We Have 15 Years Age Difference: Please Solve My Confusion

Asalamualikum dear members

First of all thnx alot for the brilliant website...

i am a girl who has a nice and happy family:)

and i am engaged

my engagment was arranged from my side and i said yes to his purposal but it was 100% deeply madly love from his side.

he loves me too much before engagement he used to send me love letters and i rejected them many times but after many purposals and ronha dhona i accepted his purposal. and mangni bhi hoi.... we have never been on date never met alone in simple words never touched each other so closely and waiting for our Shadi and shdi night. we talk on the telephone as he is living abroad.

after getting so much love from i don,t know y i am very confused and sad i don,t know wether i really love him or not and there is no one else in my life i mean an other boy to kisi sur larke ka koi chakar bhi nahin hai....... i cry for him when he cries and i always pray for him every time .....

he says he loves me too much and he can,t live without me and that i am the reason of his life,,, he says he will give me all the happiness of the world and never let me be sad..........he accepts what ever i say and respects me alot and he is well educated and decent boy everyone praises him we have 15 yrs age differnce between us AND MAYBE THATS THE MAIN REASON OF MY CONFUSSIONA per mein kehti ho ki nahin agar piyar ho to age doesn,t matter.

he is very positve and good boy loves to  follow islamic rules and traditions.

HE WOULD BE AN IDEAL HUSBAND OF ANY GIRL :) he is very romatic and Majnoo mein bhi woh pagalpan aur asheqi nahin hogi jo os mien hai..............per bhi i don,t know y iam so confused i don,t know y iam not 100% happy and aram.

someitmes i think that i have made a mistake by accepting th epuposal kiyonki mujhi abhi shadi wadhu ki chakar mein nahin pahsna cheye tha...... mein kia karo plzzzzzzzz help me koi aisa advice do jise mery dil ko skoon phnchi.......

aur yahi 2 or 3 maheno mien shadi hone wali hai bohut daar bhi lagta hai ki jo mujh se etna be entiha piyar karta hai kia karenga Shadi ki raat ko aur mein kaise Ek achi and 100% loving wife sabit hojao .....plzzzzzzzzzz give me a good advice plzzzzzzzzz experts and elserd and senior members plzzzzzzz it takes only few minutss to sit and reply me plzzzzzzzzz

i want to 100% happy as he is with me .....

i will be very thankfull

God bless u all

late night writting

i am writing this late at night therfore so many mistakes but khair u gys will understand so elders and all the experienced people plz do reply

sharmily

Re:-sharmily

SALLAM TO ALL FRIENDS

Waisai baat yahan age ki nahin balkai  pyaar ki hai. Agar app ko lagta hai kai app ko kar rahin hain teeq kar rahin hain. To app ko darnai ki zaroorat nahin.Lakin agar kisi baat ka apko dar hoo to aik dafa aram sai tandai dimagh sai sooch lain.Q kai yai aik aisa faisla hai kai jo zindagi ko khatam bi kar sakta hai aur zindagi ko bana bi sakta hai. Maira matlab shadi aik aisa faisla hai jo anai wali zindagi ko khushyon sai bar sakta hai aur agar khuda na karain is faislai sai app kai ghamon ko rasta mil gayee.

Kisi kai ronai donai sai pyaar nahin hota.Q kai pyaar wahi hota hai jo kai dono atraaf sai hota hai. Jo kai yaqsa mohabat raktai hain. Agar chai kisi kai dil main kam ho aur kisi kai dil main zyada to aisi bi zindagi mushkil sai guzarti hai. App nai sirf unki fiqar karkai itna bara faisla kar diya.Agar chai app ka yai faisla teeq na nikla to iski saza bi aphi ko milaigi.Aik dafa soochlain kai jo app kar rahi hai teeq hai rahin hain kai nahin ??

Ho sakta hai wo larka app ko shadi kai baad waisa pyaar na dai jaisa app dai raha hai. Aur yai sab kuch is liyai kar raha hoo kai kahi app shadi sai inkaar na kardain. Aisi khafi sari batain hain lakin shadi koyee mazaq nahin. Soochkar faisla keejiyai. Isi main app ki balayee hai.Aur kisi kai force karnai pai itna bara faisla karna aqal ki baat nahin. Q kai agar wo insaan hain to app bi hain. Aur ALLAH behtar janta hai har insaan kai dil ko. ALLAH apko sahi rah pai laijayee aur app ki paraishaniyan door kardai.AMEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEN

NOTE:-sorry if my words hurt anyone.

TAKE CARE

ALLAH HAFIZ

Sharmily

Sharmily ji, aap apne Mangetar ki taareefon k pul bandh kar pooch rahi ho keh kia karna chahiye, agar aap age differnce ki wajah se preshan ho to, it does not matter at all, suppose agar aap ki age 20 hai aor aap ke mangetar ki 35 or aap 18 ki ho aor woh 33 ka, beleive mein just after 2 or 3 years of marriage ya 1 - 2 bachon ki birth k baad aap ka age difference khatam ho jae ga. I mean keh koee judge bhi nahin kar sake ga keh aap ki age ka itna difference hai, waise bhi mere khiyal mein Larka aor Larki ke age difference kam az kam  5 - 10 years hona chahiye, kiyoonkeh Larki ko aor bante time nahin lagta, mera matlab hai keh Females naturally bahot jald dhal jati hein, Mardon ki nisbat. Khud ko bahot lucky samjho jis ko intna chahne wala husband mil raha hai jis mein sab khoobiyan hein jo ek loving person mein honi chahiye.

sharmily

1)yar tm jo b karo majar ho ga wahi jo Allah ne tmhari qismat me likh dia ha. tmhari confuse honay ya na honay se qismat badal ni gay gi.

