group: Members Joined: 10th Apr, 2008 Topic: 1 Post: 3 Age:
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| Posted on:11th Apr 2008, 4:44am |
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 My problem
Thanks for all. keh app nay mari help kee hay. Yeh muhy bee petta hay keh woo mary husb hain. essi liya too main un say akaily main mil laitti hoon. aam hellat main woo normal hoty hain. some time petta nahee kiyaa hoota hay woo apny aap say bahir hoo jatty hain. phir woo aik nahee sunty oor apni hee baat menwaty hain. sheroo main main bee samjhee thee keh en kee yeh thri bohat loving kissing etc- maan loon gee too sab theek hoo jai gaa phir yeh zid nahee kerain gay but woo ab berhty hee jaa rahy hain. phaly loving discuss phir mary qareeb hee aty gay. ab yahaan tak keh apni zid kee waja say mughy bee hussa aany lagaa hay. but he is husb. main un say bohat love kertti hoon. main dertti hoon keh agar 1st intercourse hoo giyaa too phir woo nahee rukain gay. maira education be distrub hoo rahe hay. zahir hay main bee ab ees age main hoon gahaan per feeling ko control kerna mushakal hoo gatta hay.
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zeb |
Group: Members Joined: 18th Aug, 2007 Topic: 114 Post: 13610 Age:
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| Posted on:11th Apr 2008, 4:52am |
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sobia dear ap khud pr control kereyn aur apne ghar walon ki help leyn....
jub wo aya kerye to apni sister ko bi sath rakha keryen...aur koshish kia keryen k un k sath akeley na raheyn....u r right k ek bar shuru ho gaye to un ki adat bun jaye gi....
behter to yahi hai k jald se jald shadi ker leyn |
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sunehri76 |
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| Posted on:11th Apr 2008, 5:02am |
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sobia mai zeb se agree karti hun,
apke pas iska ek ye hall hai ke ap apne husband se kahain ke agar wo wait nahi kar sakte to Rukhsati ki tareekh rakh dain,study ka kya hai ?bohat se jode shadi ke bad apni study jari rakhte hain .ye to ab aam ho gaya hai.
i hope isme hi apka massla hal ho jayega,aur agar ap ye setuation avoid karna chahti hain to un se zyada akaile me na millen,aur unhe samjhayen jahan itna sabbar kiya hai thoda sa aur karlain aur agar nahi saba kar sakte to Rukhsati ho jaye.apne unko ek bar kamyab hone diya to phir wo apse ye roz chahenge aur jab ek bar ho jayega to ap bhi mana nahi karengi.. |
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| Posted on:11th Apr 2008, 5:50am |
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sobia aap ki taleem kitni hay baaqi? aur kitna time lagay ga study complete hone main? aur rukhsati ka koi waqt tay kia hay ghar walon ne? |
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| Posted on:11th Apr 2008, 5:57am |
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waqt tay kar lein agar rukhsati ka waqt tay nahi to foran koi date fix kar lein laikin kuch hi months main agar aap shaadi k bad study jari rakh sakain aur ye itna barha problem nahi hay jitna samjha jata hay shaadi koi qayamat nahi hoti k us k bad study nahi ki jasakti , husband wife aur dono ki families samajhdar hun to no tension ,
mera mashvara to aap ko yahi hay k rukhsati ki date fix kar li jaye aur phir aap k husband ko us waqt tak rok dia jaye bilkul yani wo phir aap se na milain jab date fix ho jaye. |
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| Posted on:11th Apr 2008, 5:59am |
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girls meri tamam larkion se ek guzarish hay k wo jab apna problem is forum par share karain to apna real name , aur address kabi forum par share na karain is se problem creat ho sakti hay larkion k liye. |
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sobia66 |
Group: Members Joined: 10th Apr, 2008 Topic: 1 Post: 3 Age:
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| Posted on:11th Apr 2008, 6:56am |
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 Thanks
Thanks Bro and sis.
