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azra |
Group: Members Joined: 30th Jul, 2009 Topic: 2 Post: 16 Age:
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| Posted on:1st Aug 2009, 8:43am |
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 I Dont Love With My Husband: Tell Me What Should I Do
salam 2 all.mera ek bohot ajeeb masla hai.13.6.2008 ko mere shade hoi thi ab mere ek beta hai 5 mnth ka.magar jtna arsa main apny shohar k sath rahe mere dil main uss k liy piar nae jaga.wo mere paas ata to mujhe bohot uljhan hote.main jante hoon k wo mujh se bohot piar karta hai.yahaan tak k sex k waqat bhi mere jazbat hamisha sard he rahy.mujhe kuch feel he nahin hota.main bohot parishan hoon.shade say pehly main kisi say piar karte the tab sab kuch thek tha.matlab mere jazbat thek they.ab 7mnth se main apni ami k paas hoon or mera shohar pak main hai.plz aap loog mere madad karin.main kis tarhaan apni zidage guzaroon ge.plzzzzzzzzzzzz help me.
I got
married on 13th June 2008 and I have a baby girl as well. My problem
is that I have not been loving with my husband. I got tensed when he approached
me. I know he loves me a lot. Even at the time of sex I did not aroused and I don’t
get any feeling. Before marriage I have been in love with some body else and at that
time every thing was perfect and emotions were alright. Now since seven months I
am with my mother and my husband is in Pakistan. Please help me how would I
spend my whole life? |
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Komos |
Group: Members Joined: 15th Jun, 2009 Topic: 3 Post: 95 Age:
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| Posted on:1st Aug 2009, 9:07am |
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Allah per yaqeen Dear Sister
pls. appni zindagee ko appnay hatoon say tabah na karain shadi say pehlay jo tha wo app ka past tha or usay bhool kar appnay present ko enjoy karain app khoud is baat ka iqrar kar rehi hain k app k shour app say bahut piyar karta hi to app ko or kia chaheya Allah nay app ko oulad-e-narena b attah ki hai. sub kuch to hai to koun appnay gar ko kharab kar rahee hain bus aik baat yad rakain k Allah appnay banday k wastay jo karta hi wo behter hota hai. or Allah appnay banday say us ki maa say 70% ziyada mohbat karta hi. or maa appni oulad say kitni mohbat karti hi is k andaza to app ko zaroor ho ga is lie appnay shour ko Allah ki marzi sumjh ker accept karin or past ko boooooool jain humari dua hai k Allah app ko appnay geh main khoush rakahay. |
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sunny_1 |
Group: Members Joined: 13th Nov, 2008 Topic: 1 Post: 86 Age:
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| Posted on:1st Aug 2009, 9:21am |
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re:azra agreed with komos..! Dear,sub se phele tu aap koshis karen 5 waqt ki namz parhne ki then Quran majeed koshis karen ba tarjuma parhen aur Allah se Dua mangen k wo aap k dil men aapke hunbnd ki muhabbat jageye..! and apna marzi bholane ki koshis karen .. kiun k aap k dimag men abhee b wohi he jis ki waja se aap apne husband k sath sahi tarah taluqat peda nahee kar pa raheen...apna past bhool jaen bilkul yad hi na karen k koi tha .. jo ab he wohi he sab kuch..! just concentrate on him.. and forplay k waqt os ka sath den ..agr aap zinda lash bani rahengi tu aap ko kuch feel b nahee hoga.. aap ko medicine s ziada mentally sakon k zarorat he ..Allah se dua karen ..!InsaAllah sab thik hoga.. |
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Sammzali86 |
Group: Members Joined: 25th Jul, 2009 Topic: 4 Post: 122 Age:
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| Posted on:1st Aug 2009, 9:34am |
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Re: Azra Dear Kehtay hain,
Past is history
Future is a mystery
But Today is Present (Yani k Gift)
Past ki base pe apna aaj kharab karna kahan ki aqalmandi hai dear, aur future ki worries bhi socha beykaar hai. Lekin Khuda ne tumhain aik loving husband diya hai naa shukariii maat karo. If u'll take ur husband and his love for granted to baad main bohat pashtao gaye aap. Kitni ladies aysi hoti hain jo aysay loving husband k liye tarasti hai, jin k husbands unhain decieve kartay hain. Lekin ur hubby loves u. Yahan toh ulti ganga baha rahi ho aap.
Shadi sirf nikah manay pe sign karna nahi, uss rishtay ki responsibility samjho. Husband ka haq sirf aap ki body per he nahi, aap ki inner self, aap k dil aur rooh per bhi hai. So apnay dil main sirf apnay hubby ka pyar he zinda rakho.
