 Kiss And Foreplay: In The Light Of Islam
In Human Sexual Behaviour, Foreplay is a set of intimate psychological and physical acts between two or more people meant to increase Pleasure & Sexual Arousal. It includes :
- Kissing (French Kiss)
- Embrassing & Hugging
- Touching
- Talking-Teasing etc
- Playing with Clothes
- Playing with Hairs
- Caressing Different Parts
- Stroking Arms & Legs
- Holding Hands
- Whispering in Ear
- Breathing
- Licking
- Biting
- Undressing oneself or partner
- Taking Bath Together
- Touching and massaging Erogenous Zones over clothing or without Clothing
- Rubbing together Erogenous Zones over clothing or withour Clothing
- Direct manipulation of Naked Erogenous Zones (For Women , Stimulation of the Nipples, Clitoris & Vulva ) & (For Men, Stimulation of Nipples , Penis , Scrotum)
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- Infact All Sexual Activity till before Sexual Intercourse .
Foreplay between the spouses before actually engaging into sexual intercourse is very important (especially for the Wife) and it should never be neglected. Foreplay can begin with Non-Physical behavior that signals sexual availability ….. Verbally, Foreplay may include Sexual compliments, Other Comments and Intimate Conversations. Non-Verbally, Foreplay can include Clothing , Gestures, Kissing or Licking or Biting , Standing inside a partner's Personal Space , and Holding a Gaze longer than is acceptable casually. It is very important in the light of Islam and Islam always emphasizes on it. Never treat your Wife as a Sex-Doll or Object for pleasure …… Because there is big differenece b/w Animals & Human-Beings : The Messenger of Allah (Allah bless him & give him peace) also stated: "Every game a person plays is futile except for archery, training one's horse and playing with one's wife (foreplay and kissing) ". (Sunan Tirmidhi, Musnad Ahmad, Sunan Ibn Majah). Imam al-Daylami (Allah have mercy on him) records a narration on the authority of Anas ibn Malik (Allah be pleased with him) that the Messenger of Allah (Allah bless him & give him peace) is reported to have said: "One of you should not fulfil one's (sexual) need from one's wife like an animal, rather there should be between them foreplay of kissing and words." (Musnad al-Firdaws Of al-Daylami, 2/55) Imam Ibn al-Qayyim (Allah have mercy on him) reports in his famous "Tibb al-Nabawi" that the Messenger of Allah (Allah bless him & give him peace) forbade from engaging in sexual intercourse before foreplay. (See: al-Tibb al-Nabawi, 183, from Jabir ibn Abd Allah) So it is abvious that how important a foreplay is before Sexual-Intercourse ….. Its a Sunnah of Rasool Sallallahoo Wasallum which also includes Kissing , Hugging , Bathing , etc. So Kissing wife is also of utmost importance during foreplay and also in general. Passionate kissing (or French kissing) is also the Sunnah of the Messenger of Allah (Allah bless him & give him peace). Sayyida A'isha (Allah be pleased with her) narrates that the Messenger of Allah (Allah bless him & give him peace) would kiss one of his wives and then leave for prayer (salat) without performing ablution (wudu). Urwa says that I asked A'isha: "It must have been you?" (Upon hearing this) A'isha (Allah be pleased with her) smiled."
(Sunan al-Tirmidhi, no. 86, Sunan Abu Dawud, no. 181 & Sunan al-Nasa'i, no. 170)) Sayyida A'isha (Allah be pleased with her) says: "The Messenger of Allah (Allah bless him & give him peace) would kiss me before leaving for prayers, and he would not perform an ablution."
(Sunan al-Darqutni, 1/49 and others) The above two narrations indicate the recommendation of kissing one's spouse. They also show the importance of greeting the wife when entering the house with a kiss and departing with a kiss . As it is also Sunnah so everyone should Kiss & Hugg his wife before leaving home or after entering home …. It's a great Sign of Love & Affection. Sayyida A'isha (Allah be pleased with her) narrates that the Messenger of Allah (Allah bless him & give him peace) would kiss her whilst he was fasting (m, refer to the fiqh of kissing during fast) and he would suck her tongue." (Sunan Abu Dawud, no. 2378) "Foreplay and passionate kissing before sexual intercourse is an emphatic Sunnah (sunnah muakkada), and it is disliked (makruh) to do otherwise." (Faidh al-Qadir, 5/115, See: Hadith no. 6536) From the above Islamic Refernces you people can realized how Impotant it is …. By saying it Sunnah of Rasool (S.A.W) ….. Indeed it's a free gift of Nature and every one should respect his wife's feeling before , during and after Sexual Intercourse …. Do longer Foreplay till your wife says it (verbally/nonverbally) I am ready for the Sexual Intercourse ….. Thats why the prophet forbade sexual intercouse without foreplay, to guarantee and to protect the sexual pleasures and rights of the wife in bed. Imam Ibn al-Qayyim (Allah have mercy on him) reports in his famous "Tibb al-Nabawi" that the Messenger of Allah (Allah bless him & give him peace) forbade from engaging in sexual intercourse before foreplay. (See: al-Tibb al-Nabawi, 183, from Jabir ibn Abd Allah) In conclusion , We can say that Foreplay & Kissing is the right of Wife or Duty of Husband and Sunnah of Hazrat Muhammad Mustafa (P.B.U.H) .... As we know Our Rasool (S.A.W ) spent the Simplest Life so how can be French Kiss is Luxury ....... Its not a Luxury its a Need ...... Thats all !
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