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coko jani |
Group: Members Joined: 19th Apr, 2007 Topic: 28 Post: 47 Age:
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| Posted on:9th Apr 2009, 3:49am |
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 Misperception About Fiancee - How To Overcome?
salam 2 every 1, mere sath ek problm hai wo yah k meri engajment ho chuki hai aur 3 months me meri shadi b hai. me aur meri fiance ka phone py contact hai last 1 year se. me yah dil se manta hon k wo ek shareef larki hai aur muje bohat piyar karti hai, bt jab kabi us ka mobile busy hota hai tw mery dil me ek ajeeb sa dar paida ho jata hai k wo kisi aur larky se bat kar rahi hai phone py.me us py bohat trust karta hoon bt jb phone busy hota hai even 2min k liye b tw pata nai muje kia ho jata hai plz help me, me aysa nai karna cahta hoon bt mujh se ho jata hai. ap log kindly muje batain me es be waja k shak ko kyse door karon? kindly reply. I have got misunderstanding about my fiancee.We got engaged and we use to talk on phone since three months. I know my fiancee is very nice and sincere with me however I got misunderstanding and misperceptions when I call her and finds his phone busy. I got wrong ideas that probabily she is talking with other one. Please help me to find out the solution.
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~~HITMAN~~ |
Group: Members Joined: 09th May, 2011 Topic: 122 Post: 4287 Age:
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| Posted on:9th Apr 2009, 4:40am |
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rE: coko Shak o waswasa amoman shaitaan hi insaan k zehen main daalta hai, aur agar shak ko na roka jaye tou wo barhtay barhtay extreme sorat ikhtiyaar karleta hai jis say agay jakar mushkilaat pesh ati hain,...shak se strees peda hota hai.....
jab bhi dil main shokok o shubaat/doubts peda hon tou ALLAH TALAH se rujuh karna chahiyai, dua kar k/zikar kar k........
1 Surat Al-Fatiḥah and Surat Al-Ikhlas and Al-Mu`awwidhatayin aur Ayat Al-Kursi parhain rozana....
2. Jab bhi shak zehen main aye usper yaken karne k bajaye rad kardain...
3. Ya hayyu ya qayyum ka vird regular basis per ........
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Doctor K K |
Group: Members Joined: 02nd Apr, 2009 Topic: 25 Post: 1969 Age:
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| Posted on:9th Apr 2009, 3:37pm |
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re: Misunderstanding About Fiancee Well dear you have to get rid of these ideas other wise your life specially marital life would become full of miseries.You should try by your self and get rid of negative thoughts and feeling. If stll your problelm will not be solved then you should discuss this problem with a Psychiatrist. |
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amahmood32 |
Group: Members Joined: 19th Feb, 2009 Topic: 2 Post: 33 Age:
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| Posted on:9th Apr 2009, 4:36pm |
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waswasy hi,
itifaq se meri bhi engagement ko 2 years hue he or meri bhi shadi 3 months me he, me ap ko advise deta hoo, ye sare waswase or suspicions shaytan ki taraf se hote hai, shaytan kabhi nahi chata ke husband or wife apas me ek doosre per trust kare, mene thore din phele kisi islamic book me ak baat pari thi, mujhe sahi se yaad nahi kai wo hadees thi ya kiya, us me likha tha ke jab larke or larki ki shadi hoti hai to shaytan us din buhat rota hai, kiyonke islam me shadi karlena ka matlab hai ka adha iman pura karlena (when a person marries he secures half of his faith), sometimes mere mind me bhi ese thoughts ate the even thought my fiance jo meri cousin he reads 5 times namaz and is very very simple and religious, ye sare khilayat shaytan ki taraf se hote he is liye ap in ko na socha kare or apne fiance per trust kare, warna is ki waja se apki or apki wife ki bhi married life mushkil hojaygi, hope you listen. |