2)agar namaz pharti ho to istkhara kr lo tm ko aik satisfaction mil gay gi.k tmhara decision right ha ya wrong. best option yehi ha

3)if he loves u so much to sari confusion chor kr shadi kr lo. is ko chor kr ho sakta ha kal tm koi bohat he loving insan chao to tm ko na milay.

age matter ni karti. Hazrat Mohammad(p.b.u.h) ki examples hamaray samnay ha Hazrat Khadija (razi Allah una) un se age me 15 years bari thi. or Hazrat Ayesha (r.A.u) un se age me bohat choti thi around 30.sori exact difference ni pata. so don t be confuse. zarori ni k tm ko apni age k itna loving husband mil gay. 

ab jawab data hu

sharmili je baat you ha k larko ma on ka naik hona bohat hi zarori ha q k agar wo naik ho ga yani wo Allah k ahkamat ki bi hifazat kare ga aur Hazrat Muhammad (SAWSAlam) k tareqo par bi amal kare ga.

is tarah wo aap ka haqook k bare ma bi aik accha insan ho ga. Ye oorat ke khush kismati hoti ha k ose aik naik shohar mil jae. Aagar aap ka shohar aik naik shaks ha to ye aap ki khushkismati ha warni nahi.

      Baqi age ki baat to ooper dosto na teek he kaha ha.

                             Wassalam

age does not matter

sharmili ji main aap ko advise deta hoon, k jo b aisi pareshani aap k saamne aa jati hai, pehle aap koshish kare k Allah aur us ka Rasool es k baare main kia paigham deta hai.

age deffirence k baare main aap ko bata doon k Hazrat Muhammad (SAW) ne 55 year ki umer main Hazrat Ayesha Siddiqa(RA) se shadi kar li thi jis waqt aap (RA) ki umer sirf 9 saal thi, (agar main ghalat hoon to plz members correct it) ab aap sochie k ye diference kitna hai?

agar aap ko apne husband se wo pyar milta hai jo ek aurat ko milna chahie to pir fikar ki koie baat nahi, aur agar age difference ki baat hai to yahi misal apne saamne rakh kar aap ko tasalli ho sakti hai.

Thnx dear members

thanx alot for ur advice yeah

larka to bohut neek hai infact he asked me many times if i am not happy with him then i can tell him directly, becoz he wants to see me happy......... but i don,t know y  iam so confused sometimes i think that i am crazy or maybe i just not worth his love...... sab kehti hai that he is a good boy no smoking no bad habbits and likes to follow islamic rules sunaat hadith etc.... and i like all that things ........... per bhi mujhi confusion hai actually mujhi pata hi nahin hai ki mein khosh bhi ho ya nahin :(

sharmily

agar sirf age difference ki waja se pareshan ho to pir ooper die gaie replies se aap ka problem sovle ho sakta hai agar aap follow karo to

agar koi aur waja hai, to plz aap expose kare ta k members aap ko satisfactry reply kar sake

regards

no other problems

hehe nahin koi aur chakar nahin hai tabhi to confuse ho ki yyyyyyy koi reason bhi nahin hai should i take contact with a doctor or not .....;).....

he is the first person in my life so no one else ;)

up2u

hai, thas is vry spl,u try to understand him........nothing more then.

Thnx

thnx alot honey yeah i will try to do it,

ay dil e nadan arzoo kia hai jostojo kia hai ???? ab to mujhi eshi sawal ka jawab dhondna hoga

thnx a tonn

sharmily

agar koie aur problem nahi hai to age difference b koi problem nahi hai, aur mere khayl se aap ne acha decision le lia hai, aur jab deciesion le lia hai, to pir peeche mur kar mat dekie, and u dont need to consult with a doctor.

enjoy.....

shramily

im agreed k jub kuch bilkul thik hai to difference ki koi problem nahi hai

its ok....ab confuse bilkul na hon aur shadi ki tayari keryen

InshaAllah wo ap ko khush rakheyn gay

AGED PARTNER R MORE CARING

DEAR  FRIEND

I TRY TO KNOW THE REASON OF YOUR PROBLEM BASICALLY YOUR DREAM BOY IS NOT 15 YEAR OLDER THAN YOU ,MAY BE IN YOUR DREAMS BOY IS YOUR AGE FELLOW  SO SUDDENLY HE COME AND YOUR HEART AND MIND NOT ACCEPTING IT .

BUT IF HE LOVE YOU AND HE HAVE A SUCH CHARACTERISTICS WHICH YOU DESCRIBE THEN I AM ASSURE YOU THAT SOON HE WILL BECOME YOUR DREAM MAN.

WHEN WILL LOVE AND CARE YOU ,YOU WILL FEEL THAT NOW YOU R COMPLETE.THEN THE PROBLEM WILL SOLVE YOU WILL START A TRUE LOVE FROM YOUR HEART .

USUALLY AGED MAN MORE CARE THEIR WIFE THEY MUCH VISION OF LIFE .

SO BEST WISHES FOR YOUR NEW LIFE DONT TAKE ANY TENSION

shirmily

shirmily

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wo ye k

mitti pao aur khushi khushi shadi kero

Boby 12

heheh thnx for the answer

waise meine es liye Tareef karti ho kiyon ki woh real mein etni ache aur careing hai, aj tak kuch bhi negative na deka aur na suna hai un ke barre mein, so i wish to be a good and honest wife........ and keep him happy and give him the same love the that he is giving me..........i hope InshAllah

THANKS ALOT DEAR MEMBERS FOR UR ADVICE I WILL TRY TO FOLLOW THEM AND TO BE HONEST I AM FEELING A LITTEL COMFORTABLE THAN BEFORE

GOD BLESS ALL OF U

shirmily