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RZAS |
Group: Members Joined: 01st Jul, 2008 Topic: 2 Post: 13 Age:
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| Posted on:2nd Jul 2008, 1:34am |
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 How to sustain erection?
I have been married for the past 8 months and did not hav the intercourse.....initially my wife had a severe fear for sex but when she overcome on it and also consulted a gynecologist...she is perfectly OK.....my problem is that I loose my erection quickly and can not hold for long thats why fails to penetrate.......fatigue may be the issue but after 8 months and having so many offdays when we used to sleep long and fresh for sex even though i fail to sustain erection and the stiffness.......plz help me!!!
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RZAS |
Group: Members Joined: 01st Jul, 2008 Topic: 2 Post: 13 Age:
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| Posted on:2nd Jul 2008, 3:44am |
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Plz Help me !!! Also to add that im 35yr and physically fit......i normally hav a perfect erection.....but during sex i start loosing the stiffness and unable to penetrate...i also hav a normal discharge.
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Szagham |
Group: Members Joined: 23rd Apr, 2008 Topic: 38 Post: 217 Age:
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| Posted on:2nd Jul 2008, 6:07am |
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Foreplay Dear Brother,
main aap ko yahi advise karun ga k aap Foreplay kiya karein aur jald bazi se kaam mat lein.Main shaadi shuda tu nahni lakin main ne Noor clinic ki books parhi hein.And i belive their strategy.Aap apney mind mein b set kiya karein k aaj aap ko intercourse karna hai.aur phir pehley gradually foreplay aur phir us k baad aap ahista ahista intercourse start karein.
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RZAS |
Group: Members Joined: 01st Jul, 2008 Topic: 2 Post: 13 Age:
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| Posted on:2nd Jul 2008, 7:41am |
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Nahin yaar...
Thanks brother,
but i dont think that this is the problem as v used to hav foreplay untill i get fully erected............but when i try to penetrate the stiffness start loosing quickly or i feel that the vagina is so tight (it should be for a virgin) but whnever i try to penetrate the penis slips in different direction but not inside the vagina as i uses vaseline for lubrication.
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Seemi |
Group: Members Joined: 11th Sep, 2007 Topic: 14 Post: 3829 Age:
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| Posted on:2nd Jul 2008, 8:10am |
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RSAZ bhai I must say, you are not doing good with your wife by using vaseline or any oil based liquid for lubrication.. I am afraid she would get viginal infection due to this and then you will run away from her because of smell coming due to her viginal infection.. Stop using such lubricants.... If you need any lubrication, always use water based lubricants.. It will be helpful for you without any harm.
Your question will be answered by other members and doctors.
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nikama |
Group: Members Joined: 15th Oct, 2007 Topic: 47 Post: 1808 Age:
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| Posted on:2nd Jul 2008, 12:43pm |
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 RSAZ sb....
yaar jee, I am laughing but dont mind me pls...
Its just nothing rong wd u & u dont need any advise..If u lose eraction then , dont try for a couple of days..I am not joking,..When u would fully frustrated , it would be done automatically.... No worries.I have seen so many boys like you & they get cured after a while doing nothing..Only believe one thing , dont force urself ,just stay calm for 2-3 days & let you get full strength then try .U will do that..smil now |
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RZAS |
Group: Members Joined: 01st Jul, 2008 Topic: 2 Post: 13 Age:
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| Posted on:3rd Jul 2008, 12:55am |
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Thanx!
Dear Seemi & Nikama,
Thanks for your kind advise..........i will try the same, but can anybody tell me as to why im loosing erection and wht are the reasons. |
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RZAS |
Group: Members Joined: 01st Jul, 2008 Topic: 2 Post: 13 Age:
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| Posted on:7th Jul 2008, 7:04am |
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 Still Need Help!!!!
yar i tried ths time with all the instruction suggested by you all...........sadly nothing worked.....had a very gud errection after foreplay but whn tried to penetrate it didnt (vagina is so tight) or im not having the right position then suddenly im loosing my stiffness............yar im loosing hope and wanted to consult a doctor for my chekup.....can anybody HELP ME???? |
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z4u |
Group: Members Joined: 23rd Mar, 2008 Topic: 13 Post: 201 Age:
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| Posted on:7th Jul 2008, 7:12am |
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yes yes insha allah i will help u. tell me
while doing forplay do u become full naked? |
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RZAS |
Group: Members Joined: 01st Jul, 2008 Topic: 2 Post: 13 Age:
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| Posted on:8th Jul 2008, 1:57am |
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Seemi Jee Help Me! Seemi jee i need help from you aswell.........as ur style of explaining things and ur seriousness is execptional......CAN U HELP ME PLZZZ????
yes v both get naked and have foreplay.....i easily get erected when i focuses on sex....but whn i try to peneterate i get exausted and start loosing erection and stifness. I never had sex in my life before.....my penis goes into the vagina but not all it stops at certain line where the inner of vagina starts and wch is the real tight area ..... my wife also resist mean that vaginal muscles might be stiff.....but i fingered it quite sometime to make it relaxed......and initially it was difficult to finger but nw after a little practice i can put two fingers in it but cant penetrate the penis.......