Khuda se madad mango, wohi aap ko sambhalay ga aur sahi rasta deekhaye ga.
tc. |
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azra |
Group: Members Joined: 30th Jul, 2009 Topic: 2 Post: 16 Age:
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| Posted on:1st Aug 2009, 11:53pm |
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thanx shukria mery dil ka bojh thra halka howa hai.main apna past to bhool gai hoon magar mere feeling lagta hai khatam ho gai hain.shohar ko dekhte he gussa ajata hai.mujhe pta nahin kia ho gaia hai.dil karta hai khud ko khatam kar doon.magar jante hoon yeh bohot bara gunah hai.main 19 sal ke hoon pher bhe shohar k paas ane se mujhe kuch feel q nahin hota.main pagal ho jaoon ge.plzzzzzzzzzz help me plzzzz |
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Bewaqoof |
Group: Members Joined: 19th Sep, 2010 Topic: 249 Post: 4259 Age:
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| Posted on:1st Aug 2009, 1:54pm |
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re: frigidity aap ko sard mohri (frigidity) hai, ilaj ke liye kisi clinical psychologist ya psychiatrist se consult kare. read: jinsi sard mohri (frigidity) |
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koyal |
Group: Members Joined: 17th Dec, 2008 Topic: 0 Post: 500 Age:
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| Posted on:1st Aug 2009, 2:22pm |
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azra ap ye sochain ke jo insan apse itney paak bandhan main bandha hoa hay aur apse pyaar karta hay kya apka farz nahi banta ke usko utna hi pyaar karen, agar apko apne shauhar se uljhan hoti hay tu ap buhutbarey gunah k murattab ho rahi hain, aik aurat keliye uske shauhar ka darja buhut buland hota hay, hamare mazhab main bhi kaha gaya hay ke agar kisi insan ko sajda jaiz hota tu wo shauhar ko hota tu ap ye socho ke kya martaba hay shauhar ka aur wo bhi us shauhar ka jo apki tamam zarooriat ko poora karta ho apke bachey ka baap bhi ho.
Jo guzar gaya usko bhool jao, ap socho gi utna hi mushkil hoga, aurat ka dil buhut narm hota hay zara se pyaar se sarey zakhm bhar jatay hain lekin koshish karni zaroori hay. Akele main beth ke socha karo ke ap kya kar rahi ho, saraab ke pichey hakeeket ko tabah kar rahi ho. jo aka aaj aur anay wala kal hay usko kyun kharan kar rahi ho aap. zindigi agar pichey dekh ker guzaro gi tu thoker hilagey gi aur gir paro gi, hamesha agay dekh ker zindigi guzarni chahiye.
Aap apne shauhar ko pyaar karo, koshish karo jab bhi koi ghalat khayal aaye tu apne shauhar ki achi batain yaad karlo forun takay ghalat bat dimagh se nikal jaye, yaad rekho ke shaitan buhut bara dushman hay wo mian biwi ki nachakian dekh kar khush hota hay, Allah paak ne apko itna pyaara sathi diya hay uski kader karo aur apne shauhar aur Allah paak ko razi rekho, dekhna zindigi buhut khoobsurat hojaye gi. |
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azra |
Group: Members Joined: 30th Jul, 2009 Topic: 2 Post: 16 Age:
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| Posted on:1st Aug 2009, 5:00pm |
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salam
mr bewaqoof lagta hai ap mera mazaqurra rahy hain??? |
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mani ahmed |
Group: Members Joined: 01st Aug, 2009 Topic: 0 Post: 2 Age:
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| Posted on:1st Aug 2009, 8:20pm |
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yakeen and brain washing dear app abhi tk apni porani love story ko demagh se nahi nikal rahi... soo plz forget about your past and think ahead... wash you brain and keep faith on ALLAH..... |
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mubash |
Group: Members Joined: 06th Jun, 2009 Topic: 12 Post: 79 Age:
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| Posted on:1st Aug 2009, 8:40pm |
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re Azra salam
Azra ap ki bataen ajeeb haen , matlab shohar pyar karta hay magar jab wo kareeb ata hay tumhane acha nahin lagta ye kaisay hosakta hay , bewaqoof ne theek hay kaha hay ap kisi psychatric ko dekhao, , ya phir ap abhi mature nahin hoi thee aur ap ki shade hogai , phir ye hosakta hay shahor ne ap ka dil hi nahin jeeta pehlay pyaar abhi bhi kaheen demagh per sawar rahta hay ,, ap sirf or sirf 5 times pray per concentrate karo dil ko sakoon milay ga aur duaa karo ham bhi karte haen , , InshaAllah theek hojao gee,. ok. bye
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H/dr_Qasim |
Group: Members Joined: 10th Sep, 2010 Topic: 184 Post: 6346 Age:
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| Posted on:1st Aug 2009, 11:22pm |