Aap nay mughy bohat courge kiyaa hay. Aap tamam advice is nice. Main mom say ess bary baat karoon gee. after marrage study no problem. but my husband also in studing process and he will doing complete the last year. actualy main too apny ghar walonn koo manwaa loon gee rukhstti kay liyaa. but mary husband kay ghar wali shaid naa many. Also my husb is my best friend. Time to time he recommendation me regarding studing and culture, etc- very nice. many time we are alon and unhoon nay kabi mugh say koi sexy herqat nahee kee. patta nahee kabhi kabhi uun koo kiyaa hoo jatta hay. joke joke main wo sharoo hotty hain oor phir bass............... samblthy hee nahee hain jab tak release naa hoo jain. baad main sorry b kerty hain. kahty hain keh ab ham aik dosry kay liya jaiz hain. agar nahee hain too betaoo. main kiyaa un koo betaoon. main khamoosh rahtti hoon. main joke samjtti hoon oor woo barhty hee jatty hain. mom say baat hoi unhoon nay kahaa keh woo aap ka husb hain thoora bohat theek hay us koo samjaoo keh apny aap ko control rakhain kiyoon woo tumhari hee baat many gaa woo tum say payaar bee to bohat kerta hay. main aar un kaa hhath roktti hoon to woo oor zidi hotta hay. main kai daffa intercourse hotty hotty bachi hoon. main nay un say yahaan tak kahaa hay keh mary be jazbaat hain main bee sabar ker rahee hoon aap bee sabar say abhii kaam lain. uus time kehtta theek hay. agree kertta hay mugh say jassy main kahoon. abhii mairaa final year sharoo hona hay study main.
Agar un kay ghar wally naa many too phir main soochtti hoon keh main uus kee baat maan loon. kiyoon keh main un koo khoona nahee chahtii.
Yaa ess ka koi oor hal hay. Please tell me.
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| Posted on:11th Apr 2008, 7:00am |
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sister sobia mohabat aur rishtay toota nahi kartay agar aap ka partner aap ki kisi baat ka bura maan kar aap ko chhor de ya phir aap ko esa lagta hay to mera khayal hay k pehle zarorat hay rishta mazboot bananay ki aap ko kiun dar lagta hay k aap ne un ki baat na maani to kuch bura hoga? theek hay aap un ki baat maanain aur unhain kahain k ham shaadi ki date fiz karwaty hain apni families se phir jo bi problems hun unhain dono mil kar dekhna . |
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it is your decession sobia this thing ur husband says right that he have legal right on u.but if your both parents also agree to your intercourse with each other then also no problem.
But if your parents and your husband parents do not agree to do this thing then you must stop your husband this thing.
And the most important thing is that you do not do Nikah yourself with this person.You both parents are agree mutually basis then this Nikah was happened.So you pls involve your parents and also your husband parents also to stop this thing.
If he further do not stop this thing then you must do love with your husband then your Rukshati will also happen spotly.
And the most important thing is that when your husband early discharge then you also do not worry when you meet with each other.Now you have to decide what u like. |
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| Posted on:11th Apr 2008, 10:20am |
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Fake story ...........
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| Posted on:11th Apr 2008, 10:42am |
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sobia khwaish apke husband ki hai ke ,rok wo khud ko nahi sakte to unka kam hai apne ghar walon ko manayen.
aur is se unke Ghar walon ko kya problem hogi?but sis ap ek second ke lye bhi socho,apne unki bat man li aur khuda na khuasta kal koi bat hogayi jis se apka rishta toot jaye to ap kya karengi?
islye behtari isi me hai,aur agar ap apne husband ko saf saf keh dengi ke agar unhon ne ye kuch karna hai to ap ainda unse akail e me nahi millengi to wo apse kuch din naraz rahenge,but think at least wo apni narazgi khatam bhi kar denge.kyunke bakool apke hi apke samjhane pe wo man bhi jate hain..to try on this way...but i think the problem is ke shahid ap khud bhi razi hain.to isme hum kya keh sakte hain.Nikah to apka ho hi chuka hai.. |
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| Posted on:11th Apr 2008, 10:46am |
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miss red chilli loogoo koo batanay doo Red Chilli tum pata nahi kiss dunaya may rahti hoo yaaha per sab kuch hoo raha ha.agar tum dunya koo enjoy nahi kerti too iska yeah matlab nahi kay doosri dunaya bee enjoy nahi kerti.
tumay her banda aur her story fake hee kyoo lagti ha.loogoo kooo bayan kernay doo apnay dill ka booj halka kernay doo MISS FAKE RED CHILLI.
