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gulaab20 |
Group: Members Joined: 14th Apr, 2009 Topic: 1 Post: 2 Age:
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| Posted on:14th Apr 2009, 7:13pm |
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 Pre-marital Kiss (Boy Friend's Demand For Kiss)
hi everyone, I have a boyfriend who tells me that he loves me more than anything and will marry me in the future. He always ask me for a kiss and i say no him. I tell him to wait until we get married then he can kiss me and he says ok. few days he is insisting me that he wants to kiss me and i explained to him that i dont feel comfortable and that we should wait until we get married. He got really mad and told me that kissing is not a big thing he should be allowed to do it. I told him i dont feel comfortable doing this before marriage, and he told me he doesnt know anything he wants to kiss me and thats it. I havent let him kiss me and im really sad that he is not trying to understand my feelings. Becuase im a muslim girl and he is muslim too i thought he would understand me and respect me. but he thinks that becuase i am his girlfriend he should be allowed to kiss me and hug me. I feel like he always talks to me about kissing, which i dont lilke. meri baat uski samaj main nai aati. I am also afraid that once he kiss me he will always ask for it and maybe demand other things. please give me some advice on this. does anyone think that he is right. should i leave this guy becuase he doesnt understand me and my feelings, and becuase he is trying to pressurize me for something i dont want? I feel that if someone loves you truly he or she shouldnt care about these things too much. I am really confused guys, he makes me feel like its my fault and what he is doing is normal. please everyone post me some good advice. I appreciate it. shukria
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dom_man |
Group: Members Joined: 13th Mar, 2009 Topic: 75 Post: 1315 Age:
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| Posted on:14th Apr 2009, 7:24pm |
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gulaab ji well, it takes no leap of imagination to see that the guy is interested only in sex and stuff. once u let him sex u would wanna go further down or up for that matter.
u r muslim, and u r not supposed to have pre merital relation in the first place let alone kissing and hugging. if he is really good, than u should tell him to marry u as soon as possible. and tell him categorically that u wont let him do this untill u guys get married.
he is ur boyfriend not husband, so u r not supposed to obey untill he becomes ur husband. |
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simpleguy |
Group: Members Joined: 14th Apr, 2009 Topic: 3 Post: 60 Age:
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| Posted on:14th Apr 2009, 7:30pm |
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no kissing dont let him kiss you, boys like them just wanna flirt and have fun, after they have fulfilled their need they will never want to marry you. its not normal for a muslim girl to get kissed or even touch by a non mahram or boyfirend can you not see?!, good muslim boys dont behave like this, who knows how many other girls he is pulling? so avoid. |
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gulaab20 |
Group: Members Joined: 14th Apr, 2009 Topic: 1 Post: 2 Age:
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| Posted on:14th Apr 2009, 8:05pm |
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 thanks
thanks guys for the posts..thats wat i was thinking too that he seems to be very interested in sex..I have already told him NO..but he doesnt listen, he keeps asking me and is waiting until i say yes to him.
Can you guys please tell me some ways to tell him no, so that he understands it and doesnt feel that im trying to prove him bad.
I want to give him a chance and see if he understands me this time.
thanks alot |
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dom_man |
Group: Members Joined: 13th Mar, 2009 Topic: 75 Post: 1315 Age:
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| Posted on:14th Apr 2009, 8:12pm |
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gulaab, an easy solution gulaab, its the matter of ur imaan. so there is no compromise here. a woman can disobey even her husband in the matter of islam, and he is just a boyfriend who is not supposed to meet u in the first place.
Tell him that u like him as well, but i am not gonna do this kissing and stuff untill we get married,and u wanna save ur dignity before ur marriage. and tell him that islamically its wrong as well. be more firm and clear in ur stance.
Just use ur common sense. u know ur situation better. if he doesnt come around, leave him forever, such man can never be a sincere husband in the islamic way.
