Duties Of Husband: Do Not Go After Other Women

Aik aadmi ko pori koshish kerni chahiay ke wo aisi aurat talaash keray jo uss ke liay suitable ho.wo shaadi se pelhay e position ma hota hai ke wo pori care aur caution se apni partner select keray jis ke saath uss ne baki ki life spend kerni hai.uss ko shaadi ke bahd doseri auratoon ka khayal dil se nikal daina chahiay yaw o doseri auratoon ke peechay bhaghna chor day.uss ko apni wife ke ilawa kisi aur aurat ke baray ma nahi soochna chahiay.

Uss ko ye realize kerna chahiay ke ladki ne uss ke saath rahnay ke liay apni family chori hai  aur uss ke liay ab ye right nahi hai shaadi ke bahd ke apni childish desires ke peechay bhagay.uss ko efforts kerni chahiyain ke wo new family ko aik saath rakhay aur ghar ma uss ko friendly atmosphere create kerna chahiay.

Aik aadmi jo ke apni khushi ma interested ho wo shaadi ke bahd apni bachgaani thoughts ko chor daita hai aur aik new life adopt kerta hai. 

Ye aik married men ke liay senseless hai ke wo doseri women ke saath joke keray aur apni effection un ke liay express keray.aik aadmi ye pasand nahi keray ga ke us ski wife doseray men ke saath joke keray eshi tara aik aurat apnay husband se es qisum ka attitude na pasand kerti hai aur na bardasht karti hai.

Aik women jo ke apnay husband ko doseri women ke close dekhay tu wo jealous aur dishearted ho jati hai.wo apnay ghar aur family ma interest kho daiti hai.wo badla laity hai aisa hi action ker key a phir divorce lay laity hai.

Aik woman ne apnay husband ke baray ma court ma complain ki.uss ki shaadi ko 33 saal ho chukay thay aur uss ke according uss ke husband ko humesha se doseri auratoon ke peechay bhaghnay ki aadat thio.

"aik aurat ne cpurt ma bataya ke uss ka husband humesha us ski frinds ma interested hota tha.wo bolti hai ke wo apnai friends ko ghar ma es liay invite nahi karti thi because us ski friends ke according uss ka husband un ma interest laita hai aur woe s wajha se apni friends ke samnay sharminda hui.

 Ye aik married men ke liay proper nahi hai ke wo doseri auratoon ko aankh utha ker aura ankh bhar kar dekhay. Doseri aurat ko aankh bhar ker daikhnay aur un ki teruf aankh uthanay se mard ke dil ma apni family ke liay wo baat nahi rahti aur ulta nervousness, internal anxiety aur apni family ki teruf difference paeda hota hai.

ALLAH Quran ma batatay han ker: "believing men se kah do ke wo apni nighayain neechay rakhain aur apnay private parts ki hifazat kerain". (24:30).

Imam Sadiq (AS)farmatay han:"aik shahwat bhari nigha shatan ki teruf se phainka hua poisonous arrow hai aur aisi nigha sorrow aur grief ki wajha hoti hai".

Flirting psychiatrists ke according aik illness hai.aisi aankhain jo es sub ki aadi hoti han,kabhi bhi satisfy nahi hotien.es tara ka daikhna kaheen tara ki corruptions ki cause hai.jis se youth right path se deviate hoti hai.wo jis ko aankh nahi daikhti,dil bhi us ski desire nahi kerta.

Pelhay insaan bad nighahi ke grave consequences ko nazer andaaz kerta rahta hai laikin finally uss per khuwahish ghalib ah jati hai aur wo ghalut qaam kerta hai jis se uss ko kabi sakoon hasil nahi hota ya wo ghalut rah ki teruf chalta hi jaata hai yahan tak ke uss ke liay chorna mushkil ho jata hai,es se wo apni family ka sakoon bhi barbaad ker daita hai. 

"Imam Sadiq (R.A) farmatay han ke bohat zyada bud nazeri dil ma shahwat paeda kerti hai,aur ye dekhnay walay ko bhatkanay ke liay kafi hai".