During this activity i get my penis real hard and erected but still not get fully penetrated .........tell me is it a problem related to me or my wife???
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z4u |
Group: Members Joined: 23rd Mar, 2008 Topic: 13 Post: 201 Age:
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| Posted on:8th Jul 2008, 2:02am |
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what is ur pennis size what is ur pennis size.......ur wife's vagina might be small and ur pennis big...and u like to full penitrate ....that why it cant penitrate.....? |
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RZAS |
Group: Members Joined: 01st Jul, 2008 Topic: 2 Post: 13 Age:
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| Posted on:8th Jul 2008, 4:58am |
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 Noooo!!!
thats not a problem as my size is 6 inches wch is normal |
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RZAS |
Group: Members Joined: 01st Jul, 2008 Topic: 2 Post: 13 Age:
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| Posted on:8th Jul 2008, 5:00am |
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 Seemi Jee whr r u???
Seemi jee whr r u???? i need u to be involved in my case...... |
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cialas |
Group: Members Joined: 10th Apr, 2008 Topic: 0 Post: 9 Age:
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| Posted on:8th Jul 2008, 8:20am |
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 use spray
use stud spray for erection only becoz its ur first time and u r nerves soo try this spray for 1sta nd last time iff u dont it in future its normal for u and u enjoy ur married life |
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System |
Group: Members Joined: 03rd Jun, 2008 Topic: 40 Post: 2267 Age:
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| Posted on:8th Jul 2008, 3:48pm |
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Bhai saheb Are Yaar i know what is going on with you. I think you are afraid more then your wife is. I am sorry to say but last 8 months you could not finish the job...
what you wanna to do is... before the sex finger the vagina and make it wet and then enter the Penis. If you loose then try to do it second time same day. and not to be afraid. Just think this is Halal for you and say Bismillah and ask help from allah. |
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rajmallik |
Group: Members Joined: 04th Jun, 2008 Topic: 23 Post: 750 Age:
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| Posted on:8th Jul 2008, 4:13pm |
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itna parashan ufff o ALLAh ka banda jaha finger jati hai wohi penis jata hai yar kamal hai itna parashan banda pahla nahi dekha hai parashan na ho koi tablet use kar lo timing ki bus i think its gud 4 u |
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Seemi |
Group: Members Joined: 11th Sep, 2007 Topic: 14 Post: 3829 Age:
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| Posted on:8th Jul 2008, 5:43pm |
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RZAS bhai Sorry, I didn't read this topic.. First of all, I would suggest you not to use any artificial things like sprays, tablets blah blah blah without consulting your doctor. Otherwise it will bring more trouble for you in near future. You can consult your doctor in this regard but try some natural methods to overcome your problem.
It seems, your wife is still afraid of sex, thats why you are not able to penetrate properly. Sab se pehlay tu un se khul ke is mozoo per baat cheet kijiye... Un ko samjhaiye k yeh sab itna bhi painful nahin hai jitna woh samajh rahi hein.. Yeh bohat khushi k baat hai meray liye k aap kabhi illegal sex mein involve nahin rahay or inshaALLAH aap ki wife bhi ap ki tarah masoom hoon gi. Bas un ko samjhanay ki zaroorat hai.. Yeh baat bhi hai k age k saath saath karkardagi mein kami aana shoro ho jati hai, ap ki age 35 hai, yeh sab masla age ki waja se bhi ho sakta hai.....
Is problem ka aik solution yeh hai k aap apni wife ka dar or khouf pehlay door kijiye.... Mian biwi mein koi sharam nahin hoti.. aap khul ke tafseel se baat kar saktay hien.. balkey ho sakay tu Noor Clinic ki web site per available book for women bhi un ko parhwaiye... Un ki pareshani or khouf bohat had tak door ho jaye ga.... Koshish kijiye k subah early morning mein intercourse kijiye.... Doctors hazraat ke mutabiq us waqt male eraction bohat ziada hoti hai.. Dosra kaam yeh karein ke intercourse ke liye different positions bhi try karein..... Is case mein aap female on top position se faida hasil kar saktay hien kyon ke is tarah fully penetration bhi ho gi or eraction bhi jaldi kam nahin ho gi.... (Its my guess,,,). Is ke liye aap ko apni wife ke fully cooperation ki zaroorat ho gi.. Because she needs to be control all activities. It might be caused of early discharge but ahista ahista woh masla bhi khatam ho jaye ga.... is ke ilawa aik totka or bhi mein ne kahin parha tha k intercourse se pehlay penis ko fresh tap water (nisbatan thanda paani) se kuch dair wash karnay se bhi erection kuch dair barqarar rehti hai... Aap pareshan ya frustrated honay ki bajaye different tareeqay follow kar ke dekhein.. inshaLALAH aap ka masla solve ho jaye ga..