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aliraza008 |
Group: Members Joined: 28th Jul, 2008 Topic: 25 Post: 444 Age:
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| Posted on:10th Apr 2009, 1:51am |
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Hello COKO AOA,hope you are fine and doing well yar ap k sath jo ho raha ha wo
almost hum pakistani boys may 90 % k sath ha is liya prayshan honay ki
zaroorat nahi ha asal may ya shak wali soch ana k us ka number busy ha
wo aj taylor pa ja rahi ha wo aj kisi friend k ghar ja rahi ha isi tara
ki sochay ati hein i 110% agree with you an to ya koi bimari ha or na
he ya koi waham ha even though ap 2ono ko i saal ho gaya ha astah may
myri khud engagment 1 saal rahi even may nay from the first day apni
finace say kha tha myray number k ilawa tum kisi ka phone pick nahi
karo gi her insan ki apni apni soch ha ho sakta ha is fourm pa khuch
loog muj say agree na karay lakin ma nay to saaf saaf keh diya tha or
phir check bi kiya tha ab sunnay wala ya bi khay ga k ALI RAZA shaki ha
lakin nahi.Khir wapis atay he ap k matter ki taraf daikho bahi simple
si batha aj kal hamri socity jis tarf ja rahi ha or media or phir ya
late night paskages in sub ko daikthay howay ya 1 natural si bat zehan
may atti ha k khi myri fiance bi to nahi.Ap daikho aj k door may acha
rishta milna dooray hazir may muskil tareen kamo may say 1 ha.kehnay ho
hamri abadi 16 cror ha lakin kitna lerkiya hein jo lakho may hein bori
ho rahi hein rishtay nahi hein koi larka ha to us k kisi say affair ha
agar affair nahi ha to nasha karta ha or agar nasha nahi kerta to
bayrozgar ha aj k door may sharif lerki milna buhat muskil ha ma ya
nahi kehta sub galat hein khuch to itna achi hein k un ki misal or
moqabal puri duniya may nahi jo 5 waqat ki namz or islamic parda kertai
hein hamaray pakistan may.lakin wo sirf 10% hein.ma apni misal daiyta
hoon ma jis jaga pa job kerta hoon from last 5 years say yaha taqreeban
30 girs is durtion may ayi or chali gayi phir new ayi wo chali gayi can
you belive un may say sirf 1 thi jis ki ma gurntee day sakta hoon wo
sharif ha baqi sub mobile pa sms or pick & drop boyfriend k sath to
aqal heeran reh jati ha k aj kal ki lerkiyo ko ho kiya gaya ha.
Khair myra apko ya amshwara ya k ap apni zindgi ka buhat bara faisla
laynay ja rahay hein first of all fiance say bat kaernay k haq may ma
1% bahi nahi hoon or is bat k khilaf hoon k fince say bat ki jaya
before marraige 2ndly ab aj jis moor pa hein to ma apko mana nahi karo
ga k ab karna chor day karay lakin kam ker day bcz shadi qarreb ha ya
keh ker k ma taryi may masrrof hoon.ap in 3 month may achi tara say jan
lo or jo dil may shak or waham atay hein in ko puri tara dil say nikal
ker shadi karna abi 3 month hein tumharay pas lerki k charter us k past
k baray may jitna ho sakay jan lo or ahtitat k sath ya na ho k usay
pata chal jaya k ap inquire ker rahay ho uski is tara problem ho sakti
ha.bara soch samj k dicion lyna ap nay sari zindgi guzarni ha us k sath
or sirf 1 saal may ki bato ki waja say koi galat faisla na lay lyna jis
tara ma nay liya or apni zindgi taba ker li ha.