Islam kuin ke bud nazeri ke consequences ko jaanta hai eshi liay es ko pori tara manna karta hai, 

Aik insaan jo achanak aik woman ko street ya kaheen bhi dekhta hai,aik dum kisi aur teruf dekhna shoru ker day ya phir eyes ko close ker day.uss ko women ko aankh bhar ker dekhna nahi chahiay ya woman ko ghoorna nahi chahiay.ye pelhay uss ke liay difficult ho ga laikin thori si practice se wo aisay ker sakta hai. 

Suajhedar log ye jaantay hank we ghalut nigha se wo khud ko bacha ker bohat se khaternaak cheezon se wo khud ko dour rakh saktay han jaisa ke murder, suicide, divorce, nervours breakdown,mental disorders, weakness of heart, anxiety, family rows etc.

Main jaanti hon un difficulties ko jo ke youth ko face kerni hoti han,mujhe ilm hai ke streets ma kaheen aur apni eyes ko ghalut cheezon se baachana koi itna ahsaan qaam nahi hai,laikin es sub ko ignore kernay ke ilwa koi aur rassta nahi hai. 

Aik aadmi jo ke apni eyes doseri women ke liay close rakhta hai khud ko bohat si corruptions se baacha sakta hai aur wo apni family ko enjoy ker sakta hai aur apnay mind ke peace ko.

Dear sir! Ager aap apni zindagi ma sakoon aur khushi chahtay han tu doseri women ka notice na lain.apni wife ke samnay doseri women ki tahreef ya un ka ziker mat kerain.ye mat bolain ke "kaash meri shaadi Miss…. Se ho jati;bohat sari achi opportunities ko miss ker diya…"etc etc. 

Aisi statements aap ki wife ko hurt ker sakti han aur wo aap ki aur family ki teruf cold ho jati hai,uss ma jazbaat khatum ho jatay han aur wo kabhi satify aur khush nahi hoti aur wo bhi aisa kernay ki koshish kerti hai ya eshi tara baat kerti hai.jis se aap ki life se khushiyan khatum ho jati han,kuin ke wo sirf aap se pyar karti hai auir ager aap honest aur sincere nah on aur aap per uss ka trust khatum ho jaye tu sari family ki life upset hoti hai.kisi aur aurat ko sir fuss ke waqti charm ke impress ho ker ya apni bud nazeri se apnay aur apni bivi ke relation ma la ker ya kisi aur aurat ko apnay pyar aur bivi per preference day ker ye mat soochain ke ghalti bivi ki haiya woe s tara behave karti hai kuin ke ghalti aap hi ki hoti hai.soochain aap per kya guzeray jab aap ki wife kisi aur mard ko aap ke aur apnay dermayan lay aye ya aap per kisi aur mard ko perefernce day???

wo men pitiful han,jo ke lust ke kuch moments ke liay,corrupt women ko chase kertay han aur apni pakiza wives ko chor daitay han, jaisay ke family love aur sincerity ko kabhi wo jaantay hi nah on.aisay mard animals ki tara han,jo ke sirf eating,sleeping aur lust pe concentrate kertay han.wo humanity aur affection se bohat dour hotay han. 

Aurat jab kisi mard se pyar keray ya apnay husband per trust keray aur uss se wafa keray aur mard kisi aur aurat ko uss per peraference day tu aurat es se bilkul satisfy nahi hoti aur wo disheart ho jati hai phir uss ko koi interest nahi rahta aur consequently jhaghray hotay han. 

Idhar main kuch aur baatain add kera chahti hon ke aurat ko jaisa ALLAH ne paeda kiya hai mard ko usshi tara ussay accept kerna chahiay aur jelousy aurat ki nature ma hai,aik aurat apnay husband aur pyar ke saath kisi doseri aurat ko bardasht nahi kar sakti.aurat ki zindagi se sakoon uth jata hai jab uss ka mard kisi aur aurat ko un dono ke dermayan lay aye lakin mar des sub mislay ki root cause nahi sumajhta balkay ulta aurat ko blame kerta hai ke aurat ka behavior aisay hai jab ke wife upset hoti hai es sub se.