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ap husband wife k releation ko sumji he ni any how ap husband wife ka jo rishta hy es k jo hukook or furayz hen ap en ki study kuro or past ko bhool jao jo k shayd ap ni bhooli ku k juwaani meh insaan huwaoo meh hota hy supnoo ki doniya meh
ap abi shadi shoda hen or ek acha insaan ap ko mila hy so ap apny es releation ko mokamal kurin or apni life meh khoshiyaa layin |
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azra |
Group: Members Joined: 30th Jul, 2009 Topic: 2 Post: 16 Age:
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| Posted on:2nd Aug 2009, 8:18am |
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salam main apny past ko bhool chuke hoon.mainny apny husband par kabhi yeh zaher kia k main un se nafrat karte hoon.q k mujhe shohar k hoquk ka pta hai.main unka dil nahin dukhana chahte.magar usske qurbat se mujhe uljhan hote hai.halnke uss main kisi chez ke kami nahin hai.isi waja se mera demag kharab ho raha hai. |
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H/dr_Qasim |
Group: Members Joined: 10th Sep, 2010 Topic: 184 Post: 6346 Age:
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| Posted on:2nd Aug 2009, 8:26am |
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salam oy dont think too much ap apny dili sukoon k leye durood pak pura kuro
numaz or apny Allah sy dohaa k wo ap k dil meh on k leye Qorbat pyda kur din
dohaa ek esaa amaal hy k jis meh 100% conection ALLAH sy hota hy numaz meh pher b khiyaal shiyaal ajaty hen pur dohaa meh kubi insaan ko dosra khiyaal ni ata so ap apny Allah sy dohaa kuro k wo ap ki help kurin esy bur k koi dosri treatment ap k leye ni
intercourse sy phaylly apny room ka mahool romantic bnaa leya krin apny room ko khosbooodaar bnaay or dono acha perfume use kuro khosbhoo sex k leye bot achi hy es k bot faydy hen
or apny husband sy ap dosti kuro
or past ki koi bat bhool k b kubi husband sy share ni kurna ok
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sunny_1 |
Group: Members Joined: 13th Nov, 2008 Topic: 1 Post: 86 Age:
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| Posted on:2nd Aug 2009, 1:52pm |
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Re: main kia karoon agreed with komos, sammzali, koyal, and dr_Qasim..! Dear,jesa Dr Qasim n kaha apne shohar s dosti karne k koshis karo aur past bholk jao, aur agr naee hora tu plz sub se phele tu aap koshis karen 5 waqt ki namz parhne ki then Quran majeed koshis karen ba tarjuma parhen aur Allah se Dua mangen k wo aap k dil men aapke hunbnd ki muhabbat jageye..! and apna marzi bholane ki koshis karen .. kiun k aap k dimag men abhee b wohi he jis ki waja se aap apne husband k sath sahi tarah taluqat peda nahee kar pa raheen...apna past bhool jaen bilkul yad hi na karen k koi tha .. jo ab he wohi he sab kuch..! just concentrate on him.. and forplay k waqt os ka sath den ..agr aap onka sath nahee dengi tu aap ko aur gusa ayga on per aur aap ko kuch feel b nahee hoga.. aur han aik kam karen jab aap ka husbnd aap s intercors k liye aay tu apni aankhen band karlen .. aur bhol jaen os shaksh ko k\jis s ap nafrat karti hen..feel karen aahista aahista jo wo karhe rahe hen..try kar ke dheken..aik din men tu nahee hoga aahista aap on ke qareeb hongi..! aap ko medicine s ziada mentally sakon k zarorat he ..Allah se dua karen ..!InsaAllah sab thik hoga..
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Komos |
Group: Members Joined: 15th Jun, 2009 Topic: 3 Post: 95 Age:
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| Posted on:3rd Aug 2009, 8:58am |
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try Dear Sister
app nay dehka k sub members nay app ko past bool janay ka mushwara dia app jeddah main rehti ho wahan say Makkah dooor to nahin hai app appni pehli fursat main Haram jain or Khan-e-Kaba kay darwaza kay samnay karay ho kar khoub ro ro kar Allah say appni bhalie ki dua mangain or yaqeen karain kay Allah behtair karay ga. Pls. do it kounk aaj kal jeddah main school off hain or app ko duty ka b fiqer nahin ho ga. |
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AshUK |
Group: Members Joined: 03rd Aug, 2009 Topic: 1 Post: 13 Age:
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| Posted on:3rd Aug 2009, 10:41am |
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Azra Maybe you should talk to your husband about your feelings?
Explain to him your past? If he truly loves you he will understand and this may kick-start love in your heart for him?
Failing that, how can you live with someone you do not love? This is not fair on him nor on you or your child.
He will eventually find sexual happiness and love elsewhere. Think about the consequences of this?! You should have though about this before you married him!