Wish you all the best and advance HAPPY MARRAIGE.Myri dua ha or ma
kerta raho ga k ap ki fince is duniya ki sub say achi ourat ho or phir
1 achi biwi banay then ALLAH gives you a cute baby.Namaz 5 waqat para
karo ya speial advise ha
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aliraza008 |
Group: Members Joined: 28th Jul, 2008 Topic: 25 Post: 444 Age:
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| Posted on:10th Apr 2009, 1:51am |
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Hello COKO AOA,hope you are fine and doing well yar ap k sath jo ho raha ha wo
almost hum pakistani boys may 90 % k sath ha is liya prayshan honay ki
zaroorat nahi ha asal may ya shak wali soch ana k us ka number busy ha
wo aj taylor pa ja rahi ha wo aj kisi friend k ghar ja rahi ha isi tara
ki sochay ati hein i 110% agree with you an to ya koi bimari ha or na
he ya koi waham ha even though ap 2ono ko i saal ho gaya ha astah may
myri khud engagment 1 saal rahi even may nay from the first day apni
finace say kha tha myray number k ilawa tum kisi ka phone pick nahi
karo gi her insan ki apni apni soch ha ho sakta ha is fourm pa khuch
loog muj say agree na karay lakin ma nay to saaf saaf keh diya tha or
phir check bi kiya tha ab sunnay wala ya bi khay ga k ALI RAZA shaki ha
lakin nahi.Khir wapis atay he ap k matter ki taraf daikho bahi simple
si batha aj kal hamri socity jis tarf ja rahi ha or media or phir ya
late night paskages in sub ko daikthay howay ya 1 natural si bat zehan
may atti ha k khi myri fiance bi to nahi.Ap daikho aj k door may acha
rishta milna dooray hazir may muskil tareen kamo may say 1 ha.kehnay ho
hamri abadi 16 cror ha lakin kitna lerkiya hein jo lakho may hein bori
ho rahi hein rishtay nahi hein koi larka ha to us k kisi say affair ha
agar affair nahi ha to nasha karta ha or agar nasha nahi kerta to
bayrozgar ha aj k door may sharif lerki milna buhat muskil ha ma ya
nahi kehta sub galat hein khuch to itna achi hein k un ki misal or
moqabal puri duniya may nahi jo 5 waqat ki namz or islamic parda kertai
hein hamaray pakistan may.lakin wo sirf 10% hein.ma apni misal daiyta
hoon ma jis jaga pa job kerta hoon from last 5 years say yaha taqreeban
30 girs is durtion may ayi or chali gayi phir new ayi wo chali gayi can
you belive un may say sirf 1 thi jis ki ma gurntee day sakta hoon wo
sharif ha baqi sub mobile pa sms or pick & drop boyfriend k sath to
aqal heeran reh jati ha k aj kal ki lerkiyo ko ho kiya gaya ha.
Khair myra apko ya amshwara ya k ap apni zindgi ka buhat bara faisla
laynay ja rahay hein first of all fiance say bat kaernay k haq may ma
1% bahi nahi hoon or is bat k khilaf hoon k fince say bat ki jaya
before marraige 2ndly ab aj jis moor pa hein to ma apko mana nahi karo
ga k ab karna chor day karay lakin kam ker day bcz shadi qarreb ha ya
keh ker k ma taryi may masrrof hoon.ap in 3 month may achi tara say jan
lo or jo dil may shak or waham atay hein in ko puri tara dil say nikal
ker shadi karna abi 3 month hein tumharay pas lerki k charter us k past
k baray may jitna ho sakay jan lo or ahtitat k sath ya na ho k usay
pata chal jaya k ap inquire ker rahay ho uski is tara problem ho sakti
ha.bara soch samj k dicion lyna ap nay sari zindgi guzarni ha us k sath
or sirf 1 saal may ki bato ki waja say koi galat faisla na lay lyna jis
tara ma nay liya or apni zindgi taba ker li ha.
Wish you all the best and advance HAPPY MARRAIGE.Myri dua ha or ma
kerta raho ga k ap ki fince is duniya ki sub say achi ourat ho or phir
1 achi biwi banay then ALLAH gives you a cute baby.Namaz 5 waqat para
karo ya speial advise ha
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goodman |
Group: Members Joined: 11th Oct, 2007 Topic: 59 Post: 7344 Age:
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| Posted on:10th Apr 2009, 1:54am |
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Subhanullah uff Allah..................itni lambi post...........ma to read nahi ker sakta........leekhay Moosa paray Khuda............Subhan ullah.......... |
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aliraza008 |
Group: Members Joined: 28th Jul, 2008 Topic: 25 Post: 444 Age:
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| Posted on:10th Apr 2009, 1:59am |
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GOODMAN Its post for coko or jis ki problem hoti ha wo apni zarorat k liya chahey 10 pages ka answer ho read kerta ha.