Finally yehi kahoon gi ke koi bhi medicine doctor se poochay baghair use karnay se apna hi nuqsaan hota hai.. Sex aik natural amal hai, is ko natural hi rehnay dein tu theek rehta hai...
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Sami144 |
Group: Members Joined: 10th Jun, 2008 Topic: 13 Post: 546 Age:
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| Posted on:8th Jul 2008, 6:10pm |
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rzas sahib main seemi jee se agree hoon. es k allawa mera ek mashwara hay. kunke main b esi experience se guzar chuka hoon. lakan doranya 8 month nahi balkeh 3din tha.
agar aap BV ko penis dekhate hi rahen ge to os ka dar kabi door nahi ho ga. ek daffa kissi b tahah Pyar se ya zabrdasti Penis ko Vaginas main dakhil kar den. penitrate na karen. ho sake to apni BV ko itmad main le len. i think os ko man jana chahye.
mere sath b esa huwa tha. mere buhat der tak foreplay karne k bawjood meri Bv sex k ley tyar nahi hoti thi. jab main sex ki koshash karta to wo kanmpne lagti. wese muj se forepaly main mera mukamal sath deti thi. phir ek din os ne muj se kaha keh main chahe jitna b daron aap zabrdasti dakhil kar den. main razi ho gya. os ko kuch dard huwa. do din mubashrat nahi hue 3rd day wo forpaly main tyar ho gae.
aap yaqeen nahi karen ge pehlibar dakhil karne se main dakhil karne k foran baad Munzil ho gya tha. lakn baad main Allah ke fazal se meri timing controle main hay aur ham donon buhat happy hain.
Seemi aapi se mazeed mashwar le kar ye treeqa azma kar dekh len. |
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sweetie |
Group: Members Joined: 13th Jun, 2008 Topic: 11 Post: 509 Age:
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| Posted on:8th Jul 2008, 7:49pm |
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have a change main nikamma aor system se agree karti hon, bv se ziada ap ke zehen main ye cheez hai ke mushkil hogi ya bv ko dard hoga! is waja se penetration ki koshish main lose ho jata hai, change of envoirment is silsilay main helpful sabit hoti hai, ap apni wife ke sath kam az kam hafta bhar ka program banaain kisi purfiza muqam ka, sirf ghar main so so kar banda relax nahi ho pata hai.
aor jesay nikamma ne kaha, gap dain 2-3 days bilkul na karian aor pher karain magar zehen ko is cheez se azad karain ke I SHOULD and I CANT! relax hon kion ke Allah ne mard aor aorat ke azaa jis kam ke liay banaay hain us kaam ki salahiat bhi puri di hai, is liay ap compulsion samajh kar karnay ke bajaay apni zarurat aor talab ke mutabiq karain to sab theek ho jaay ga.
bat sirf ap ki zehni soch aor feeling ki hai, usay thora change karain gay to sab ho jaay ga. think that u are quite capable and she is your wife. |
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RZAS |
Group: Members Joined: 01st Jul, 2008 Topic: 2 Post: 13 Age:
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| Posted on:9th Jul 2008, 12:23am |
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Yar ye sab kar chuka hon!
Thanx to all of you specially Seemi jee.
Seemi jee your advice is really something and your style of explaining things is a great help......for your further understanding of my situation im giving u little more detail as below:
My wife is a doctor.....initially she was having a great fear......v had a honeymoon just after marriage and spent 15 days outstation....v had a wonderful time there but NO SEX as my wife was not willing bcuz of a fear......i gave her time to relax.....after returning home i started my routine life of leaving office early morning and coming back late evening......and v tried to hav sex many times but bcuz of fatigue and my wife unintentional resistance gave me a hard time and i started getting exausted......(wife resistance doest mean that she dont cooperate, it is just a reflex action that her thighs vagina muscles bcom stiff) after an advice from the gaenacologist.......my wife has overcom the fear and i can easily penetrate my two fingers but with force as i still think that vagina muscles are stiff and my wife didnt like this at all and whn i move my finger back n forth she can bear it for few minutes only and didnt enjoy (BUT SHE IS READY FOR SEX AS SHE WANTS TO GET PREGNANT).......now the situation is, we both are ready for sex but im not able to sustain errection.....i dn know why....i heared that once men can hav errection then it stays for atleast 15 min.........
Seemi jee i hope u understand that whtever you have suggested me i had applied it .....so its nothing new to me......i really dnt wanna use any external medication or spray that you also have denied to use. Me and my wife are cooperating each other but failing for sex:(
Plz pray for me.......and suggest me something that i havnt tried it yet.
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