Booj halka kernay say loogoo koo milay ga sakoon.
char din kee zendgi ha pher kissi nay kissi koo kiya batana ha |
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| Posted on:11th Apr 2008, 11:14pm |
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re: rukhsati se qabal sex - nikah ke baad mard aur aurat mia bivi ki tarah reh sakte hai. agar bivi apne ma baap ke ghar aur shohar apne maa baap ke ghar rahe tab bhi woh aik doosre se sex ker sakte hai.
- hamare culture mai rukhsati se qabal sex ko mayoob samjha jaata hai, lekin iss ke liye zaroori hai keh rukhsati tak larka aur larki ka perda karaya jaaye.
- ab jab keh aap dono ka nikah bhi ho chuka hai, dono mai perda bhi nahi hai, aapas mai milte bhi hai aur mia bivi wale style mai milte hai, aur yeh sab baatai aap ke ghar walo ko bhi pata hai; tu kisi bhi pareshaani ki zaroorat nahi hai. aisi soorat mai ab kisi qisim ki jhajhak ki zaroorat nahi. aap dono ani jinsi taskeen ke liye baqaida bhi aik doosre se mil sakti hai.
- chukeh culturally yeh allow nahi hai, lehaza koshish kare ke rekhsati se qabal aap pregnant na ho. pregnanncy se bachne ke liye condom ya koi aur munasib method istemal ker sakti hai.
- lekin ziadah behtar hai keh rukhsati tak aap log aik doosre se tanhai mai na mile aur sex se avoid kare.
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| Posted on:11th Apr 2008, 11:59pm |
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@sobia sis.. sorry ap ka complete topic nhi para lkin its not gud without rukhsati. try to avoid these things or koshish krein k us se akele na milen. chahe un ko acha lage ya bura. right? or ager wo ghar aye to jab wo akela hone lage to aap ami k sath chali jaya karen. bus us ko moqa hi mat den. agr mobile hy to off kar den. ghar phone karen to baat kar len agr kuch aisi wesi baat kahe to kahen k ami sath mey hay ya koi or bahana kar den.
i know us ko boht bura lage ga. lkin its gud 4 u. ye mat sochen k wo ap ko chor de ga wo nehi chor skta ap ko.
bus us ko keh den k jab tak rukhsati na ho to mey ap se nhi mil skti. usey kaho thik hy ap mere legal husband ho lkin abi mey apne ghar walon k sath aap ki amanat hun.
baqi nimaz parha karen Allah sab kuch thik kar de ga.
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zeb |
Group: Members Joined: 18th Aug, 2007 Topic: 114 Post: 13610 Age:
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| Posted on:12th Apr 2008, 2:14am |
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sobia agreed to sunehri and knownboy...
ap jitna ho sakey unhen avoid kereyn aur sex kenrey se to bilkul hi mana ker deyn aur kahen k agar jaldi hai to shadi ker leyn
wo beshak ap se naraz ho jaye ga but kitne din.....2 din 6 din 10 din....is se ziada kia ker ley ga....wo agar ap ko dhamkiyan deta hai k agar aisa nai kerna to main chor dun ga...to usey ye keh do k agar tum aisa kerna chahtey ho to ye show kerta hai k tum pyar nai kertey balke sirf sex kerna chahtey ho...agar wo ap se sacha pyar kerta hai to wo ap ko kabhi nai chorey ga....so plz ...tension na lo...aur be practical....us ki baton se na daro.... |
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