Even  jab Hazrat Ayesha (R.A) dulhan bun ker ayien aur  Hazrat UM-e-Salma R.A ne un ko aik Payalay(cup) ma paka hua  ghosht baijha aik baachay ke haath ma tu Hazrat Ayesha R.A ko ghussa ah gaya ke unhoon ne un ko ghosht kuin baijha aur ghussay ma unhoon ne payalay ko zor se haath mara aur payala dour ja ker gir gaya aur too't gaya.Nabi(SAWW) bhi udhar mojood thay.Aap(SAWW) kuch na bolay aur baachay ko paisay diay ke jaon Um-e-Salma ko nayaa payalay khareed ker day do.

Eshi tara jab Hazrat Sooda (R.A) dulhan bun ker ayien tu Hazrat Ayesa (R.A) ne un ko aik dewaar ke hole se dekha aur un ko ghairat ah gayi ke kaheen ye un se zyada khoobsurat na lag rahi hon.Hazrat Ayesha (R.A) ne Hazrat Sooda R.A ko bola ke Sooda dajaal ah gaya.Hazrat Sooda bolien kea b ma kya keron.Hazrat Ayesha R.A ne farmaya ke udhar uss jhoonpari ma chup jayain.wo udhar gayien tu jalay se un ke kapray aur make up kheraab ho gay.Nabi SAWW tashreef laye aur fermaya ke Soodda idhar kya ker rahi ho.unhoon ne bola ke Ya Rasool ALLAH dajaal ah gaya.Aap (SAWW) ne farmay soda abhi dajaal nahi aye ga.

very well said:sooth

tasweer ka doosra rukh

bahoot acha jawabi mazmoon hai sooth ji aap ka . qabal azeeN aap duties of wife par qalam oTha chuki haiN. Allah aap ko iska ajar day.... bahoot achi kaawishaiN haiN... agar dunyaa k saray husbands n wives durust raastay par gaamzan hojayaiN to yeh dunya jannat ban jaye.... aur hamaiN apni apni hasiyat k motabiq iss simat maiN kaam kartay trahna chhaiyeh...

but... yeh aik western /secular concept hai k husband biwi k liyeh hai aur biwi shauhar k liyeh... dounoun ko aik doosray say wafaa daar rahna chahiyeh.... bah zaahir yeh aik khoobsooray salogan hai k jab biwi shauher k liyeh apna sab kuch choR kar os say "wafaadaar" rah sakti hai to shauher ko bhi "aisaa hi" karna chhaiyeh... islam maiN aisaa nahi hai

shadi k baad biwi sirf aur sirf husband k liyeh "waqf" hojati hai. ab biwi k parents bhi oskay liyeh "teesra darjah" ikhteyaar karletay hain... sab say pahlay husband, phir husband k parents/relatives etc aur last maiN biwi k apnay parents /relatives.... iss tarteeb par koi muslim khatoon 'naraaz' nah ho maiN iski wazahat aik hadees say karta houN

dauray resalat saw maiN aik sahab tijarat ki gharz say saffer par janay say qabal biwi ko ehteyaati tadabeer k taur par bolay .. jab tak maiN saffer say wapis nahi aataa tum ghar say bahar nah nikalnaa.... karna khoda ka yeh howa k shauher ki ghair maujoodgi maiN biwi k waalid ka inteqaal hogayaaa.. oskay maikay walay osay lenay aaye to biwi nay jaanay say yeh kah kar inkaar kardia k meray shauher nay apni ghair maujoodgi main bahar nikalnay say manaa kia thaa... sab nay samjhayaa k Theek hai oss nay aisaa kahaa hogaa magar oska yeh matlab bhi nah hogaa k aisee soporat main bhi tum ghar say bahar nah niklo.... magar woh Allah ki bandi nah maani... youn apnay baap ka aakhri martabah deedaar nah karsaki.