I am from the UK and fully agree with the arranged marriage idea. However I think a long engagement is necessary for the couple to truly understand each other before comitting to one another for life.
Good luck with what ever step you take. |
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azra |
Group: Members Joined: 30th Jul, 2009 Topic: 2 Post: 16 Age:
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| Posted on:3rd Aug 2009, 12:11pm |
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rep usse mere past ka pata hai magar mujh se kabhi kuch poocha nahin.bas itna kaha tha k ab tum mere bv ho.main tum se kuch nahin poochoon ga.jahan tak kamry ko romantik karny ke bat hai to mai to jeedah main hoon 7 mnth se or woh pakistan main hai.namaz bhi parte hoon or quraan bhi.app log mere liy dua karin.plzzzzzzzzz |
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Sammzali86 |
Group: Members Joined: 25th Jul, 2009 Topic: 4 Post: 122 Age:
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| Posted on:3rd Aug 2009, 2:00pm |
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Re: Azra Listen Girl,
everyone here is trying to help u out, no body is making fun. Agar kisi ne medical terms main iss baat ko explain kiya hai doesnt mean he's making fun. We r just trying to help u. May be u really need medical help.
Jo jo batain tum ne batayai hai, bazahir tumharau husband main koi problem nahi hai, problem tumharay ander hai, ya toh mental ya phir physical. And iss main insult feel karnay ki zarurat nahi, ye problems bhi human beings main he develop hoti hain.
Mera mashwara yeahi hai k try to develop friendship with ur hubby. Aur shadi k baad bhi agar miyaan biwi ko dur he rehna hai toh shadii ka matlab kiya hai? try to be where ur hubby is staying. And also take some counselling from a good doc or relationship expert.
Because yahan internet pe baithay baithay aap ko sirf advice mil sakti hai solution aap ko khud dhoondna hai. So take the advice, and dont waste time.
Baki try to take my message with an open mind. Otherwise u wont be able to understand the actual context.
Tc. |
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koyal |
Group: Members Joined: 17th Dec, 2008 Topic: 0 Post: 500 Age:
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| Posted on:3rd Aug 2009, 2:17pm |
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azra 7 months buhut hotay hain 3 mahiney se ziada wo bhi bagher majboori ke rehna sahi nahi hay, is tereh se mian biwi ke beech doorian paida ho sakti hain. Ape shauhar tu buhut achey insan hain jo apka past jantay howey apko pyar kartey hain aur koi ziker nahi kartey apko tu har waqt Allah paak ka shuker ada karna chahiye ke apko itna acha sathi mila, aisey insan ki ap jitni bhi kader karen wo kam hay, aap ye kyun nahi sochteen ke apke is rawayye se agar wo dil berdashta hogae aur koi aur rasta talash karlia tu apka kya hoga, kya aap berdasht kar pao gi tab, kya sirf tab apko ehsas hoga. Har biwi apne shauhar se be panah mohabbat karti hay lekin kehte hain na mohabbat ka asal ehsas tab hota hay jab mohabbat chin jaye ya chin janay ka ehsas ho, to aisa na ho ke apke sath aisa hojaye, pehle hosh main aajao.
Namaz parhney se kuch nahi hoga jab tak apkadil nahi razi apka shauhar nahi razi, ap apne shauhar ko khush nahi rekho gi tu Allah paak bhi apse khush nahi hoga.
Ap ziada se ziada apne husband ke kareeb rehne ki koshish karo, unko samajhney ki koshish karo, ye samjho ke dunya main bas ai wohi apkeapney hain, unse apni har prob discuss karo. InshAllah sab theek hoga lekin koshish karni zaroori hay |
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sunny_1 |
Group: Members Joined: 13th Nov, 2008 Topic: 1 Post: 86 Age:
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| Posted on:3rd Aug 2009, 2:51pm |
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RE:AZRA dear, aap ki bataon s lag raha he aap ko kuch samjh aai he... well i said i thing k ..Khuda ka shokar ada karen 1000ssss bar k Allah ne aap ko itna acha shohar dia... k wo sab jante hoye b aap ko apni bv manta he ..warna yahn tu aajkal shadi se phele hi shak o shobat shoro ho jataey hen..! aur aap donno k kia aladgi ho chuki he jo aap log aik dosre s dor rehtey ho..ya tu aap on ke pas chali jao ya onhe apne pas bolaoo..! plzzz read my last post ..dhehan se !sab bhol jaen phele kia hoa, samjhen mar gia wo apni yadon ko dafan kar den ye sochen aap ka beta bara ho kar kia kare ga os ki nigehdast per tawaja den apna zehen past s nikalen..!
we all pray for uu..! Inshallah Allah behter karega..!
again nice post sammzali..! tc Allah Hafiz |
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