Waisya mujhay khusd samjh nahi ayi itni kambi ho kis tara gayi ha
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aliraza008 |
Group: Members Joined: 28th Jul, 2008 Topic: 25 Post: 444 Age:
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| Posted on:10th Apr 2009, 1:59am |
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GOODMAN Its post for coko or jis ki problem hoti ha wo apni zarorat k liya chahey 10 pages ka answer ho read kerta ha.
Waisya mujhay khusd samjh nahi ayi itni kambi ho kis tara gayi ha
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Azfar-K |
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| Posted on:10th Apr 2009, 5:44am |
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rE: i agreee with you aliraza possesiveness sab main hoti hai! |
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zeb |
Group: Members Joined: 18th Aug, 2007 Topic: 114 Post: 13610 Age:
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| Posted on:11th Apr 2009, 5:38am |
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dea coco ap pareshan na ho jaya keryen
aj hi main ne apni email per bhi ek msg perha jis mein lesson yahi tha
k hamae sath din mein bht se aise wakiyat hotey hain jin ko hum bus dekhtey/suntay hi ek minute mein us ka result percieve kerne lag jatey hain
dekheyn ap ko agar apne pyar per bharosa hai aur ap ko yakeem hai k ap ki fiancee ap k stah khush hai aur us ki marzi se ap se mangni hui hai
to bus....ap re;lax raheyn...ye sub bateyn na socha keryen
aur 4KUL perhtey raha keryen daily |
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Dr R |
Group: Experts Joined: 01st Apr, 2009 Topic: 0 Post: 128 Age:
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| Posted on:17th Apr 2009, 12:43pm |
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 Suggestions
My advise is that if such a thing happens that the number of your fiancee is busy, try to divert your mind and thoughts to something else and try the following:
Change your place
Dont sit alone
Divert your attention
This is called Self Therapy and this will help you to achieve better results in the future as well, try to be as positive as possible and try to read the quran with transliteration
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zeb |
Group: Members Joined: 18th Aug, 2007 Topic: 114 Post: 13610 Age:
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| Posted on:18th Apr 2009, 3:49am |
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very gud very gud advised given by the Dr |
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meeza |
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| Posted on:19th Jul 2010, 4:03am |
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hmmmm shak karna chor do......... yeh shak zindgi ajeeran bana deti hai........... |
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learner125 |
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| Posted on:13th Jun 2012, 11:41pm |
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shak and shakespeare
Shakespeare k mutabiq apni bv ya mangaitar par shak karna duniya ma sab say ziada takleef deh amal hay is liye is say bachain
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learner125 |
Group: Members Joined: 13th Jun, 2012 Topic: 0 Post: 3 Age:
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| Posted on:13th Jun 2012, 11:44pm |
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sufaid balon kay sath bachay paida karna
please mara ap logo say aik sawal hay keh agar kisi shakhs k sar par sufaid baal nikal ayen aor us ki umar abhi jawani ki ho to kia wo bachay kar sakta hay? please do reply this................thnaks
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learner125 |
Group: Members Joined: 13th Jun, 2012 Topic: 0 Post: 3 Age:
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| Posted on:13th Jun 2012, 11:45pm |
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sufaid balon kay sath bachay paida karna
please mara ap logo say aik sawal hay keh agar kisi shakhs k sar par sufaid baal nikal ayen aor us ki umar abhi jawani ki ho to kia wo bachay kar sakta hay? please do reply this................thnaks
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fahad hussain khan |
Group: Members Joined: 26th Apr, 2012 Topic: 4 Post: 862 Age:
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| Posted on:14th Jun 2012, 5:32am |
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lerner han bilkul kiy nh kar sakata.galt fehmi hue hai ap ko sni sune bat p diyn nh diya kare |
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