Best |
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simpleguy |
Group: Members Joined: 14th Apr, 2009 Topic: 3 Post: 60 Age:
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| Posted on:14th Apr 2009, 8:21pm |
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yes just consider the dom's advise & avoid any relationship before marriage, its not ok to have any contact before marriage, its a big big sin in islam. |
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myrizvi |
Group: Members Joined: 20th Apr, 2008 Topic: 112 Post: 6606 Age:
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| Posted on:14th Apr 2009, 10:19pm |
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boyfriendship yeh bazatay khud HARAM hai. agar shadi ka plan hai to parents ki maarfat sislila agay baRhaya jaye ya phir iss HARAM dosti ko khatam kardia jaye. woh kissing ki demand yaqeenan one-to-one molaqaat hi maiN karta hoga....... aik hadees ka mafhoom hai k jab 2 naa.mahram tanhaa miltay haiN to wahaaN teesra shaitaan hota hai........
1. naa.mahram say rawabit /dosti rakhna hi haraam hai
2. naa.mahram say tanhaa milnaa hi (agar kuch nah bhi kia jaye to) haraam hai
3. yeh dosti jouN jouN agay baRhegi... molaqataiN jaari rahengi... shaitan ko apna daa'o khelnay ka moqaah milta rahegaa.... aur Allah nah karay...
tab pach.taway kia howat jan chiRa chug jayega khait |
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System |
Group: Members Joined: 03rd Jun, 2008 Topic: 40 Post: 2267 Age:
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| Posted on:14th Apr 2009, 11:08pm |
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 GULAB
kiss will lead you to sex.. this is the first step to sex.. you should not think about giving him another chance.. this would be mistake from you... |
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aliraza008 |
Group: Members Joined: 28th Jul, 2008 Topic: 25 Post: 444 Age:
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| Posted on:15th Apr 2009, 12:43am |
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Gulaab 20 MASALLAH ap khud itna janti ha islamic point of view say or dunyivi lihaz say bi mujhay ap ki post per k buhat kahishi hoyi warna jo apki post ka titlte ha wo per k lagta tha mujhay k is lerki nay b khuch galat ker diya ha is forum pa aysi buhat lerkiya ati hein jo pehlay sub ker layti hein ir phir yaha per a ker soultion or toba ka tareeqa pochti ha i appricated you ap nay aysa khuch nahi kiya or ap is kam ko galat samjti hein.
You should leave that guy for some days and swich off your mobile with this statment i will never talk to you if you again force me for kiss or any thing else then see what he react if he truly love you then he will not demand anything Love is a relation of friendship,understandins,respect,trust, nor the kiss,intercourse,sexy chat,
i suggest you not to leave him for his one bad thing give him some break avoid talking to her.Bat 1 kiss say he start hoti ha phir ya kam shuru ho jata ha or phir janay kiy kiya hota ha abortion tak karwanny paraty hein or kal ko agar ap ki shadi hoti ha with same guy to ap ko ya na sunna paray k tum razi thi to ma nay kiss ki thi tumhara cahahertar to pahlay he theak nahi tha.or ALLAH na karay kiss ker k ap 2ono may say kisi ko khuch ho jaya zindgi ALLAH ki amant ha zindgi bar pashtawa rahay ga kiss kisi or say ki or aj biwi ksis or ki hoon sirf 1 kiss zindgi bar tang karay gi.AP lerkiya apnay apnay husband ki ammant to apni sharmagah apni izzat ki hifazat karo or usay bacha k rakho jaiya QURAN may ha "NAYAK ADDMIYO K LIYA NIYAK BIWYI HEIN" kahud naiyak bano INSALLAH ALLAH ka wada ha naiyk husband milay ga.ALLAH HAFIZ
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Pkman |
Group: Members Joined: 04th Apr, 2009 Topic: 0 Post: 49 Age:
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| Posted on:15th Apr 2009, 1:46am |
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re: Demand For Kissing Well sister I really got pleasure to read that you did not allow him for kissing. That means still we have sparks in new generation who may enlightened the whole society. Its really bad that boys and girls are not considering their moral, social and individual values. They dont obey the laws setted by God almighty. In this world and there after only those people will be succeded who can understand their own significance. |
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zeb |
Group: Members Joined: 18th Aug, 2007 Topic: 114 Post: 13610 Age:
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| Posted on:15th Apr 2009, 4:06am |
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very bad chahay wo koi bi demand kerye
ap us ko kiss keryen gi to haraam ho ga aur gunnah miley ga ap ko
pehli bat to ye hai k kisi bhi gahir larkay se milna islam mein allow nahi hai
ap ye sub ker hi rhi hain to ye sub bhi gunnah ka kam hain
is bat per ghaur kijiye plz |
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