jab shauhar wapis aaya to biwi ossay dekh kar apnay ghum say phaT paRi... shauhar bhi hakka bakka hogayaa... biwi nay apnay shauher ki "shikayat" darbaaray resalat saw maiN ki k onki wajah say main apnay baap ka aakhri baar mouNh nah dekh saki

aap sochiyeh k aisay maIn hamaray piyaray Nabi saw nay husband ko kuch kahnay ki bajaye kia =farmayaa... aap saw nay oss khatoon say kahaa k tumhaari yeh adaa /qurbaani Allah ko etni pasan aayee k oss nay tumharay walid ko bakhsh dia... kia tum iss baat par khush nahi ho... khatoon nay apni "shikayat" wapis letay howay kahaa k maiN Allah ki razaa pay raazi houn (hadees ka mafhoom)

doori taraf shadi k baad "husband" saaray ka saraa biwi ka nai hojataa.... oski jannat oski apni maaN k qadmay talay hi rahti hai........ jabkay biwi ki jannat shauhar ki raza main posheedah hoti hai........ shauhar apni biwi k elawah apnay parents aur apnay bahan bhaiyyoun ki dekh bhaal ka bhi "zimmah.daar" hai...... biwi par aisee koi zimmah daari nahi k shadi k baad woh apnay parents /bahan bhaiyyoun ki dekh bhaal bhi karay......... mard apni wife, apnay parents, k elawah bhi apnay paRosiyouN, apnay daftari saathiyouN aur deger logouN k haqooq adaa karnay ka paband hota hai... biwi par aisee koi pabandi nahi...

yani shadi k baad aurat aik mard (shauher) ki ho kar rah sakti hai... jabkay mard k dil k kai Tokray hojatay hain... aik TokRa biwi ki taraf.... doosra apnay parents ki taraf... teesraa relatives aur deger logoun ki taraf........ youN oska waqt, oska piyaar, oski salahiyyat, oski daulat sab kuch taqseem hojati hai... aur biwi ko sirf shauher ka aik part hi milta hai....

shauher out door hota hai to oskaa wastah deger females say bhi hota hai... din raat ka wastah paRta hai... dealing hoti hai... woh in sab khawateen say yakser laa talluq bhi nahi hosaktaa... kuch relatives bhi hoti hain aur kuch doosri bhi.... agar bandah dil phaink nah bhi ho... oski nazar kharaab nah bhi ho... kissi par bori nazar nah bhi daalta ho tab bhi being a man woh inn khawateen ki taraf attract hota hai aur kuch khawateen bhi iski taraf attract hosakti hain....

ab mard k pass 2 option rahta hai... ya to biwi say chup kar.... maghribi /secular qawaneen say majboor hokar ... 2nd / 3rd marriage nah karay bus flirt karay... just grl frnd bana lay... aur aahistah aahistah gonaah ki daldal maiN phans jaye......... wazah rahay k aisee khawateen main sab bori bhi nahi hoteeN... kuch majbooran bhi apnay liyeh husband chaahti hain... khaah 2nd hand hi kiyoun nah milay............ yaa doosra option yeh hai k inn maiN say kisis say shadi karlay........ agar koi mard...w asaail rakhnay par aik do teen chaar shadiyaan karlay 9aur wohdil phaink nah ho aur islam par amal karnay wala bhi ho) to main yaqeen say kah sakt houn k 4 k baad jetni bhi khawateeen oski taraf lapkengi woh onki taarf kabhi bhi aankh otha kar nahi dekhega.... coz k woh already sair hochuka hoga dom oss par 4 wives ki etni zimmah daariyaaN par chuki hongeeN k onhain nibhaana bhi aik  ushkil kaam hoga............. wazah rahay k dunya main females ki tadaad males say bahoot zeyaddah hai........ lehaza yaa to 'zayaad-aurtaiN" married mardoun ki grl frnd ban kar rahai yaa doosri biwi ban kar yaa kanwari apnay deen o imaan ko harwaqt khatray maIn daalti howi pityaasi ki piyaasi rahain........ ab mujhay nahi maloom k "extra females" in teen maiN say kaunsaa option pasand karti haiN...... kia aap being a female iss par raushni daalna pasand karengi

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