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omerr |
Group: Members Joined: 07th Jul, 2007 Topic: 1 Post: 3 Age:
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| Posted on:7th Jul 2007, 5:26pm |
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 Masturbation: I Have Been Addicted
Aslam oalikom,
i have gone through many of the discussion pages, but couldnt find any problem like i m suffering.
I m 25, working,unmarried,doing masturbation for last 8 years or so, now i m addicted to it,
i cant sleep without it, some times i use to wait for hours, n not gettin sleep, n then i jack myself off to sleep,i m fed up of it,
i m going to b married in a year or so, i beleive that its gonna create problem for me n ma wife,
please help
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tsalam |
Group: Experts Joined: 07th Jul, 2007 Topic: 0 Post: 106 Age:
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| Posted on:7th Jul 2007, 6:23pm |
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Would you prefer masturbation over intercourse? If you believe so, then you should see a psychologist. If this is just your thinking, then I think you will give up this act once you get married.
I am guessing this has prevented you from going to another woman before marriage. If it so, at least you are saved from a grave sin. Read Quran and its meaning in your language. Hope this will give you some solace.
Once you are married, the first few months she may not get used to touching your private part, but once the hesitations are over, she may help you out. But again, please do not force her in doing anything against her will. Be just and passionate to your wife, who is going to offer you her life.
Wish you a happy life. |
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| Posted on:8th Jul 2007, 5:28am |
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 re: omerr
I agree with tsalam. follow his instruction.
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omerr |
Group: Members Joined: 07th Jul, 2007 Topic: 1 Post: 3 Age:
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| Posted on:8th Jul 2007, 2:10pm |
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well, i definitely prefer intercourse over it, but,
i dont want to do it to get a good sleep,i mean its pretty abnormal,
u dont jack off,u cant sleep(thats my case)
thats y i said i m addicted to it, would defininetly go for intercourse after marriage, but, as long as i m not married, i have to go through it? |
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tsalam |
Group: Experts Joined: 07th Jul, 2007 Topic: 0 Post: 106 Age:
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| Posted on:8th Jul 2007, 6:58pm |
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Dear Brother Omerr,
It is good to know that you are striving to check your "nafs". You may want to read the recommendations that is available in this website. See, you will grow old as everyone, so one should better not repent in future by continuing to do what his/her consciousness find unacceptable now. I think you are realizing this. Think of you as a future father of your children and a compassionate leader of your family. Seek good companions among your friends and good things in life. Try to avoid pornographic material to the best of your ability. It's a long journey, but with patience and perseverance you can win this fight.
Try to pray five times a day regularly and attend Juma' prayers every Friday. Read Quran as often as you can with its meaning.
Quran says, " Recite what is sent of the Book by inspiration to thee, and establish regular Prayer: for Prayer restrains from shameful and unjust deeds; and remembrance of Allah is the greatest (thing in life) without doubt. And Allah knows the (deeds) that ye do." [Surah Ankaboot: Ayah 45]
Please try to make positive changes in your life. You have no idea how much control you can gain over your Nafs. Be steadfast brother, and Allah will guide you. |
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khan_80 |
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| Posted on:9th Jul 2007, 8:11am |
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re: omerr Follow tsalam's advise.
Also, u can try this:
- read some interesting book before sleeping. It should be lengthy also, so u can leave it somewhere and continue it from there, next night (just to build the curosity)
- watch some good documentary or science fiction or horror movie(if u have strong nerves).
- u can chat with ur friends on internet till u get sleepy
- divert ur mind from sexual thoughts and think about the future life. Imagine that what u would do in certain situations and scenerios.
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omerr |
Group: Members Joined: 07th Jul, 2007 Topic: 1 Post: 3 Age:
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| Posted on:9th Jul 2007, 1:54pm |
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thank you very much khan_ 80 and tsalam, for all these sugestions and encouragements, some of them already have used, now i m going to do the same things once more, lets see if I overcome my problem and get the right path this time, thanks again |
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